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IDeserveMore ( member #40460) posted at 4:36 AM on Thursday, October 3rd, 2013
This is such a wonderful post. I hope it gets bumped often. So many could use it.
It make me sad I didn't find this or a site like this sooner. I only found out about these sites a few years ago.
My second DDay was 9 years ago. But I put up with TT and withholding for 5 years and so much damage has been done that for the rest of my life I will wish I had married someone else. So sad, like my user name - I deserve more
[This message edited by IDeserveMore at 10:37 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)]
Me 54, WH 57, 25yo DD, 23yo DS. DD#1 1998 followed by 1 year of blatant denialDD#2 2004 followed by 6 YEARS OF TT. Do I win for the longest TT on this site? Divorced and so very happy!
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 9:43 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013
bump
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
Blackhair ( member #39451) posted at 9:55 AM on Saturday, October 12th, 2013
M: 10 years both late 40s.
3 Children
DDay: April 2013
Legally separated on Oct 2013.
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 3:04 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
Stronger4it ( member #39372) posted at 1:44 PM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Me BS 46
Him WS 48
Together 18 yrs
Daughter 9
DD Nov 13/12
Today ?
IndianDreams ( new member #40991) posted at 6:32 PM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
what is 'TT' please? I see it often but it's not in the abbreviations list 
Also, would it not be an idea to 'pin' this post or include the list in the library so members don't go dizzy bumping it 
It wasn't my fault; my bucket was broken
NC = no new hurts
Truly ( member #40715) posted at 10:13 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
TT means Trickle Truth...when the truth trickles out over a period of days, weeks, months and ,let's face it, years.
Wanted to bumpety bump this awesome thread for some new newbies.
Take care out there x
There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 4:38 AM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
ICECOLD ( new member #40258) posted at 3:59 AM on Sunday, November 24th, 2013
"If you think the grass is greener on the other side, it's because it's fertilized with bullshit."
"If you think the grass is greener, you're welcome to take a hike"
BS:47
WS:45
Kids
R: one foot in, and one foot out
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 11:59 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2013
bump
Jesss ( member #40333) posted at 1:12 AM on Wednesday, December 4th, 2013
THANK YOU for this. I feel like number 5 is truly what I needed to read, and will help me stay strong and know when my WH is truly remorseful.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:29 PM on Thursday, December 5th, 2013
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 10:26 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2013
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 6:49 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 4:41 AM on Friday, January 3rd, 2014
The 180 in a non-infidelity context (at least that the author knows): http://theweek.com/article/index/99512/he-said-he-was-leaving-she-ignored-him
Twitchy ( member #25393) posted at 8:16 PM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014
BH(me)-57, FWW-Past,D-Day #1 - Oct 2007 - On-Line EA leading to a failed rendez-vous. D-Day #2 - Nov 2008 - In person EA caught early.
Away you will go, sailing in a race among the ruins.If you plan to face tomorrow, do it soon. Gordon Li
BrooklynLove ( member #41800) posted at 3:30 AM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
I wish I had done this on my DDay 11/23/12. I ended up pregnant during HB and now have a 2 month old. Plus tonight while he was in the shower I tried the pass code that he gave me for his iPhone and it's not working. I can't even confront right now with no evidence. Sad, sad, and sad.
Will never be naive again...
BW - Me (29)
WH - Him my JH sweetheart (34)
Married - 8 years
2 babies - DD (4) and DD (1)
OW#1 - PA with classmate for 2 months
OW#2 - Some slut living oversees that needs a green card. EA & PA going on for ye
RealityStinks ( member #41457) posted at 4:14 PM on Thursday, January 30th, 2014
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 3:35 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
I'm a long way past D-day, and it took a long time to finally recover from the trauma of betrayal/infidelity …
And I still find that this 20/20 list is excellent advice for dealing with the chaos that follows D-day.
So … bumping for just-found-out newcomers to SI.
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
alifeforesaken ( member #41139) posted at 3:39 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
I don't believe I have ever seen this thread. I wish I had. I think there is some great advice in there that I am just now starting to realize, accept and implement. I'm not that far out so I'm hoping it's not too late for some of it.
BW (31)
WH (32)
Children (1yr) (1 due Mar '14)
DD#1 - 9/28/13 DD#2 11/24/13
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