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I think the best way to stop the cycle is to be honest about it.

I was also thinking how there are many similarities to how you describe your WH and your SIL

LadyG, you say you are angry with your SIL for believing WH's lies, but no one has actually tried to give him the truth of the situation. ?????

Since my first post, I have not been able to sleep.

But my DD and SIL believe everything I have divulged about my exWH And his lies and disgusting behaviour.

My SIL Stated that as I was very open and honest about the situation and WH was dead quiet and even avoided them during their visit earlier this year, he was confused.

My DD and SIL listened to WH and believe that he lied about everything. The blaming of me for his A’s. The denial of the A and abuse of me.

So, yes, they both experienced a Narcissist At work.

They tried to give him the opportunity to give them his side, but his side was lies, lies and lies and placing the blame directly at me.

They have stated that they believe everything that I told me.

While I was devastated by the entire situation, WH carried on like, Nothing to see here...

He had the opportunity to give them the truth but he chose to lie. They know this now.

WH once again lied to me also about the conversation that he had with SIL.

SO I owe my SIL, an apology. WH pictured it as my SIL was sick of hearing from me, when in fact he tested my WH and found out that WH is a narcissistic, lying manipulative abuser.

Dealing with a narc is so very hard, manipulative and crazy making plus anxiety inducing. They can really create a circus out of things. Hugs to you. I am glad they believe you in the end.

It seems like a simple...WS did not want to get called out so lied to make himself look better. Then he makes SIL enemy number one for it. So very typical really!

Glad it worked out in your favor.

Your SIL sounds like a good guy.

I'm glad you now have that sorted and that your DD and SIL know the truth.