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jb3199 ( member #27673) posted at 7:10 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2011
BH-50s
WW-50s
2 boys
Married over 30yrs.
All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary PuckettD-Day(s): EnoughAccepting that I can/may end this marriage 7/2/14
bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 2:17 AM on Tuesday, July 12th, 2011
bumbed ( member #31024) posted at 6:58 AM on Sunday, July 17th, 2011
Bump as well all need to really do this for us
I rather suspect like all the worst things in life, making sense of it will not happen.
25 year relationship D day 1/28/11
The we door is closed but the ME doors are opening
Fighting2Survive ( member #28410) posted at 4:31 AM on Tuesday, July 19th, 2011
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
this_sucks ( new member #32842) posted at 9:41 PM on Wednesday, July 20th, 2011
socold ( member #17400) posted at 9:53 PM on Wednesday, July 20th, 2011
We are bumping the thread to the top of the listing by putting a response on it. These are threads that have "stood the test of time" and have been deemed worthy of getting bumped back up to the top so that new people have a better chance of seeing them.
(me)fBH 35
D-Day Dec 9, 2007
D final Oct 19th 2010
Rise_Above ( member #23674) posted at 2:48 PM on Thursday, July 21st, 2011
You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli
*****
God's hand was an avocado branch
Fighting2Survive ( member #28410) posted at 2:24 AM on Sunday, July 24th, 2011
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 11:14 PM on Wednesday, July 27th, 2011
bumbed ( member #31024) posted at 11:33 PM on Friday, July 29th, 2011
I rather suspect like all the worst things in life, making sense of it will not happen.
25 year relationship D day 1/28/11
The we door is closed but the ME doors are opening
Cee64D ( member #21836) posted at 11:44 AM on Saturday, July 30th, 2011
The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008
UnsettledOne ( member #32952) posted at 8:32 PM on Thursday, August 4th, 2011
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 1:50 PM on Friday, August 5th, 2011
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 12:35 AM on Wednesday, August 10th, 2011
pbej3 ( new member #32400) posted at 1:05 AM on Wednesday, August 10th, 2011
I am not sure I am really understanding this. I thought I was doing the 180 but now I don't think I was. I haven't really been focusing on myself. I have been focusing on ignoring my WH. I ignore him unless there is something I can't ignore like talking about a home repair or something. I feel guilty when I plan something fun for myself. I desperately want to take a vacation and think I haven't made plans because I don't want to hurt his feelings and am not sure I will enjoy going by myself. I don't want to go with my WH but all my friends are married and wouldn't consider doing something without their spouse.
I have been feeling frustrated because it is clear he doesn't get it. He does absolutely nothing to reach out to me. He isn't mean, just acts uninterested. I think he is waiting for me to reach out to him - like I usually do. So- am I right to ignore? I can look more at myself, be more introspective but is there anything else? I think I need a new IC, mine isn't very helpful.
Me- BW 52
Him - WH 56
Married 28+ yrs
DD 5/17/11
2 kids- 24 & 26
Undecided about R
annb ( member #22386) posted at 2:50 PM on Friday, August 12th, 2011
Cee64D ( member #21836) posted at 2:25 AM on Sunday, August 14th, 2011
The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 3:03 PM on Sunday, August 14th, 2011
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
fragilehwc ( member #32783) posted at 4:57 PM on Monday, August 15th, 2011
dday 7/10/2011
ME = BW 44yo
HER = WW 55YO
3 spoiled rotten dogs
I am a strong woman
if difficulties make you stronger this shit is going to make me unapproachable in a dark alley.
Llanden ( member #10402) posted at 1:20 AM on Tuesday, August 16th, 2011
"If you can't handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best."
BS 41
DD's 20, 14 and 11
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