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Newbeginnings24 (original poster member #71510) posted at 10:40 AM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2019
Yeah think I am forgetting that I am now dealing with a narcissist. Which is hard to belief when he’s been in hiding or my kibbles have been enough for 15 years. They’re not any longer and is that why he’s left and found someone else who will fill him with lots of kibbles.
I intentionally posted to bring myself back to reality but it is so hard to hear the truth. You get lost in it all and try and search for the past reality not the current one. It’s a steep learning curve dealing with this situation and what is now my WH.
I had put my DD name down at the local nursery near to my parents and told the childminder that she wasn’t going to her anymore near my old house. But I’ve gone back on this and kept her at the Childminder’s. I had a mad panic because I don’t know where I want to live. This is nothing to do with my WH but what life I have in the area we lived. Work, friends etc. I’m not regretting this and can’t go back on my work again with the childminder. I will have to wait a couple of months and review this. I’ve tried it then, living here, but working and childcare there and then say it doesn’t work and place her in a nursery near my parents. I just want things to be sorted like yesterday. I don’t like waiting for things and coasting - something else I’m not used to.
NB x
DDay....it doesn’t matter, it’s in the past!
Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness - Katherine Henson.
Walk out of that door and don’t look back!
Newbeginnings24 (original poster member #71510) posted at 11:11 PM on Sunday, November 24th, 2019
Well shot me now.....
My WH has obviously met up with an old work colleague today as his wife has just messaged me to say how devastated she was to find out we had separated. I carefully made sure I didn’t slag him off and included that he had met someone else and shock f**king horror he failed to mention that part. They used to work together but that wouldn’t affect him now or create any additional risk to him and the OW who he works with. So I ask you, why would he not admit that piece of vital information? What is there to hide? I would love to know what reasons he gave. But I’m too proud to ask. So will wait until we meet up and hopefully she will divulge.
She said she doesn’t know how I’m coping. Well you don’t get a choice unfortunately.
God I’m fed up of the soap opera that is now my life!
NB x
DDay....it doesn’t matter, it’s in the past!
Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness - Katherine Henson.
Walk out of that door and don’t look back!
nekonamida ( member #42956) posted at 11:47 PM on Sunday, November 24th, 2019
NB, his messages to you are so selfish. "I want, I want, I want" "ME ME ME" Even if he was as dumb as a rock, he would know he has hurt you by leaving the marriage like this. Intellectually, he DOES know. But he's so focused on his own feelings and wants that he doesn't want to acknowledge yours. To him, he comes first. His feelings are more real. You just have to deal with it and cater to him. Ignore him. Text him "ok" at most. Grey rock him.
He didn't mention the OW because he knows it will look shady. He knows anyone who hears how recently he separated will put 2 and 2 together immediately. He knows he will out himself as a cheater and he doesn't want to tattle on himself like that. I'm betting in a few months once the coast is clear and more people know him as "separated", he will start being vocal about her and will have some ridiculous lie about how they met while he was still married but never got together until afterwards like they all do.
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