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Beyond, to be quite honest whether the OW is in the picture or not, this man is completely and thoroughly disengaged from you in every single way. It's unfortunate that he's acting like a jack-hole towards his daughter REGARDLESS of how he feels toward you. For that, he should be ashamed of himself.

But he's completely emotionally detached from you and it almost sounds like he has this barely contained hostility directed toward you. I think it's real smart of you to see this as the end, because it sure doesn't sound as though he wants back - in any way, shape or form.

You need to get your legal ducks in a row. Fighting and arguing with this miscreant about what his financial responsibilities towards you and his daughter are is pointless. Get your lawyer to get the financial ball rolling NOW.

Protect yourself. He's clearly NOT looking out for you at all.

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[This message edited by NeverAgain2013 at 1:47 PM, June 8th (Sunday)]

Every day is a challenge. Dinners are the worst, we have alway's waited for him to get home to eat. My daughter wanted that, now when we sit i can see how sad she is. How does on one go from loving you to caring for you to hating you? He totalled erased me from his life and i still don't understand how or why when all i did was fight for us. I am feeling more independent each day but when people say find yourself i just can't. I don't thing i changed and have alway's been me. I had a happy life with bumbs in it, the only thing i can say is i never had good self esteem and now that he took it away from me i really don't know where to find it? I know in my head he doesn't want me but my heart is still holding the hope for a second shot at this. I feel crazy even thinking it with all the hurt but i did't get my second chance and i feel i deserve that. I can't hate and i can forgive but i need a fighting chance first before i let go. I can't live what if's and i only wished he was the same. 24 years thrown away ! How can someone do that without looking back?

Lol I was in our i tunes account and he downloaded the song I don't care any more by Phil Collins. When did he care to begin with. I guess that is his anthem to make him self better and feel like the victim. I can admit it did hurt when i read the lyrics but he did this too himself. I cannot count how how many times i asked for us to work it out. Now it's poor him and all my fault. Well guess what ws "I don't care any more"

It's been almost three months since Ws has left. I still have the why's and what if's running through my mind. I still do love him and i still want him to change his mind? I know it's crazy with all the hurt he has put through and ignoring me like i was the one that had the A. This is not fair i am not the bad guy i deserve answers and treated like a human being and mother to his child. I was his beat friend and lover and his shoulder to cry on. How can some one just erase a person like this. Why can't he reach out to me too heal. Why is separation the only way to go? I really want my second chance. I so want to text him but i know he will only reply if it's about separation papers. It would not be H who was talking any more even if he did reply. I am sad and hurt i am getting treated this way. I wander if he is even hurting? or regretting the mess he has started? oh so many questions and my heart still feels like it is in pieces.

My first W left me - and I never really understood in any way shape or form why. She literally turned into a ghost that left me with no answers - just a palpable absence that I could not fill for years.

I am so sorry you are going through it - no one deserves it. It is like your H and my ex flipped a switch and we went from lovers to a minor annoyance.

The only advice I can offer is that each day you spend obsessing about the why that you will never get answered is a day you cannot get back.

Just want to send you a hug. I am so sorry that you are living this nightmare. You may want to post some of your feelings, fears etc in the divorce forum. I am sure there are people there who have been through many of the same things you are going through. They may be able to give you some advice on how to cope with D. They may also have advice for how to help your daughter through this. Are you and your daughter seeing a counselor? I think you and your daughter would benefit from individual and family counseling. You need someone to help you through this. (((beyond)))