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Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 6:23 PM on Tuesday, July 10th, 2012
As a BS, to me it does not matter "where" my wife had sex, it is simply that she chose "to" have sex with someone other than her husband...
For my XH, this aspect of the "where" of the A was a huge part of the issue. In fact, as I came to find out just a few months ago, it was the dealbreaker that lead to divorce rather than an attempt at R.
I did not have sex with the AP in the marital bed. But I did have sex with the AP elsewhere in the marital home. NOT having sex in the bed was an attempt at compartmentalizing the affair from my marriage. It never would have crossed my mind to consider doing so.
I do not know if my XH believed me when I told him that it was not in our bed. Just the fact that it was in our (his) house was enough. Much worse, for him, than if it had never happened there.
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Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
D-day 2010
YoungMistakes83 (original poster member #35869) posted at 7:09 PM on Tuesday, July 10th, 2012
The bed we had at the time is long gone. My A was 10 years ago and we have moved twice.
I can never leave the past behind
I can see no way, I can see no way
I'm always dragging that horse around. (Florence and the Machine Shake it out)
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