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yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 6:55 PM on Wednesday, January 7th, 2015
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:01 PM on Saturday, January 10th, 2015
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 4:30 AM on Friday, January 23rd, 2015
bumping for new-to-SI folks
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 11:13 PM on Thursday, January 29th, 2015
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 2:57 AM on Monday, February 2nd, 2015
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
brkn_heartd ( member #30396) posted at 4:31 AM on Sunday, February 8th, 2015
Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
FearoftheUnknown ( member #46264) posted at 1:25 PM on Monday, February 9th, 2015
D-Day: December 2014
Want to be known as NOFear now!
OngoingProcess ( member #40635) posted at 6:36 PM on Monday, February 9th, 2015
My first DDay was over 6 years ago. I can't believe it was that long ago! Then I caught him 4 more times. He finally had an 'epiphany' after a year that I was the one he wanted to be with. Come to find out she had moved overseas with her husband and therefore he hadn't really ended it. if she hadn't moved, they would have continued on.
Anyway, things I wish I had done:
1. Hefty bagged his crap the first DDay
2. Hefty bagged his crap D-Days 2-5
3. Contacted her ex-husband. I couldn't find her current husband's name back then but did have her ex-husbands info after d-day 2. But my ex convince me he was nuts and would hurt her.
4. Found SI after first D-Day
5. Filed for divorce sooner
I really wish I had everyone's guidance back then. I was a doormat for almost 2 years. i wish I hadn't been.
Multiple DDays Oct '08 to Oct. '09
Same AP
Papers served 7/23/10
Divorced and Delighted 12/12/12
Futurefear ( member #43176) posted at 3:55 AM on Tuesday, February 10th, 2015
Bumping.
Wish I had seen this over a year ago.
Another thing I would add is once filing for divorce go for exclusive use of the marital home. Period.
me- BW him-cheater (2 during our marriage, still with dirty whore)
together 10 yrs, married 7.5
kids- 2 DD and 1 DS
DD#1-Jan 2014,#2-2/2014, #3-3/2014
Filed 4/2014, divorce final 5/2015
ItllGetBetter ( member #42776) posted at 4:01 AM on Tuesday, February 10th, 2015
Gotta work on this bitter-thing...
married 26 years, together 31,childhood sweethearts
2 kids, 18 + 20
divorce is happening - it can't not
june 5th,2015...divorced.
July 2018....time marches on I guess. Yes it does. Not a fan of this
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 9:35 PM on Tuesday, February 10th, 2015
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
ash79 ( member #45981) posted at 9:41 PM on Tuesday, February 10th, 2015
sad12008 ( member #18179) posted at 3:15 PM on Wednesday, February 11th, 2015
Bumping ~ 
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 4:50 AM on Saturday, February 28th, 2015
Dropping by to bump and wish everyone well.
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 9:52 PM on Thursday, April 2nd, 2015
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 5:52 PM on Saturday, April 4th, 2015
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 12:30 AM on Monday, April 13th, 2015
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
ShellGame ( member #47487) posted at 2:54 AM on Monday, April 13th, 2015
Thank you Katherine. Your courage was amazing and insight very helpful.
Me (BS):40
Her (STBXW):36
No kids thank god!
Preparing to file D
-It's not my lie to keep. It's her lie to live.
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 9:57 AM on Tuesday, April 14th, 2015
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 9:13 AM on Sunday, April 19th, 2015
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
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