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FightingBack ( member #34770) posted at 3:23 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
(((((((((((Birthday Hugs))))))))))))))
Me 53
WH 58
Married 25 years
4 children S30,D24, S23,S21
D-Day Nov. 29, 2011
15 year affair with married employee.
Together trying to make sense of it all!
wert ( member #34478) posted at 3:24 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
RipsInMyChest ( member #41166) posted at 3:30 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Hope you have a fantastic day!
Me: BW 43 (39 at DDay 1)
FWH 43 (39 at DDay 1) (RibsInHerChest)
Together 23 yrs, M 20, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Massive TT due to poly: 1/4/2015 full blown EA/3 week PA
Didn't use condom, I got chlamydia.
Reconciling
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:33 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Hey! Happy Birthday!
Your insights are right on. Maybe the wishes you get from SIers and IRL will lift your sadness. It's OK if it doesn't, but it may.
I still feel like a little boy when someone wishes me happy birthday, which was great when my 3.5 year old GS sang it to me on my last birthday. I felt about his age. Which means that this year, he'll be older than me on my birthday.... 
If you do a little celebrating on consecutive days, you can make your b'day last at least week. Just sayin'....
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 3:57 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Happy Birthday!!
I love birthdays! Even though my 40's haven't been kind to me physically (holy shit when did I start looking this old?!), there is still cake and presents! Yay! Cake!!
There is nothing wrong with a day all about you. Or a week.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
ziganska ( member #41690) posted at 4:14 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Blakesteele,
Happy birthday to you and hugs, hugs, hugs!! Your posts always bring such inspiration to all of us so we all celebrate this very special day with you!
Me: 42
Him: 49
DD: 12/2/2013
Married: 9 years but together for 15
Recovering, Reconciling, Rebuilding, Restoring
blakesteele (original poster member #38044) posted at 4:27 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Thank you all sooooo much!!!!!
I am feeling better.
Actually, after I posted this early this morning I went to my wife who was still sleeping. I snuggled up to her, expressed I was sad, and desired a hug.
She warmly held me and made calm sounds. (wife NOT a morning person....so it was really nice to hear peaceful sounds from her.). I enjoyed the embrace...made me just a little later than I wanted to get to work, but was worth it. Was still earlier than some managers...but felt the pull to get in extra early to get caught up on what had been missed while I was away at a week long conference last week then took a day of vacation yesterday following Retrouvaille weekend.
I see many folks who have been with me since my joining SI over a year ago chime in....and some newer ones too.
Fellowship with you all is healing and restorative in nature.
I am pleased I have offered the same report to some of you and will continue to make the effort into the future.
God be with us all.
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
LivinginLimbo ( member #35004) posted at 4:33 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
BS - 65
WH - 63
Married 37 years
D-Day 2/12/12
D-Day 6/1/16 Caught him back online early enough that no physical contact took place but still devastating. This sucks.
shatteredapart ( member #41978) posted at 4:35 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Happy birthday blakesteele! I hope your sadness lifts and you can enjoy your special day. You are such an inspiration to myself and others. I always look forward to reading your posts and replies as they are always insightful.
Me-BS
Him-WS
EA(PA?) 10 months with COW
3 ddays-Sept '13, Oct '13, Dec '13
Attempting Reconciliation...time and actions will tell
itstoomuch ( member #42301) posted at 4:35 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Happy birthday! Today is my oldest son's b-day too! I'm new here but it sure looks like you have some great friends on SI! I hope you have a great day IRL today with those closest to you as well :)
While I'm "new" to SI, I'm not "new" to "Surviving Infidelity."
4+ yrs post-DDay
17+ M
R is long and hard.
'The cloudiest skies do make the prettiest sunsets'
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 5:44 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Have a wonderful Birthday!
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
still-living ( member #30434) posted at 6:19 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Happy Birthday Blakesteele, and wishing you well through the gates of wisdom.
SadInNC ( member #42170) posted at 6:29 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Sometimes, holidays and birthdays get me down, too. Not sure why. It sounds like you have really come a long way in learning about yourself and fighting your demons. We all have them. You should be proud of yourself!
I hope you have a Happy Birthday!
BS/Me WH/Him
"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person
hopeful18 ( member #19234) posted at 9:10 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Happy Birthday!! It us my birthday too!! Just want to let you know that I do not post often but read a lot in R. Your posts often help shed light on many things for me! Thank you! I hope you have a very happy birthday and enjoy everything good in your life today!
blakesteele (original poster member #38044) posted at 9:12 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Happy Birthday Hopefull18!!! You are welcome....glad my rather lengthy posts and responses have some SI members intriqued enough to read them and that they sometimes resonate with others too!
((((((to all))))))
I am a blessed man.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 3:14 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 9:13 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Sending you my birthday wishes too, BS.
Kudos for telling your W what you needed this morning, and she came thru.
Eat a piece of cake for me! (I'm suppose to be on a diet 
)
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
blakesteele (original poster member #38044) posted at 9:17 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Kudos for telling your W what you needed this morning, and she came thru.
Thanks Still2Suspicious. I was still unsure of what to do...started to make a case to NOT do that. Dang....it seems like such a simple thing, but I struggled with it. 'course, I was wanting to retreat due to my saddness this morning......
anyway...not out of the woods but it is DANG NICE to have support from others like ya'll.
My wife easily accomodated my request...not grumpy about being nudged early in the morning....only showed kind comfort to me. I would have missed this experience had I put my work boots on and left. It is scary how simple the healthy choice can be at times....and how easily those opportunities can be dissolved.....
Some of the simplest encouragement can make tremendous differences.
Peace.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 3:20 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
ionlytalkedtoher ( member #39802) posted at 9:24 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
happy birthday.
I was depressed when it was my birthday after the A as well. I will be 43 later this year as well. We would have been in the same school year.
But, you are very strong. You need to give yourself more credit. Maybe you don't feel great but you survived so much trauma. You inspire many people to continue on through their troubles.
Go celebrate your life.
ILINIA ( member #39836) posted at 10:00 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Happy Birthday Blakesteele!
AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 10:13 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Happy Birthday!! I hope your day continues to improve and I'm glad you were able to push your fears aside enough to go to your W. Sometimes when we are vulnerable they really come through.
I know your posts lift me up so I hope seeing all your SI friends sending you well wishes lifts you up too!
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
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