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So many waywards on here didn't use protection, it really drives the point home that the A was in a complete fantasy world for them

He never brought protection, but if the OW happened to have one and SHE slipped it on, then he would use it. Never mind the fact that mutual oral was the MO for him, so while the OW's were protected from his germs, he was not protected from theirs at all. This would probably by why he gave me Herpes and didn't even think anything about it.

Oh Hell no..of course not. Because giving a stranger from CL a BJ(to completion) is perfectly safe..didn't you know that?? Oh..and so what if he came home and kissed me with that mouth..and had sex with me for HOURS(as per our usual Saturday night routine)the very next night.

It's ok...no need to freak out..jeeessshhhh..

(Please not that this entire post is dripping in sarcasm)

No he didn't. Cause he has a vasectomy and that makes it safe! Barf! She was a MOW what was the risk right? Boy was he suprised when I told him about the other dude she was sleeping with at the same time...not her BH either. As for OW2..no either. Quickies is what they had..dropped her panties and bent on over...she soeant sound like a risk does she?

They started out using condoms, but I have no idea how long that lasted--not long, I'm sure. He could just tell that she was ok. Sigh.

2 women - what protection could they possibly need?

W tested positive for HPV in her last 2 annual tests. We were monogamous for 44 years before the A. HPV has in fact put a damper on our activity....

My fWW still claims they always used protection. The STD she gave me indicates otherwise.

My WW claimed protection at first, then admitted to one incident without protection, then finally admitted a couple of weeks ago that unprotected sex was the norm.

Illicit affairs and good sense do not go hand-in-hand. It's the ultimate in selfish behavior. The truth is, I didn't matter when she was in that mode.

Why ruin a fantasy with reality?

This pretty much sums it up.

MrKOKO told me that they used protection in the beginning. He said that they used the ones provided in the hotel the first time when "it just happened." He swears that they always used protection while he was still with me before our separation. They stopped using it only after we separated. I still don't totally believe that.

No and Yes. My WH said he used condoms ( the wonderful Japanese type that feel like nothing and where he took me to the sex shop where he bought them, no regular condoms for him, nope). Just ranting. But no didn't use for oral sex and they were prostitutes. Had him get tested for everything.

No. His OW wasn't "that kind of woman"

Nope. And it didn't cross his mind about pregnancy and disease until after. Brilliant!!

No...wh doesn't like condoms. The other bs told me well my wife said they started out using condoms I told him that I was 100% sure that was crap and when I asked wh about it he confirmed that no condoms were ever used.

My favorite quote from wh still to this day came when I pointed out that there is a good chance mow was sleeping with om 2 at the same time as wh...his response was a completely serious "she wouldn't do that to me! She promised to tell me if they started sleeping together." WHAT??! Why don't you ask her husband what she's capable of doing...she promised him in her wedding vows she wouldn't sleep with anyone else EVER how'd that work out for her bs??? Dumb @ss

[This message edited by Angel177 at 12:08 PM, May 24th (Friday)]

Yes, I did ask; they did not use protection , nor were they drunk and it was planned....every time.

I asked. Nope he didn't- and he was SOBER. And yup, he brought me an STI.

He said they used protection every time they had intercourse. Not during oral.

I don't believe that statement at all. I got tested 2 weeks after I found out. I made him get tested also.

No. His OW wasn't "that kind of woman

Ya... why would you need condoms when you were sleeping with your "fiance"

I had a full screening, and apparently so did she not long ago, so at least that didn't happen.

Nope. I was terrified after my STD tests until I heard the results. He met the AP on Ashley Madison, so that speaks to her character (and his). I was very, very lucky. As it was, I had yeast infections while he was having sex with both of us, and I was convinced that I had Type II diabetes or something equally bad that had compromised my immune system. The last thing that I would have considered was that my spouse of 13 years was sleeping with another woman and, on top of that, not using a condom.

I asked him twice. The first time he told me that he always did...the second time he told me that they didn't the first time, it wasn't planned.

He used them for birth control mostly because he did not want to get her pregnant. I had also found he had been searching "vasecotmy" on the internet towards the end of the A. He would have only needed it for her since I had a partial hysterectomy about 10 years ago!

Literally the FIRST question I asked when he admitted to a physical affair was "Did you use a condom?"

The answer.."No." But he did say that her tubes were tied. Yeah...a baby is the only possible consequence of unprotected sex. Idiot.

But my *special* fella has also said that condoms are "for other people" and that he won't ever use them because they aren't for him.

I'm just happy that when he catches something that makes him feel like he's peeing acid (or much worse), it will have absolutely no significance in my life!

Does it really even matter?

Yeah, it matters, for logistics. We are almost 6 years out, and FWH is still paying for his decision to not use condoms (OW told me "I don't like the way they feel inside my body!", I have never wanted to vomit so badly).

FWH now has an OC he never sees for his decision NOT to use protection, so yes, I would say it matters a lot.