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Chapter 100: Narcissism

Him: "I broke it off when I realised there was too much of an age gap between her and myself. But you know in this society, anything goes"

Translation: I didn't break it off because it is wrong to cheat on you, but because I was exploiting a poor woman in a poor country and I knew I was using her.

Him: I don't pay for sex ever

Translation: The camera's, cell phones, holidays to Bali,clothing etc were not payment. I just lie to myself all the time.

thought I needed a refresher... so bump!

I wish I hadn't read this. Too many things that my wife said.....now I feel like shit.

"I need to clear my head" - translation..I found a woman on the internet that I need to go fuck 'cause I have a load I need to get off from my second head, not the one with a brain.

He was like the brother and friend I never had.

trans: I had 2 sisters and scads of female friends but I really wanted to find out what another man was like in bed.

So I needed him to be like my brother first, then he became like the friend I never had.

It didn't hurt that he was my old high school sweetheart.

"I didn't think you would mind" Oh shit the OW just dumped me what the hell am I going to do for pussy now.

I'm sure these have been written before but here goes:

I used a condom

(I didn't use a condom)

Everyone is doing it

(so I'm nothing but a stupid follower that would rather take the low road and follow along with the supposed pack than take the high road and live with integrity)

I wasn't attracted to her

(but since when do you need to be attracted to someone to fuck them, buy them gifts, tell them you love them)

It only happened twice, well once and then I stopped the 2nd time because I wasn't feeling well, so only once or not at all, it's all in your head

(I'm confusing the hell out of you, is it working?)

It had nothing to do with you or us

(sounds good so might as well say something stupid like this)

I wasn't looking for anyone else and/or I was only looking for a friend to talk to

(6 profiles on dating and hook-up sites don't really mean I'm wanting to date and hookup, or am looking for my sole-mate (yes his spelling) hmmmm maybe she'll buy that)

I don't remember

(well I do remember but I sure as hell am not going to share the details with you)

You are controlling

(ok so I am controlling and controlled you by not letting you know what I was up to so you had the option to either stay in the relationship or not but if I tell you that you are the one controlling, sure takes the pressure off of me)

I wanted to hurt you before you hurt me

(I'm the big winner)

All women are whores

(so I'm gonna find me some more)

I'm such a terrible husband.

You seriously have no idea how bad, and I'm not going to volunteer it

There's so much wrong with us now, it's not worth fixing.

There's so much wrong with me and I can't be bothered to examine that

What about all those nights the neighbors saw you leave the house, having your own affairs?

The neighbors didn't really say that, it just sounds good for my defense so I had to say it out loud

My parent were right about you.

My serial cheating-dad and 5x married mother know so much more about a loving and committed relationship than you, they saw you for the committed loyal spouse you were and hated you for it!

[This message edited by Eight13 at 8:51 AM, November 27th (Friday)]

"I was upset because you didn't want to have anymore children so instead of being mad at you I just avoided you." = A reason FWH pulled out of his ass to justify his actions.

I would like to suggest a book. I don't know the auth but it's title is "The Script".

Very much like what is here. You will like it. Words there will certainly ring true.

Too many pages to go through but here's my two pennies worth:

"I never thought it possible to love two people at the same time until now."

(You love your wife of 19 years and your whore of 5 months just the same. Classic.)

"We were distant at the time." (so fucking the whore was meant to bring us closer then?)

“She makes me feel alive.” (So I make you feel dead then?)

“I never meant to hurt you.” (Another classic)

"I wouldn't call it an affair." (What would you call fucking our mutual friend then over an extended 5-month period?)

"I won't be seeing her again. You've won." (Yes, I feel like a real winner. What game where we playing by the way? Nice of you to tell me.)

"You won't hear from her again. She's too sensitive." (Heard from her twice and counting…)

"I didn't think you'd care." (Trans: I didn’t want to bother coming to you with my problems, I preferred to fuck her instead and deal with them later).

"I can't tell the kids what I've done, it will upset them too much." (You don’t say?)

“She said she wouldn’t be able to survive if I ended it with her.” (Seems to be coping really well from what I can see.)

“I had to think of you when I fucked her,” (no comment)

“I had to think of you when she gave me a BJ.” (Still no comment)

“I had to finish myself off. Sex with her was pretty awful,”

…when asked why did you carry on then..:

“It was my ego…It got to the point that I was obsessed with making her cum,” (apparently never did)

"I don't want to send her a letter (ending it). There might be repercussions."

“She’s really upset and won’t stop crying.” (When he did end it)

"I told her I loved her and wanted to be with her but that I'd never walk out on you and the kids,"(You're so thoughtful. Thanks for leaving the door wide open for your whore by the way so that 8 months down the line she still thinks she's got a chance.)

*bump* for the newbies...so you realize that you're not crazy...and you're really not alone!

After I found the secret email:

Me: Why do you need another email address?

WH: I wanted to see if it worked.

Me: Of course it works or else Yahoo would go out of business (Duh).

WH: Well, she told me to do it. (And if she tells you to jump off a cliff will you do that as well?)

Four months later, I found a copy of an e-greeting he sent her. It had a red heart and red rose with the message…OW, I love you, WH. His explanation…he “loved” her personality on the computer (yep, and I have a bridge for sale).

I would like to add some facial expressions as well…One I call the “deer-in-the headlight-stare” (self-explanatory). The other is the “fish-out-of-water” imitation. His mouth opens and closes but no words come out only gasping/grunting sounds.

And finally…

“If we divorce over this it will be YOUR fault”. (Do not expect me to take any responsibility).

bump

" I was drunk"

Trans: don't hold me accountable

"It just happened"

Trans: didn't use protection

"It wasn't anything you did or say"

Trans: it is ALL about me, my happiness and me feeling good

Him: "It's all in the past."

Translation: Get off my case!

bump

"Do you really think I'd do that?' (See if you can call my bluff)

Me: why are you telling me now?

Him: You were depressed all those years and now you are doing better. (so you can make me depressed all over again????? or translated: I don't give a hoot about you or your feelings)

"Why is always about YOUR feelings?" ( it's really all about ME)

"It was good to have someone just for me" ( I want to be the full center of attention, and couldn't share you with our kids)

"I was thinking of leaving you at the time it started" (I was never really with you in the first place)

Me: I would like to start anew with committment to a new relationship

Him: Commitment? You are always trying to put me in a cage. You just want to grab me and put me in there.

"I can't live with someone who asks me all these questions all the time" (leave me alone to do whatever I want without any consequences)

"I found someone who wanted to hug me and kiss me"

(I'm really needy because of my mommy issues and you wouldn't baby me any more)jerk