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JamieMc ( member #37776) posted at 9:49 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Well my WH's cheating was BJ's x 2 from a stripper/hooker the 1st time & next time a flat-out streetwalker:-(. He claims he never thought about protection because pregnancy wasn't a concern & oral sex was "safe". He was tipsy the first time & stone-cold sober for round two, his wayward incidents were YEARS apart and he confessed to both of them on Dday. When I insisted we both go for full panel STD testing, he thought it was unnecessary.Thankfully, our tests were normal & we are both in IC/MC and giving R our best shot:) Oral sex with WH is very much a work in progress, sorry if TMI, but need to re-claim that part of our intimate lives if we are ever going to be fully and totally R'd. Jamie 
BS early 60’s Wh also early 60’s. I am Jamie, Mom to 3 great young adults. My WH and I have been together more than half of our lives and married 30+ years.. We are in MC & going to give R our best shot, hoping and praying for a better 2015!
movingforward13 ( member #38405) posted at 9:52 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
He did and it broke, then he went crying to his mother about it because he was afraid he got OW pregnant.
Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!
1devastedmom ( member #38399) posted at 9:55 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Dumbass says he always used condoms for sex but never for oral. He swears that he made sure the whores he fucked were clean 
I told him that condoms are not 100% effective to prevent STDS and he looked at me like I was nuts. Dumbass 
tabitha95 ( member #22033) posted at 9:56 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
No, and she had a baby between the times that they weren't seeing each other.
I question if it's his kid.
BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).
hatefulnow ( member #35603) posted at 9:19 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
She claimed they did. When I got tested positive for HPV she remembered the condom broke...on a few occasions 
918Mama ( member #37756) posted at 9:52 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
He took our condoms to use with ow2 but lied to me initially and said she supplied the condoms. Which made me freak out because she was trying to get pregnant. So he tortured me with the whole condom thing for a couple of weeks before finding out he only used them once. Then I found out there was an OW1. She had a birth control implant so he felt totally safe without protection. Never mind the fact that her nickname at work is "cum dumpster".
Seriously.
And I was pregnant when he had sex with ow2 and he kept right on having sex with me and exposing our son to god only knows what.
Now I want to punch something. Wtf?? Ugh...
Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti
Daisy312 ( member #36813) posted at 1:32 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
The first few times he said they did then she wanted to not use condoms so he told her he needed her to get an std test. So she did! They didn't use them after she came all clear. But he actually trusted that this drunken whore wasn't screwing anyone else but she said she would tell him if she did Also the last hook up they did because her H was him from deployment. I made him get tested, and I did as well because I was pregnant during the entire A 
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 1:39 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
No.Never. Not once. "She's not like that", is what he said at the time.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Zayda1 ( member #35387) posted at 1:47 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Nope, no protection. He had a vasectomy 3 years ago so he knew he couldn't get her pregnant. He also figured a women with 4 children (one was only 4 months old stuff the time of the affair)
They weren't drunk, and it was planned well in advance.
Makes me ill to think about it.
Married 10 years, together for 12 years
2 children (9 years & 6 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)
SecondHelping ( member #36796) posted at 2:09 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
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Who uses protection for blowjobs!..????
..she didn't...ever!
My fWW claims she did. Not sure if I really believe her though.
D-Day 1: Feb 1990
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/2 week PA)
BS 49, fWW 43 (Amibroken)
OP- Police Chief (Age 37)
M 25 Yrs, 3 Kids (17, 14, 11)
I initated the relationship at the Railway Tavern, she tried to end it at Scrap Tavern
girlsbird ( member #30877) posted at 2:25 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
The first couple of times then no. He took her to the health department and she got tested. Ya, that really matters since she was arrested for prostitution.
D-Day 10/28/10..almost admission 7/10 Reconciled. I was the betrayed
Jospehine85 ( member #35971) posted at 4:09 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
The first time WH and MOW were drunk, used nothing and he came in her. He did not even know her last name.
From that first romp, he brought me home an infection (fever, abdominal pain, weird discharge) which he prescribed (he's an MD) the treatment for trich for, but proceeded to tell me it was yeast.
Did he get himself checked? Nope. Did he tell me he cheated? Nope.
He risked my life for 8 months.
He continued to have unprotected sex and oral sex with her, because she SAID she was clean. She had gotten checked the LAST time she cheated on her husband.
Me - BS
WH - old
Kids
Dday May 2012
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 4:15 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
He said he did. But who really knows?
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
momoffive ( member #27352) posted at 4:18 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Nope, that would have meant he thought with his head that's attached to his shoulders.
He told me he "didn't think about it because they told him they never did this kind of thing before".
Funny thing is he told the same lie to the OW.
BW 46, SAWH 47(sorry1),M27 yrs
Dday1-7/3/09 EA OW4, Dday2-9/1/09 PA OW4
Dday3 3/14/10 Farmville sexting, OW3
Dday4 3/13/11 Secret texting, would be OW5-she said no
Dday5 8/2/11 PA in 2001 OW1, kissing in 2007 OW2
Dday6 7/11/16 EA OW6
sohowamI ( member #36671) posted at 10:24 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
4 STDs (first one when I was pregnant); one, maybe, two children with OW#? He never gave anything a second thought and when I confronted him last year with the latest STD, he lied and said that it was from 'athlete's foot'...
I've simply no idea what he keeps in his head. For someone who's so informed in every other sphere and very successful...? I just don't know anymore.
WS had two LTAs of 10 years and 12 years; further 8/9 affairs; EAs, 2 OC. Looks horrific but he is fully immersed in trying to find the 'broken.' It's on-going and painful. If there's a blue sky and sunshine, then it's a good day.
libertyrocks (original poster member #38924) posted at 3:53 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Wow. I can't believe so many responses are the same. Guess we didn't cross their minds much...
Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.
Fire96 ( member #34131) posted at 12:26 AM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
liberty,
Nope, we never crossed their selfish minds. My wife even admitted that.
She claims she used condoms for the sex twice, but the numerous blow-jobs she gave we unprotected.
That tells me it wasn't about STD's, and more about her concern for pregnancy.
Truly a selfish bunch that we deal with.
Me, BS-57
WW-52
DD, 1/9/2011
Filed for divorce 6/14
Divorce final 7/2015
Free at last, Free at last, Thank God Almighty I'm free at last!
outtanowhere ( member #39001) posted at 12:43 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
I had two STD's over the last ten years. When I confronted him he looked at me and said "you didn't get that from me". I thought it must have been something as a result of his chronic prostatitis. We have talked about it again since d-day & he still didn't believe that I got it from him because he always used a condom. The hookers he saw wouldn't go bare back.
Stupidness abounds!
Me-clueless BS Dday - 2/19/13 "This isn’t flying. It’s falling with style".Buzz Lightyear - Toy Story
keptmyword ( member #35526) posted at 5:40 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
Imagine a married man, after discovering HIS WIFE was having sex with another man, having to ask HIS WIFE if THEY were using condoms. It is so twisted and still difficult to get ones mind wrapped around.
She immediately said, "Yes, we did."
It was a lie. Nothing whatsoever was used. Ever. That would introduce reality into a selfish delusion that required the absence of reality in order to exist.
She started her delusion when our youngest son was three months old. She had her tubes tied after the delivery. I have no doubt whatsoever she would have become pregnant by the affair guy had she not been neutered. Any and all sex was performed - she had to do everything because it had to be the love of fucking legends, right? Not some delusional escape from deep low self-esteem, and validation issues, no. She had to make sure the fantasy was well-fed and the flattery would continue from a man in love with how weak-minded she was.
The notion that she could acquire HPV, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, AIDS, crabs, etc. didn't enter her mind - at all.
[This message edited by keptmyword at 11:46 AM, June 1st (Saturday)]
It has nothing to do with you.
Filed for and proceeded with divorce.
soveryweary ( member #32265) posted at 7:19 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
He was surprised I even asked that because" I did have a vasectomy so very."
Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.
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