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Not as far as I know they never did. After DDay#1 when he was underground with the A still he got a text that said she needed to talk to him about something. My first response was "I hope the hell she is pregnant with triplets and you spend the rest of your miserable life wiping shit off the little bastard's asses." All of our kids are grown. I sure wished God would have answered my prayers on that one!!! It would have served them both right. Sorry, BS's dealing with OC. But no, he said she had cancer (not). I got tested after DDay#2 for STD's. All negative so far.

Nope. A normally intelligent man hooked up with at least five different women without protection. The last gem was juggling several men at once; he knew it and didn't care. He referred to her as his "plaything" not girlfriend. He continued to have unprotected sex with her after he knew he gave me HPV and that I had abnormal cells that could turn cancerous because of it. He didn't care enough about me to stop having sex with her after I took him back. That's one of the things that hurts the most.

There are STDs that can be contracted even if protection is used, herpes and HPV for example. I feel extremely fortunate that he did not bring home HIV. Most of his hookups were with random drunk desperate women at the bar's closing time who would go to a hotel with anyone. I'm quite sure he was not anyone's first hookup, including his married howorker.

The claim is that they did, but the lies are spewing forth so much it's just white noise. So I get me tested and so far nothing.

I wonder about DD and have to learn about possibly transferring it to a child?

And they test the baby.

Perv was quite shocked when I had to bring it to his "attention", simply shocked it should even considered for his highness.

And he tried to say she was tested and it was negative, bla bla bla because that was said with what I now know, because of the clues he gives when he lies,it was "Lying Perv".

I'm sorry for everyone who has to go through this, too.

Some of my anger and anxt is how much of this drama and absolute crap we inherit not by any choice of our own. It's brought into our lives and the lives of our children through none of our own faults and is with us for many years and possible forever. Horrible.

Of course not. Her tubes were tied after all.

The fact that she "forgot" to mention she's infested with herpes *shocked* my idiot ex.

Hope he's having fun with that.

Xwh took OUR condoms and used them with the multiple OW. But it wasn't planned I then made him get a vasectomy so we didn't need them anymore and didn't that ruin his plans.

I still got an STI & STD check though, as he had proven more then once I couldn't believe anything out of his mouth.

I asked and WH’s reply was

“what for?”

He’d had a vasectomy and MOW had been sterilised, so there was no risk of pregnancy (not that there was much of one anyway as they were both 45 when they started their affair). Of course they assumed the other had no STDs and that they were being “faithful” to each other (oh, apart from having sex with their spouses too, gotta keep the pretence up) – after all, they were in love and this was their perfect world, so why spoil it with condoms? Using condoms would debase their relationship and bring it down to basic sex. Which it was.

X claims they did. But not when they had oral sex. I assume he's lying because he refused to wear condoms with me, ever. And she was pregnant at the time their physical affair started. They wouldn't have used condoms as protection against std's because in their fantasy, they were both clean. So, really, why would they have needed condoms at all?

I see "clean" said a lot by ws/Ap...

My wh initially said mow was clean.

He also within 15min. Said:

"We used condoms every time"

"Ok maybe just the first time"

"Ok no never used them. We both decided we were clean and i lied because I knew you would be mad sunflowergirl"

They had unprotected sex with each other, their spouses had oral sex with each other and their spouses. Nice.

Yes, my dutiful wife put one on them herself, well except the one in the alley.

Isn't it just shit when hese things pop into your head? Eurgh.

Of course not. She was trustworthy. Met her Ashley Madison site, but she was trustworthy! Makes me sick to even think about.

Nope!

I think I'm the only one who's FWH used protection. What does that say? He was a responsible cheater?!

Nope Solost!

Mine did too! Only because the hookers insisted on it!

BTW...I still got an STD. Any time there is contact with body fluids STD are a real possibility.

No...because apparently women on AM are "classy"

Nope. He says he was high, though, so he doesn't "remember all the details."

He also assures me that his hookups were other nerds (sci-fi/fantasy conventions, mostly while I was doing other stuff that didn't include drug-addled hotel sex with strangers, like board-gaming), so there's NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT, THESE FOLKS ARE CLEAN, YO.

I asked but my WH embellished the sexual part of the A so much that I never knew what to believe.. He did buy a box of condoms but only one was out of it & I found it (unused) when I was snooping in his van.

WH told me so many stories of the sex with OW but he also has severe ED so I think sex wasn't a big part of their relationship.. he told these stories to make himself look better..

Funny thing is, the sexual aspect of the A never really bothered me, it was more the things he told her about me that bugged me..