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he'd either grow that hair back or take his shinny, skinny balls to a hotel.

Yep, I agree 100%.

hmmm... well, if it were me -I'd tell him that maybe it would be so much easier for him to shave if I removed them and attached them to the wall at eye level.

ETA - even if you do prefer to shave down there - I would certainly expect to be told about it at the time, not be surprised later

[This message edited by brokenpromise at 2:08 PM, January 8th (Saturday)]

There was a manscaping thread a few months back, a roll-call of BS's whose WS had begun shaving things mysteriously. I now consider it an extremely worrisome sign; posters came in legions to share their Spouse's manscaping habit.

I bought trimmers myself about 3 years ago trying to spice up our relationship. Swampy jokingly accused me of having an affair (unknown to me he'd been having one for a year already.) He got mighty interested in the trimmers after that and kept himself not shaven, but trimmed tight from chest to balls after that. And it wasn't for me. I could barely beg sex from him. He claimed he just liked how it felt when he ran; less chaffing.

Sick thing is my WH had me shaving his back and I didn't realize until later that it was so he could meet the OW at the beach

Wellll, I remember a time when I jokingly told him "why don't you go hairless" cuz he liked it when I did at his request. He told me f that, I'm not a fag. Hahaha guess she got him to change his mind on that one. If it's something that you talk about first or even if he had jumped into bed and shouted Look what I did!!, that would be cool. This was a major suprise to me and he acted kind of sheepish when I said WTF.

..holy shit..i can't even begin to think how one goes about shaving their scrotum.

..why even take the risk..lol

..one moment of broken concentration and ..whoops..instant vasectomy..

..i guess affairs make people do things that don't always make sense..duh!

..so..she'll suck your balls 'if' you'll remove all the hair first! well, let me think about this image!!

..nope..don't want to go there.

smy

Just throwing this out one there.

What age is your H?

I've been dating a guy for 5 months.

He's bics his head b/c his hairline backwards lol. He has a full goatee.

His chest fur is like 3 inches long.

His unit is bald.

When I fist saw this is was

When I asked him why he said that as he aged, (49) his penis started sprouting hair on the shaft. His prev Gf complained. So he bics all of it.

He told me the truth and I get it.

I dont like the Bozo the Clown look. BF is a redhead.

Hair all over the place but none there. Just doesnt look right.

I say just keep it trim and tidy.

A womans cleanliness there is much more complex. Hence the reason women prefer the shaved look.

Just saying.

Im no longer sleeping with BF while I try to cope with that.

I wont lie and tell him I like it. He shown it off repeatedly i DONT LIKE IT.

But he insists its more comfy.

Fair enough I say then it's all or nothing!!

He doesn't care that when I cuddle him I'm inhaling the chest rug. So he started getting my back.

He's so worried about my reaction to the hairy unit.

I've told him if its a prob i will tell him. He's changed nothing so we are on the way out.

Shaved balls out of the blue was one of my red flags that X was cheating...just saying...

Yeah that makes sense. MY WS red Flag was dressing nice and trimming his area.

Never trimmed it for me so WTF why all of a sudden he's worried about the length of his nether hair.

I understand that.

Damn. I think I just discovered a new trigger. This thread reminded me of a conversation WW and I had with OM and his BW about a year ago. About grooming in general. WW and OM's BW are major groomers, and always have been. I'm a vain motherfucker, but it never occurred to me shave any part of my body, other than my face (and this I do as infrequently as possible).

OM revealed he "kept the corn shucked," and, from that point, my WW began really pushing me to do it myself.

Just makes me wonder, had they begun the A at that point? Was she attracted to him and is that why she wanted me to do the same thing? Why the sudden interest from her.

One more question for me to add to the growing list of questions for WW.

my H started shaving during the A I think it was for the whore pig she liked it. He says he started because he goes comando(tmi) and the hair pulls. LIAR LIAR He never would admit to it. I hate it

BTW no trigs with Bozo my BF. I just dont get it.

Corn Shucking!!

I gotta tell him that one, mabye he'll get my feelings.

Thanks for that

FT shaved everything when the A started with Twat. Now he probably had permanent hair removal done.

gma

FWH started the whole man grooming obsession during the A as well.

He was pressuring me to do the same, while sitting in the hot tub, along with MOWfaux friend who was getting rather descriptive about her landing strip at that point. I really wish I would have known this was a sign of infidelity. It was a cruel thing for them to have this conversation in front of me and I think she was literally getting off by flaunting this in front of me and making fun of my ignorance. It was a bizarre power play and she was just as interested in my grooming habits as she was creating verbal play by plays about her own. I think FWH was turned on by the risk. I just didn't know that this wasn't an info. session. They were getting off by seeing just how far they could push the risk level in my presence. Of course....I didn't have a clue.

I can completely understand why sudden or unrequested nether-grooming would worry any spouse.

It's a big trigger for me.

And unless it's something the two of you discussed and decided to do to as an enhancement to your sex life...I would be worried. I think if it upsets you, he should be quick to stop, just to help you heal. It's not like he'll contract some tropical genital fungus if he stops.

Needless to say....the man scape here has returned to normal per my request. It was the very LEAST he could do.

He says he started because he goes commando(tmi) and the hair pulls

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OMG!!! My H occasionally goes commando so when he told me he kept it all trimmed down there to keep from pulling the hair when he was getting his junk out to piss I believed him! Guess now I know why sometimes he lets it get hairy as hell (he knows I don't care either way) and sometimes he all but shaves it bald.

OMG!! How can I be so naive!! I noticed this a few years ago... mentioned it and got the 'trying something new' line.... SMH!! more like trying someONE new!!! In over 14 YEARS he had never done that.. and I did not suspect a thing....at that time.... ohhh boy!!! NOW it makes sense and ties right in to the timeline.... Hindsight is indeed 20/20...

lucky me, his shaved balls were for me, apparenty i got hair caught in my teeth and he wanted to make it easier... what a guy

(note, unrequested, and unaware, I got to clean up the loose hairs that hit the floor and countertop - thats how i found out.)

[This message edited by IntuitionKnows at 8:52 PM, January 8th (Saturday)]

Hahahaha! This thread is so funny! My husband also started shaving his balls while Gavin an affair bit was one of the reasons I suspected him of having had sex with her when he was TTing me that he had only kissed. We actually talked about it the other day because it kinda triggers me. I have acually seen a picture of ow that she sent him of her shaved genitals. I asked him why he still does it because I never would have thought of such a thing. He says he likes it because it feels cleaner.

My bullshit meter would be pegged.

stbxwh convinced me to 'go brazilian' after starting his ongoing A with OW. It's no longer part of my grooming procedure.