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ibonnie...what would you want those of us who lived thousands of miles away...who weren’t directly impacted...to do Dear Lady? I am one of those that you are talking about. I put up a FB picture every year to honor those innocent people who were cruelly and mercilessly impacted by this senseless terrorist act. I never realized it could hurt someone...and I am truly sorry to see you in pain from this (((HUGS))).

same ^^.

I appreciate reading everyone's stories.

it did impact me but would be breaking guidelines to write about here.

My husband and I were with our 3 young children at a seminar in Hawaii.

I went to the hotel laundry and the TV was on. I thought it was the most realistic movie I had ever seen. Then it dawned on me that maybe it was not a movie.

I called my parents. My mom was screaming that I should come home IMMEDIATELY. My daddy said that I should stay because Hawaii was less likely a target. I guess no one knew at that time that all the air traffic was shut down.

Anyway, I made the WORST mistake a person could make when watching the TV...I didn't monitor my children (playing just outside the sliding glass doors to the room) closely enough.

When I turned around to check on them again...my middle son was staring at the TV in horror.

Turns out, he was one of the little ones they talked about...that drew pictures LITERALLY for years of fire and airplanes and burning buildings.

I am so very sorry for any/all of you who suffered actual losses in the attacks. My suffering / sadness was only due to compassions for all of you.

ibonnie...what would you want those of us who lived thousands of miles away...who weren’t directly impacted...to do Dear Lady? I am one of those that you are talking about. I put up a FB picture every year to honor those innocent people who were cruelly and mercilessly impacted by this senseless terrorist act. I never realized it could hurt someone...and I am truly sorry to see you in pain from this (((HUGS))).

Honestly, I don't know. What I do now is basically try to avoid social media and thr news for 24 hours or so.

I understand people coming from a place of wanting to honor those that died but for me the day is just one giant trigger. If I go back to therapy, maybe it should be something I bring up, but I just can't talk or think about 9/11 without starting to cry and feeling like I'm on the verge of having a panic attack.

I will never forget getting picked up from school by my mom, leaving the building, seeing the smoke in the sky, not understanding what was going on, and her freaking out and yelling at me, "WE ARE UNDER ATTACK. WE HAVE TO GET TO YOUR BROTHER." Fuck I'm crying typing this again.

It was the utter panic everyone felt. No one knew what was going on, just that we were under attack. No one knew what was happening next, no one could get in touch with each other, and we spent the day in the basement because we would be safe down there... and the whole time my BFF's mom had no clue where her 11 year old daughter was in Manhattan and was unable to get in touch with her...

There was just so much fear. And seeing the reminders every year just bring it all up again.

Definitely ,a Day to remember!! This day actually brings back sad memories

No one knew what was going on, just that we were under attack.

I remember that feeling .

I saw a tweet that had a video message from a woman who was at the Ronald Reagan airport on 9/11/01. She just so happened to be at the same airport on 9/11/19. A message came over the loudspeakers at the airport stating this was the time that the first plane hit the twin towers...and asking for a moment of silence in remembrance. She was very saddened to see that hardly anyone took the time to acknowledge the moment of silence . It is hard to remember such a senseless and cruel act... but I for one will never forget it .

Ibonnie you clearly have trauma to deal with over this. It needs to be taken out examined and the feelings felt and grief grieved.

I urge you to see a trauma therapist on this topic alone.

You should not be angry with those of us across the country that for once all came together and stood proudly and fiercely as Americans first.

Many of us started flying a flag that day and continue to do so even today. To show pride in our "One nation under God" . Wanting more than anything to preserve that "freedom and liberty for all".

As a child I cant imagine the fear you felt.

I actually spoke with my 22 yo this year and asked if he remembered any of it. He said no, but he does understand that we believe in our great nation and will do all we can to defend it. He also had considered joining the service to protect us. Even with the trauma and grief many positive things have happened as a result of it.

Ibonnie you clearly have trauma to deal with over this. It needs to be taken out examined and the feelings felt and grief grieved.

I urge you to see a trauma therapist on this topic alone.

You should not be angry with those of us across the country that for once all came together and stood proudly and fiercely as Americans first. 

I usually just avoid social media between 9/10-12. I know this is an unpopular opinion, but I've discussed it with my closest friends who were also in middle or high schools in NYC during the attack, and they share similar sentiments -- that living through it once was enough, and they find the reminders and everyone talking about "where they were when it happened" upsetting. The staying off social media for 9/11 and the surrounding days was actually suggested by a friend, as that's what she does every year.

I am, generally, a believer in therapy, but I'm not sure what good talking about 9/11 would do. How could it not have been a traumatic experience? And really, there's only three or so days a year that I need to actively avoid triggers.

But that isn't dealing w/ the trauma.

That is rugsweeping.

Traumas need to be dealt with regardless of the cause. Yes it is a huge trauma.