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SecondHelping ( member #36796) posted at 12:19 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
AP#1: No idea. we moved before I found out.
AP#2: deputy police chief of some podunck town. High school grad who couldn't get accepted to state police
[This message edited by SecondHelping at 6:24 AM, September 9th (Monday)]
D-Day 1: Feb 1990
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/2 week PA)
BS 49, fWW 43 (Amibroken)
OP- Police Chief (Age 37)
M 25 Yrs, 3 Kids (17, 14, 11)
I initated the relationship at the Railway Tavern, she tried to end it at Scrap Tavern
noprincess ( member #38660) posted at 12:40 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
OW1 - Good Catholic girl. Lives at home with her mom - rich, spoiled brat. Was 20 year old college student when the A started (attended college with our oldest son!). Now, she's 24 and a physician's assistant but works at a tanning salon.
OW2 - escort
"Never, never, never give up." - Winston Churchill
Betrayed55 ( member #32289) posted at 1:02 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Married businesswoman, re-found family member
Tred ( member #34086) posted at 1:53 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Main AP was a married man who was pretty much supported by his wife - he was in the National Guard when they met. He was home all day so it was real convenient for their affair - neither one of them had to work. He was also a swinger with a few pieces on the side. There were about 6 others on Ashley Madison that I don't know much about - one worked at the Pentagon. I'm still a little pissed that I didn't out every one of them that she was involved with.
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
struggling16 ( member #33202) posted at 1:55 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
A 25 year old single mother with a history of substance abuse and lying who couldn't hold a steady job because working interfered with her partying.
I prefer to think of the AP in her own words, "I'm a taker, not a giver" or as my WH referred to her, "user-loser".
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PrincessPeach06 ( member #39588) posted at 1:59 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
First OW - grocery store asst manager
Second OW - nurse but lost her job due to prescription drug abuse and is a cashier now
Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013
Finally this is R 8/14/13
Filed for divorce 5/8/15
brokengrandma52 ( member #31705) posted at 2:08 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Dental hygienist, dysfunctional human being. Gave him an electric toothbrush as a gift. Could not figure out why that stupid toothbrush bothered me...he said he bought it at Sam's. It whet in the trash when I knew where It came from. She was all wrapped up living with her aging mother...her best friend.... Someone else's husband fit way better into her life then a SG. 
Me BS, in a better place then before,
Him FWS ex jackass, trying to be the best husband in the world
We are recovered.....almost!
Dday July 2010
Married 45 years at DD..50 years Aug 2013, now almost 53 years!
whatdoto ( member #28555) posted at 3:30 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
His first A was before he met me and that was with his brothers wife....ewww
Current A was co-worker - she's a glorified clerk. Divorced twice with a son who is a thief.
"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".
hopefullromantic ( member #16652) posted at 4:28 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
It's not really a fairy tale 'til the witch is deposed and a few dragons are slain
Reconciled
huRtZ413 ( member #39214) posted at 4:37 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
WH 's , ap was a engaged female marine now married what a lucky man that guy is
me_BW
him_WH
I'M ON THE FENCE
Dagny07 ( member #16928) posted at 4:42 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
OW#1: Pudgy coffee-shop waitress. "She sat on my lap & wiggled; what was I supposed to do, push her off?"
OW#2: Middle-aged skinny divorcee.
OW#3: Old crush from high school, failed actress who lives with Sugar Daddy in NYC. Her philosophy: "What's a fuck between friends?"
OW#4: Community Theater barracuda, targets married men. Will be buried in a Y-shaped coffin.
OW#5: Graphic artist/amateur (mediocre) community theatre "actress". Had a crush on XWH and targeted him. According to her BH (now ex-H), she said she would never pass up a chance at "True Love".
All of the above knew me.
Me:BW Him: FWH E/A
M: 30 years, together 37 : both guilty of PAs 20+ years ago
CDay#1 Oct 06 (false); DDay#2 Oct 07 (truth from OW's BH)
R: Tenaciously optimistic
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 4:43 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
the same guy she was having sex with when she was 12. he was 17.
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 5:01 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
She was a district manager for a major international retail company. She's been promoted since and does something in corporate.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
courageouscat ( member #34298) posted at 5:25 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Newly minted licensed professional counselor. When she and WH reconnected, (she was his college GF), she was in the process of starting an online counseling and coaching service specifically targeted toward women in transition (career change, divorce, empty nest, etc.) Her web site is up and running and she has opened an office in her town.
niaveone ( member #40317) posted at 5:32 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
MOW was a salesperson at a supply store WS had to frequent for work. His employer was her "account". One day she just gave WS her cell phone number "in case he needed anything off work hours" Guess he did.
WS is not the first and I *highly doubt* he is the last man she picked up at work. From what I'm told, she uses her job as a Gosh Darn dating service, since the industry she is in is extremely male oriented.
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married: 24 years
2 children
2 DDays
Reconciling
newlysingle ( member #38735) posted at 5:43 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
OW worked part-time in a clothing store catered to gay men. Yes, my STBX was shopping there. He has admitted to struggling with his sexuality, but now pretends like that conversation never took place. OW claimed to be part owner of the store and earn $250k per year on her FB page. My attorney friend did a little digging and discovered none of that was true. She was just a part-time, low wage earning skank. Delusional much?
BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13
notquiteoverit ( member #32919) posted at 5:52 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
She is a retail sales person who sells toilets and other bathroom fixtures.
Me - BS 50
Him - WS 49
SOW - 52 destitute loser
D-day 1/28/11
defyinggravity ( member #25552) posted at 5:54 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
MOW now Wifetress.
X's coworker in local Community Mental Health system.
Me-BS Him-WS
Married-35 years
3 adult children
DD1-1/08. EA. In (fake) MC. "Just friends."
DD2-1/09. PA. Same OW,13 years younger. His married coworker.
Divorced-1/25/11 They married 2/12.
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 6:02 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
Guess I'm a little different in that I shut my ears to any reference to OW. I know of her physical appearance (big as a house with large, poofy 80's hair and my age) from a photo, but since she's a trigger, I don't want to know anything. I also don't want her to be important enough to me to find out.
Nearly Exh did inform me that she wouldn't be a stranger if I would let her be introduced.
Waaa???? This I would want, why?
Oh...and he "says" there is only one... 
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Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
Arnold01 ( member #39751) posted at 6:39 PM on Monday, September 9th, 2013
MOW with four kids who are school aged and still at home. Highly educated from a premier university. Likely not the picture of the cheating wife, but there you go.
Me: BW. Together 27y, M 24y
D-Day 1: June 2013
D-Day 2: December 2024
Divorced May 2025
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