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HFSSC (original poster member #33338) posted at 1:40 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
I can't help saying, though: you are an amazing human being.
Sisoon, thank you for this. It's one of the nicest things I have ever read/heard. Made me cry. Of course, I've cried the majority of the last 2 days anyway. 
But still.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 1:52 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 1:59 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
I am in tears. ((((big, big hugs))))
It is a special thing to grieve openly in the presence of people who love and accept you. Thanks for sharing such a intimate moment.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 2:12 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
(((HFSSC)))
I've also thought giving a child up for adoption was the most selfless love a human could show another human.
I'm sure you did the right thing at the right time.
I admire your strength and courage.
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
looking forward ( member #25238) posted at 3:07 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
Those who pray, I sure could use some that my daughter will soon decide she'd like to know me.
HFSSC, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Here is a photo of a banner at my church which has truly helped me with healing from a life-altering event almost 45 years ago.
~ lf
[This message edited by looking forward at 9:07 PM, September 13th (Friday)]
Together more than 57 years, Married 52 years. Sober since 2009. "You've always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." (The Wizard of Oz)
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 4:06 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
((((hugs))))
You were brave enough to carry your daughter to term.
I was not. I don't even know the gender of the pregnancy I gave up at 9 weeks gestation. 
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 5:06 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
((((HUGS))))
You are an awesome human being. You put your child before yourself. Even when it broke your heart into a million pieces.
Hang in there sweetie. Be gentle with yourself.
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 5:21 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
{{{HF}}}
I've been invited to speak at a fund raiser for the crisis pregnancy center where I had my pg test
You didn't mention the topic that you're speaking about but I just wanted to say that I admire the courage and strength it will take to be a speaker at this event.
(....and that your pictures were very endearing and touching.)
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
deeplysad ( member #16590) posted at 5:40 PM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
((((HFSSC))))
I totally understand. I had my daughter when I was 15 and my father took her away from me and put her up for adoption. I spent the next 18 years looking for her and finally met her.
At first, she was too young to want a relationship with me and that broke my heart. So I waited and as she got older she reached out to me more.
She is now 45 and we've become fairly close. She doesn't call me Mom, but I am Grandy to my two teenage granddaughters. I know that my daughter loves me and it's more than I ever dreamed of.
I never had another child and am so very grateful for what I have with her. I hope that as your daughter gets older, particularly when she has her own children and understands the sacrifice you made, that she will reach out to you.
I will hold you in my heart and I am here if you ever need to talk.
Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
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