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Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 4:09 AM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

I would send a stunt lovie over to his house with her - similar fabrics/shape. If it disappears she'll understand why she can't take lovie over there. If it stays then she can keep it there and the real thing at home so she is never without.

That's a great idea. I remember when my sister was about 10. She left a couple stuffed animals in the living room. My NPD father thought he'd teach her a lesson by taking all her stuffed animals to the backyard, pouring gasoline on them, and having a bonfire. He went and got my sister by telling her to come out and enjoy the nice bonfire he was having. She was destroyed. He loves to tell the story of how he taught my sister not to leave her toys out... he still doesn't get that they were not just toys to her. He killed her best friends.

"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson

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norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:09 AM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

FWIW, I still sleep with my stuffed dog from when I was a little girl. I don't need him to sleep, and I put him away when I was living with my ex....but when I went back to get stuff, I made sure to pick up 'Rags' on an early trip! And I'm 30

It has never been an issue and I like having him around!

Sit. Feast on your life.

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gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 5:16 AM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

t/j @ TOL:

She was destroyed. He loves to tell the story of how he taught my sister not to leave her toys out... he still doesn't get that they were not just toys to her. He killed her best friends

Oh.My.God. It is horrifying that he takes pleasure in telling that story. What a sadistic bastard.

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"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 5:42 AM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

Yeah, Gonnabe, I try not to think about that stuff too much but then someone mentioned loveys and fire and it was a whole other kind of trigger for me.

"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson

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momentintime ( member #16394) posted at 7:18 AM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

When he starts his rants, next time just reply..

Is that all you got?

BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

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Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 10:29 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

Is that all you got?

While that is a reasonable response to a reasonable person, crickets is best with a narcissist. I can assure you, "that" is never all they got. And they really will cut off their own noses to spite their faces if it means feeling like they won.

"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson

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Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 10:29 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

Oops. Double Post.

[This message edited by Tearsoflove at 4:29 PM, April 1st (Tuesday)]

"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson

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