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Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 12:37 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
My heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry for the pain for you and your family. Much love to you from me and the SI family.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
Unreality ( new member #41696) posted at 2:28 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Phoenix:
As so many others have said, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I found myself thinking of you this past Easter weekend. Because of your willingness to share your losses with us, I believe I now appreciate what I have even more...as you all too well know, things can change in the blink of an eye. You have changed lives.
As you prepare to bring your son home for the final time tomorrow, please know that you have hundreds, even thousands, of us invisibly standing beside you,thinking of you, holding you and your family in our hearts.
ForwardMotion ( member #32608) posted at 2:53 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Phoenix, I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers go out to your family.
me - BH
'It's not the end of everything,
It's just end of everything you know.'
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 3:55 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Continued hugs and prayers for strength, Phoenix.
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
sad12008 ( member #18179) posted at 4:12 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 4:14 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Thinking of you before I head off to bed Phoenix. Hoping you found even a small crumb of comfort today. We're here for you.
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
punky ( member #12233) posted at 4:36 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
I am so sorry to hear this.
13 years later...finally healed. Definitely survived and thrived and you can, too.
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 4:51 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
((phoenix))
thinking of you
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
BrokenPieces ( member #7685) posted at 7:10 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Thinking of you all of the time. I am praying for you, your family and friends.
BS-43
Red Headed Imps 14 & 11
DDay 1/05
Divorce final 6/21/06
My new life is GRAND.
Married my new beginning 6/09
TrustNoOne ( member #16591) posted at 7:57 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
I find myself unable to sleep tonight. There is much on my mind. It mostly has to do with work and some corporate decisions that have been made that I need to lead my teams through.
And as I search for perspective; contemplate how to find balance and the right words - I find myself thinking of you and what you've shared with us here.
I feel humbled. I pray for you and your family. I pray for all who knew your son as they try to come terms with everything that's happened.
You are in my thoughts and prayers, Phoenix.
knutz ( member #28877) posted at 11:13 AM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Wishing you strength for the days ahead. We are all here for you.
Together 23 years
Married 20 Years
BW (me) 48
FWH: 49 (rSA)
2 children, 9 & 12
DDay: December 27, 2009
"Life is not what it is supposed to be. It is what it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference". Virginia Satir
Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 1:32 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
I have been sitting here writing a poem for DS's funeral card, and I would like to share what I've got.
***
Do not weep, do not cry
do not share with me your last goodbye.
For I am here, I am not gone,
I will be with you in your favorite song.
I will be with you when you stare at the sky,
on sunny days or in each twinkling star up high.
I will be with you on each mountain path you take,
near each stream or alpine lake.
I will be with you on hunting excursions,
sledding, four wheeling, or any diversion.
I will be with you in each flower or butterfly,
every creature in the woods as you walk by.
I will be with you when you are fishing,
when you blow out birthday candles and start wishing.
I will be with you as you walk through life,
in each joyful moment or through the inevitable strife.
You cannot hug me or stroke my hair,
but know in your heart that I am there.
I am with you now to lean on,
for I am here, I am not gone.
***
As I was finishing it, I received the news that bro and SIL have been found. I now have to share that heartbreaking news on the same day I welcome DS home. This is going to be a long day after a long sleepless night. 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 1:37 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Your poem is beautiful. I am so sorry, Phoenix. I can't even imagine the burden's you are carrying and you are still functioning. (((Phoenix1)))
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
boontje ( member #33247) posted at 1:57 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
Thinking of you today Phoenix. The poem is beautiful. ((Phoenix))
Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
Courage is not having the strength to go on; it is going on when you don't have the strength.
--Theodore Roosevelt
ThisHell ( member #37089) posted at 2:02 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
That is beautiful Phoenix. I am so sorry for all you are dealing with. You are an amazing strength and support to so many. We are here for you now with prayers and love.
Me:BW, 34/Him:BH, 34/ 3 boys, 5,8,12
4ddays, now Divorced
We are not in Kansas anymore
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 2:22 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
..(((((((((Phoenix1)))))))))
Your poem is full of love..... to and from your son.
..I am so sad for you,
..prayers sent for you , your dear son, brother and SIL
smy 
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 2:28 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
A beautiful poem phoenix.
I hope being able to bring your B and SIL home will bring everyone some comfort.
(((hugs))) and strength to you.
You are in the prayers of us all. I hope you can feel it in some small way.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:30 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
(((Phoenix)))
That was the most beautiful poem I have ever read.
Sending you hugs and strength. I'm keeping you in my prayers and heart.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 2:46 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
((Phoenix and family))
If there was a way to take a piece of your burden and carry it for you to give you a little break, I would.
Holding you and yours up in prayer.
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
lost_in_toronto ( member #25395) posted at 2:49 PM on Tuesday, April 22nd, 2014
(((phoenix)))
That poem is heartbreakingly sad and beautiful.
Sending you strength today.
Me: BS/48
Him: WS/46
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 23 years.
Reconciled.
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