I always find it interesting in these sort of posts, they are usually the sex ones, but anything that has a different gender view point - that you can have many, many women agree or side with the man but they will focus only on the ones who didn't. AND, the same is true in reverse as well.
Recently, one of my family members tried to engage on a political posts on a social media site. He finally just said "people do not like to see things written down that they don't agree with". And, he's right. That fans the flames more than anything else. And, when there is someone on the thread with extreme view points then you can just bet your bottom dollar it's going to take a really bad turn. I think perhaps those reactions we have to those things we don't agree with provides clues about ourselves.
I personally think that anyone who dates significally younger person, like by generations...whether the older person is male or female, they are just not looking for a partner. They are looking for some leg up or dominance so that they do not have to feel inclined to compromise. I think often it's not that person is evil or bad, but they are often just over-adjusting from a previous situation they didn't like or want to repeat.
As for men being attracted to younger women, or women being attracted to younger man...in a superficial way, not really thinking they want to date them, as the OP was originally asking about...that's just natural to some people because as young men or women they learned what they liked physically about people, that doesn't always change just because we do. Young people are attractive. It doesn't mean that older people are not attractive or that someone who finds someone attractive who is young doesn't also find someone attractive who is their age or older. There are other important things that go into finding someone you love enough to marry rather than just finding them physically attractive. In fact, I would say that I found my husband more attractive once I really knew him.
I don't think this always has to devolve into men are bad, or women are bad or whatever else seems to happen in these threads. I do think we have differences but they aren't as wide as many would have you believe. Our experiences, however, are different. And, I feel like most women have been on the receiving end of unwelcome yuckiness of varying levels, perpetrated by men. That is usually less prevalent the other way around. I don't think just because that is brought up that anyone is trying to shame specific men here.
If you are respectful of women, you have nothing to feel guilty for, it shouldn't really elicit an extreme emotional response. We do have to be careful not to speak in generalities because when we do that it does try to encompass an entire gender under one blanket, and that is never ever going to fit because everyone is different.
Ugh, I thought I was done saying anything on this thread.
[This message edited by hikingout at 8:47 AM, February 13th (Thursday)]
