Please forgive me for another anology.
I'm currently in AA and the thought of one day at a time comes to mind for why we BS consider staying with a spouse following an A.
We know our SO are sick, ill or at least morally flawed. They are addicted to the A -with all its highs like an Alcoholic craves booze.
The serial cheater is the worst Affair-oholic there is. They have to have the fix. Can't live without it and there is no one who can tell them they are sick, cause they won't think they have a problem.
We, the BS, try to hang onto what little trust and faith we have left to grant the A-oholic the benefit of "living Affair Free" for a least today and just perhaps, if we are lucky, maybe tomorrow too.
Although this thinking will get us by today, we have really sacraficed our ability to plan for a future,to live our dreams because everything has been reduced to today only...there is no future with somone who doesn't think that they have "done anything wrong" with their A-oholic behavior.
Great thread!
