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borderman ( member #16095) posted at 4:56 PM on Tuesday, September 28th, 2010
We lost our third child, first born son. He was full term, stillborn. After my wife delivered the baby the doctors and nurses were very busy working on my wife. They gave the baby to me and I was left alone in the delivery room for a few minutes holding my beautiful, dead, baby son.
It was increadibly painful but it doesn't even come close to the pain of my FWW's affair. The pain of the affair is so intense, so relentless, so cruel.
Borderman
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 4:57 PM on Tuesday, September 28th, 2010
..never would have imagined what feelings of betrayal by my lifelong partner, wife and sweetheart could do to the mind..
..then factor in that she did this with my closest and 'most trusted' best friend..for nearly 20 years??
..and there you have it..
TOTAL and UTTER destruction of everything you thought you believed in..it just was and still is unimaginable..the hurt you feel inside..
..changed forever..yup..that's me!
..may peace come to all that suffer this pain..
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 6:58 PM on Tuesday, September 28th, 2010
Not months before the ex's A started I trusted her with my mother's life... The one woman who loved me more than anyone ever has loved me... My ex is a nurse and with my mom's approval she basically called all the medical shots...
My mom died shortly after but she didn't die to spite me... She simply died... The ex on the other hand conspired and intentionally took off into her A... She basically tortured me while she was froliciling in her A...
The pain and knowledge that the one person I trusted the most in this world treated me as less than a piece of garbage...
It's that intentionally inflicted pain and selfishness that crushed my soul...
It was the cruelest and worse damn abandonment I've ever experienced in my life...
WB
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
romanticidiot ( member #28655) posted at 8:59 PM on Tuesday, September 28th, 2010
I've been through some crap like everybody else, but I've never felt anything like this. It's relentless, crippling.
For me it was/is a double betrayal. That makes it even worse.
Add to that the fact that my WW won't admit to anything (because of the scandal that would ensue?) and it's a one-way ticket to Crazyville, making long stops in Heartbreakland, Rage City, and Depressionburg.
They have no idea of the pain and damage they cause. Or maybe they do and they just don't care. I'd like to think the former.
"When you're going through Hell, keep going." -Churchill
MYBOYSMOM ( member #26318) posted at 4:46 AM on Wednesday, September 29th, 2010
Unfortunately, I believe that romanticidiot is correct. Many WS's have no idea of the pain and damage they cause. They walk away and deny it all. They blameshift and live in their fogs. They do it because they have to. They couldn't possibly live with themselves if they accepted the truth. And the truth is that THEY, through their own selfishness and immaturity, caused devestating pain to the people who loved themt the most.
I have found no words to accurately express the complete and total devastation I felt. It was horrific. It was disabling. And through it all, he insisted that he hadn't hurt me! He has NO IDEA what he did and he doesn't WANT to know.
BW 49(me)
WH - doesn't matter anymore
Married: 23 years; DS18, DS16
D-Day: 9/1/2009, D:12/21/2009
"It's a new dawn, It's a new day, It's a new life, for me, and I'm feeling good..." Michael Buble
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