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Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 1:10 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
She has to be taking drugs. No one could be this nuts without artificial enhancement.
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 1:33 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
I was told it's good they have SOS, as it redirects them and takes their mind odd of us. I am finding no it doesn't.
I fear this. I fear that because she blames me for everything wrong in her life, she will never go away. I feel like calling the AP POS and begging him to reign her in.
She has to be taking drugs.
Actually she is--always has. Huge amounts of Klonopin, specifically (in addition to anti-depressants, sleep aids...)
Her last attorney told mine she was "slurring her words and could not remember entire conversations and emails."
Yes, it makes me nervous about the kids.
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
7yrsflushed ( member #32258) posted at 4:47 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
She is not going to pay me shit--or at least force me to force her every step of the way.
You know they lock people up these day for not paying child support....i'm just saying. 
D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 5:11 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
You know they lock people up these day for not paying child support....i'm just saying.
Sigh. A boy can dream...
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 11:12 PM on Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
t/j
You know they lock people up these day for not paying child support....i'm just saying.
Except in Indiana, they just give continuances there, ask Tesla, she knows.
t/j over
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 9:56 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
neverbeokay ( member #8275) posted at 11:29 AM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Good luck today on the closing, I hope it all goes well.
Our settlement gave me more of the proceeds from the sale of the house than my ex. It was also a matter of considerable negotiation. When we finally closed on the sale(we were already divorced) he also freaked out at how much more money I was getting and bombarded me with calls and texts for two days demanding that I tell the settlement officer to change it in his favor. I was trembling at the closing, he sat right next to me and was in my personal space just to intimidate me. But I got through it with what I was entitled to.
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 12:47 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Thanks, everyone. Closing is 1:00 today. Fingers crossed. My attorney will be with me, so that gives me some sense of security. But she may trot out the Crazy for one last go, as this is the last tie between us.
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:56 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
(((AD)))
Sending Mojo, and warm wishes for a peaceful and mostly uneventful closing.
My goodness this thread has had some great quotes. If she trots out her Crazy today try to remember those.
((((and strength))))
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 2:14 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
House closing mojo 
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
forgivinglola ( new member #35601) posted at 3:10 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Wishing you lots of luck today. Hope she doesn't screw it up for you.
DDay: 10/13/2009Status: In R
woundedwidow ( member #36869) posted at 3:53 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
AD, I really hope she stuffs her crazy in a sack, if just for today, and that the closing goes smoothly for you. Major mojo coming your way!
Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.
betrayedfriend ( member #19785) posted at 4:00 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Good luck AD, if she does put her crazy on display may I suggest you smile, knowing this is the last vestige of control she has and she's fighting a losing battle. You've won the war already, my friend!
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 4:05 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 5:36 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Just received a message from the closing agent, thirty minutes before closing: XW is still refusing to agree to the proceeds owed to me. Again, there is nothing with which to "disagree." Everything is detailed clearly in the final signed MSA--reviewed by her, her attorney and her boyfriend. :-)
This is going to go badly. I just hope I don't get swept up in the melee and possible lawsuits that may occur. Clearly the onus is on her. (I hope the buyers see this, as they will get their first dose of Crazy.)
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
Softcentre ( member #39166) posted at 5:38 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
What does your lawyer say?
Me: BW
Him: XWH
2 Children
Finally reached indifference & looking forward to my new beginning
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 5:40 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Everything is detailed clearly in the final signed MSA--reviewed by her, her attorney and her boyfriend.
she can disagree all she wants, but it's right there written and court ordered.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 5:42 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
What happens if she refuses to sign and you lose the buyer?
This is what I fully expect will happen. I'm very scared.
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 6:04 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
I'm very scared.
Stop. It's just stuff.
Get pissed. Let your lawyer handle this.
Strength
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
debbysbaby ( member #32962) posted at 7:22 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Thinking of you, AD. Hope she sobered up long enough to sign.
-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004
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