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Continuing to keep you in our prayers.

(((((Phoenix))))

Thanks for keeping your SI family informed as to how you are doing. We ALL care about you, and will continue to pray for the strength you need to face the times ahead. I still can't imagine the heartbreak you are having to endure. God bless you and your family, and remember that the collective SI will always be here to help you through this.

Phoenix, thank you so much for taking the time to update us. I do not know you but I literally was worried sick over you. I thought of you constantly and can't recall how often I read about your DS. I have cried quite a bit thinking of the pain you are going through.

I agree with a previous poster about a young tree being stronger than you think. I moved into a new home years ago and the previous owner planted a tiny tree in our yard as a house warming gift. Within a few months we had an ice storm. Most of the trees in the neighborhood collapsed and broke. Our little tree looked like she would snap but the ice melted and she stood back straight. A few months later we had a small tornado and she was hit with a large tire. She snapped back. The neighborhood kids kicked and hit her all the time and she's still looking great. The point is you are stronger than you think even when you think you are not.

Thank you for posting. We are always here for you. Even if months down the road you need an ear to listen or just to vent, don't hesitate to.

I'm sending many hugs and strength for the upcoming week.

(((((((((((((((((((Phoenix and family))))))))))))))))))

(((phoenix + loved ones)))

You are so strong. You're still thinking of other people and functioning....I can't imagine anything stronger right now. You're grace in the face of all of this is breath taking. Thank you for checking in.

Your description of your Ds's time with you brother and SIL sound so nurturing safe, and wonderful. He and his fellow soldiers were fortunate to have that safe haven together with them and it sounds like it was a wonderful experience. The relationship that your DS and your brother cultivated was so special and precious; many people can go through their whole lives without such valuable connections and experiences. I just thought it was worth noting what a special situation those boys had with your brother and SIL; special people all the way around…

I cannot imagine that you are being asked to be so flexible that you will need to bend to the degree that you will need to, but you will do it, and it will feel like you will not be able to keep from snapping or that you will never be upright again, but in time I believe that you will and the sunlight will shine on you and your girls, encouraging new growth and strength renewed. Until that can happen, we will all be here sending strength your way.

Thanks for the update. Continued thoughts and prayers with you and your family.

OMG... I soooooo soooooo soooooo sorry.

[This message edited by iamsoblind42 at 9:21 PM, April 20th (Sunday)]

((((Phoenix)))))

I hope that your DS, brother and SIL are all able to be with each other now. I know you feel you may break, but I hope the idea of that can allow you to make it through. I know how strong your love is and that as much as it breaks for your losses it still goes out to those in this world who need you--your dad and DDs, and the friends of DS. It takes a remarkable, beautiful soul to think of others compassionately during a time of such sorrow, and that strength is what will allow you to bend but not break. I am glad the army is being so helpful. The SI army is always here for you too.

Thank you for the update. You and your family continue to be in my thoughts. I don't post often in your threads because I don't know what to say, but I read them all the time.

You have my continued support. Sending strength and (((hugs))).

[This message edited by simplydevastated at 8:31 PM, April 20th (Sunday)]

Thank you for the update. We are all praying so hard for you. (((hugs)))

Phoenix please look after yourself too, you are caring so much for everyone else right now and their grief. I hope they return the favour to you when you are ready.

That tree you feel like will only continue to bend in the breeze with the right nutrients and care.

Sending you strength and hugs xx.

Thank you for checking in. We are all thinking of you and your DDs. Sending you strength and peace.

Oh Phoenix, that you take the time to let us all here know what's going on, you have the biggest heart. And it can weather this. DS's friends are lucky to have you to help them.

So very sorry to read of the traumatic losses to you and your loved ones. Keeping you all in my prayers. ((Phoenix))

Thank you for taking the time to update. You and your family are on my mind and in my prayers continually.

My 15 year old DS took his life 26 years ago. If you feel the need to talk, feel free to PM me.

Sending you prayers and strength, and more (((hugs))).

((((Phoenix)))))

I just read through your last two updates, and my heart is so heavy for you. The analogy you make about the young tree is very true, but a young tree doesn't break, because it still so pliable. You are this tree, and you will withstand this storm. When the sun does come out again, you will appreciate it all the more, for having weathered such a storm, a storm that most of us can't even fathom.

You are strong, and we are all here for you.

I am also proud to be an American, and know that our military is doing all the right things for you, your family, and of course your son, and his friends.

You are in my thoughts, and prayers.

May warm, happy memories bring you peace and comfort these days.

((((and strength))))

(((Phoenix)))

I think of you every single day. Many continued prayers of love, strength and peace are being sent in your name.

May God's warmth surround you as you deal with the difficult days ahead.

And everyone here will be there with you, holding you up.

Absolutely!!!! I don't have any words - just hugs... (((Phoenix)))

(((Phoenix))).

I hope you can find peace and a moment to catch your breath. We are all here, thinking and praying for you. So sorry for your losses. My heart ached for you and your family.

There are no words I can find to express my sincerest condolences for you and your family. I wish you all the strength you need to persevere in the face of this avalanche of heartbreak. I hope that the strength of others can carry you when you can't do it on your own. My heart bleeds for you. God bless you, your father, and your DDs.