The first time I ever met the guy was in an upscale bar during the World Series
He was cocky but I didn't see a threat.
The second time......was 8 days later. We went bowling with some of her co workers.
Towards the end he started taking about himself a lot. Nothing special.
Then he was speaking of how many women he'd been with.
He told me he was the kind of guy who could steal ,y girl and by the time it was over I would be crying and lonely. I didn't think he was specifically speaking to me.
He touched her in the arm in a very sexual way. Personally I thought.......he's married and our relationship is solid.
It was a red flag that when I asked her if she liked it. She said yes.......she was in a sort of relaxed dopamine trance.
10 days later he was having sex with her in his truck and dropped her off.
6 days later it was over
He told me later that he had been having sex with her for months.
She moved in with her mom and left me at the house. I basically went mad.
7 years.......did t know........total blindside....
As I said....I'll write out the story but it's still painful even after 8 months. I can't believe some asshole can come into my life like this and my stupid effing ex can do this to our family.
His wife blames her for ruining her life. They are divorcing and he's left his 3 year old son for her.
Some days are ok......when I stay busy.
Some days I want to die
Some days I am moving slightly forward.
We will never be friends......
We will never be amicable
I have to talk to her I guess for my child's sake.....
The more I didn't want to see her the more she forced it
She wanted me crazy.......
When I say this girl went narcissist on me
I've seen a lot of stories
She went full blown......
No exaggeration
Not only did she go full blown it was not like most of the stories I'd seen. I still haven't found one like it.
I've seen some bad ones. But nothing like this. The difference was the triangulation with a sociopath.
She mirrors who she's with. I don't know if she's a sociopath or if she's mirroring his cruelty. It could go either way.
I don't see a solution......I see her brainwashing my kid. I'm a good dad and she knows this.
And she still did everything she could to get her out of my life.
The crazy thing is....
This happened to her when she was 5. Her father did this to her mother. Her mother left him. Her mother was very emotionally abusive. A lot through neglect but in other ways.
The father.....total abandon as the story goes.
She told me 10 days before she left that she was a self fulfilling prophecy.
Narcs tell on themselves. They will tell you what the are doing and what they are about to do. A lot of times it will be out of context and you always have to look for the opposite.
It's weird but the more you see it the easier it is to spot.
The day before the order of protection.......she told me we need to be more tolerable with eachother. I agreed.
She then spent the night emotionally beating the crap out of me. I was supposed to pick my daughter up the next day.
I did.....
I hadn't seen her in a while. The drop off went normal
She left the drop off and went right to the police station....
It took them 8 hours to come and get my little girl. I brought that up in court. The order was for texting things like calling her a married mans side piece of ass and every word in the book.
All of hers was passive aggressive. It was crazymaking.
They hauled my little girl off under police escort. My friend took her to her mother. She was terrified.
I cannot believe her mother can do this. I can't believe someone could be capable of something like this.
The more I read into sociopathy the more stories look worse than narcissism stories.
Why is this story all over the place.
It's so long......so much happened it just comes to me in pieces.
Of you were to hear her side of it........
Let me know........I'd love to hear it myself
