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Long Gone ( member #32587) posted at 4:58 AM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

Both WS and AP......

Cowards.......complete f'ing selfish cowards

Dday 11/2010

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mal2006 ( member #42296) posted at 5:27 AM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

OW#1: fat disgusting slut who had just graduated from high school 6 months prior (WH was 26 at the time) and got a job where WH works

OW#2: yet another fat disgusting slut, but married this time w/a 10 month old baby. She is 19 y/o and WH is 28 Didn't graduate from HS, joined the army and got kicked out for screwing someone in her company, then I guess found some other sucker to take care of her. Never actually worked until she also got a job at the place my WH works because her BH "is abusive" and she was "leaving him". She quit and decided to work things out with her BH once my WH told her he didn't want to talk to her anymore; guess having a job was too hard and since my WH wasn't going to take care of her she decided to go back to her own!

Me: BW 28
Him: WH 28
DDay: 1/17/14

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luvedmypbear ( member #25690) posted at 1:44 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

MOW#1 was a stay at home mother of 4 at age 30. She was D from her first H who cheated on her and her BH was D from his first W who cheated on him. She was the sister of my best friend at the time. Her H was serving in Iraq and my H had just gotten back from serving there. I guess they both showed us how stupid we were for remaining faithful during deployments.

I was nursing an eleven month old and eight months pregnant with our second.

She went back to school and became a nursing assistant after the A started and stated that my H had given her confidence to do it.

FWXH was an unemployed community college student at the time.

I was a PhD making a great living in school administration and providing a loving home for a lying cheating husband.

luvedmypbear didn’t care what you thought. She knew she was a badass.

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StorybookGirl42 ( member #42276) posted at 2:22 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

AP in my situation has had issues keeping a job. As long as I have known her she was:

-unemployed

-then homeless

-then in a homeless halfway house program that got her a job in a lawyer's office typing/filing

-kicked out of homeless halfway house program for not following rules and living in a spare room of her workplace on the good graces of her boss

-living with a coworker at the lawyer's office

-had a screaming fit with coworkers at work leading to her being kicked out of her roommate's place and also summarily fired

-homeless and jobless again

-phone rep for a cruise line (night work)

-now works for a major wireless provider but still homeless

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Churchill ( new member #30228) posted at 3:45 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

The OM was an electrical engineer, who at 35 still lived with his parents, has no responsibility.

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AppalachianGal ( member #31672) posted at 4:17 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

OW#1 was a 20-something college student (older than me at the time) studying accounting, sitting in a bar, waiting for someone to look her way. My fWH did. ONS at a hotel that she paid for. It never dawned on him that she could have done this before because afterward, she gave her number to him for a "relationship." Please. They were both too stupid to use protection.

OW#2 was an overweight, plain, separated ho-worker, 2 yrs younger than me that petted him, told him how wonderful he was and gave him things she thought I didn't. Even on her knees, she couldn't keep him. And for proof that the Karma bus does run --- She lost her job with my fWH! No clue what she does now.

[This message edited by AppalachianGal at 10:27 AM, March 16th (Sunday)]

BS (me) 45; WS, 48
M - 1990; 3 adult children
Burner phones, Multiple EAs/PAs, ONS, Backpage/Craigs List prostitutes were the final straw. Separated 03/20/17- Divorced 11/14/17

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strengthandhope ( member #37907) posted at 5:57 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

Mostly CL anonymous trolls for phone sex and pic sharing, men and women.

OW PA that I know of is seven years older and stay at home mom unhappy in her marriage. Instead of changing her situation she trolls for married men to gratify herself.

Me: BS 30s
Him: SAWH, 30s sexting, pic sharing & phone sex with men & women
2 kids, M 8 yrs
DD#1 3/08, DD#2 7/11, DD#3 10/12 DD#4 2/14
OW #1 PA from 6/13-8/13 CL Troll
OW #2 EA from 11/13-2/14 online/phone sex A
Taking R 90 days at a time.

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Smithereens ( new member #42800) posted at 6:30 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

A home health aide who also takes care of her MS-afflicted father as well as outside patients. Oh, and a skanky bitch.

Me - 50
Him (WS) - 50
Together 12/05/2006
I found out on 2/14/14. Happy Valentine's Day to me, right?
Stayed together and found out about multiple As on January 26, 2015.
Reconciled/remarried

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DragonBunker ( member #42551) posted at 7:16 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

Since breaking up I obviously discovered more. Always the way

OW1- under aged

OW2- friend of mine who looked like a little girl. Very skinny, shapeless, no chest to speak of, never wore makeup and loved puzzles and video games.

OW3- friend of mine, older woman, ons

Possible OW4- acquaintance of mine, similar age, loved pink and collected barbies. He says they never did anything, she says they didn't but her neighbours say they did.

OW5, 6, 7 and 8- online ea and photo exchanges, webcam sessions where they indulged his rather specific fantasies.

Never looking back with longing. Always looking forward with hope.

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badmedicine ( member #41692) posted at 9:18 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

A doctor.

Funny, I always worried about the nurses, too (sorry, nurses). WH refused to wear his wedding ring and it made me furious. Little did I know he couldn't wear it because he was *already* cheating.

"The wishbone will never replace the backbone." -Will Henry
"This wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it." -Dorothy Parker

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homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 9:23 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

OW is a widow because her first husband murdered her OM then killed himself.

She was a stay at home mom when she met my H.

Now she works at a bank.

Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55

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PippaPeach6 ( member #37523) posted at 9:49 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014

Plain, "no one I would have noticed," college-educated city employee.

Good church-going, married mom of 2

Whateva.

Us: 50ish, madhatters, married 20 odd yrs
TT: May 2009 'til June
DDay for both: June 17, 2009
Me: 2x, same person, 1991
Him: 1.5 year PA (EA?) 2007-2009
Reconciled

Honey Badger don't care. - Randall

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SpecialK ( member #42372) posted at 1:48 AM on Monday, March 17th, 2014

They are broken people who have lost their moral compass, with little or no self esteem or worth.

They live in fantasy worlds, are selfish, lacking integrity, in other words they are just like our cheating spouses. Hence the "attraction".

And miles to go......

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Christy516 ( member #42546) posted at 3:36 AM on Monday, March 17th, 2014

A nurse, two kids, recently sseparated (divorce became final during A) because her husband had an affair with their neighbor. Guess she felt justified passing that pain onto someone else?

Me: 45 Him: 40 M May 1998
1DS 23(mine) 1 DD 15 ours
DD: 7/26/13, 9/16/13, 11/15/13, 1/5/14 ( 4 DDays over 5 months same OW - EA/PA lasting 13 months)
R until 11/20/15-kissed a friend. 11/28/15 TT 1/3/16 TT & more. Reconciling

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TheBestMe ( member #39476) posted at 4:31 PM on Monday, March 17th, 2014

A selfish 50 something whore that was looking at WS as a paycheck.

Even behind my back with 12 years of trying, she is NOT the woman that I AM.

ME Doing Better
WH Trying As Best He Can
Married 24 years
Status: Working towards friendship
D Day #1 - 2007 My gut told me
D Day #2 - 2010 His D told me
D Day #3 - 1/11/2013 OW Confirmed
LTA 7 years

Both feet pointed forward; positive

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