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SerJR (original poster member #14993) posted at 2:18 AM on Thursday, September 4th, 2008
Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.
feeling_hurt ( member #20726) posted at 2:43 AM on Thursday, September 4th, 2008
Thank you for bumping this tonight. It did help reading it. I still have conflicts in myself - such as my other 180 posts tonight will show -- but I think I get the underlying concept. Putting it into practice is something totally different for me... But I'm trying.
Thanks.
bbee ( member #17840) posted at 5:52 AM on Thursday, September 11th, 2008
bump 
This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
UnbearablySadd ( member #18150) posted at 1:12 AM on Thursday, October 2nd, 2008
Such a fabulous understanding of the 180 - thank you for explaining it!
I clearly misunderstood it before - and couldn't do it: seemed cold and uncaring and yes, maipulative.
Can you explain more about the part in the typical 180 about not asking where they are, etc?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HGQd8M5t4Ao&NR=1
it's all about James Hunter, now ;)
And here's the 180 link:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=256092
tractorgirl ( member #21226) posted at 5:28 AM on Monday, October 13th, 2008
Thanks serjr for recommending this post to me. I think focusing on myself instead of what he did will help. What specific things did some of you folks out there do to 180? I want to build myself back up. For so long I focused on him, the kids, the house, I lost myself somewhat. I probably became a bit boring, but now that I have the time and willingness to be "selfish" I've lost my self confidence.
BS=me, late 30's
FWH=him, early 40's
Married 15 years
OW=19 yrs old
2 boys: 12 & 9, wonderful!!
Reconciling
Amberly744 ( member #20943) posted at 3:35 PM on Sunday, October 26th, 2008
Humble by history, sadden by memorials, grateful to friends.
HeavyE ( member #19333) posted at 8:13 PM on Monday, October 27th, 2008
Amberly744 ( member #20943) posted at 3:56 AM on Friday, November 14th, 2008
Humble by history, sadden by memorials, grateful to friends.
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 9:56 PM on Wednesday, November 19th, 2008
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
soldieron ( member #21466) posted at 7:56 PM on Thursday, November 20th, 2008
serJR i want you to know that i really count on your insight for understanding the 180. i read at least some part of this thread everyday. especially your interpretation of the 180.
c'mon...drop some science on me! 
when there's nothing left to burn
you have to set yourself on fire
hurtingstudent ( member #17432) posted at 3:18 PM on Sunday, November 23rd, 2008
Bump for our newest members.
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ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 4:11 PM on Wednesday, December 31st, 2008
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gettingthrutoday ( member #21365) posted at 7:49 PM on Saturday, January 3rd, 2009
Me BS 52
married 30 years
Ddays 10/20/08, 11/23/08, 3/09
Primary Love Language: Honesty
My top 5 needs: love, honesty, faithfulness, mutual respect, communication
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 4:47 PM on Thursday, January 8th, 2009
***bump***
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 8:19 PM on Thursday, January 8th, 2009
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 6:58 PM on Saturday, January 10th, 2009
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caribou ( member #21852) posted at 10:30 AM on Thursday, January 22nd, 2009
Me- BS 40 yrs
D-Day 29 Sept 08
"When dealing with a cake-eater you close the bakery" - Catwoman
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 10:03 PM on Wednesday, January 28th, 2009
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