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Tred ( member #34086) posted at 5:16 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
(((Janet)))
I too am sorry for your loss.
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
JanetS (original poster member #2766) posted at 5:17 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
Thanks DS. I think I'm feeling it more right now than the day of??? Maybe I was in a bit of shock, I don't know. Now I sense her absence.
In the almost 13 years she was with us she never growled, even once. Happy and sweet-natured...how lucky we were to have her in our lives.
Mommato4 ( member #15906) posted at 5:22 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
((((JanetS))))
I'm sorry for your loss. Sometimes the hardest choices to make are indeed the right ones.
I went through that 8 months ago with my jack Russell. So difficult because he was just shy of 6 years old. Kidney failure. He laid in my lap as they gave him the medicine to put him to sleep. I got to stay with him as long as I wanted. I had him cremated and and they made a paw print. He sits on the mantle so he is here with us everyday.
BS-me 34
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/2008
JanetS (original poster member #2766) posted at 5:27 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
While I was responding to DS I received new condolences. Thank you all. (I never thought of a paw print). I'm thinking of maybe planting a rose bush and having her ashes placed there, then she'll be part of the living plant.
All of us here share the "infidelity issue", but we also share so many other common experiences. And clearly having to lose a loved pet is another common thread. I feel for all of those who've been through this sadness. Pets really are part of our families.
[This message edited by JanetS at 11:28 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)]
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 5:50 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
(((Janet)))
I'm so sorry. It's heartbreaking to have to make that decision, but you did the most loving thing of all for her. Trust in that.
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:35 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
((((Janet)))) I'm so sorry for your loss. What a lucky dog she was to have such a long and love-filled life with you.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 7:59 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
I'm so sorry, Janet. Hugs.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Mommato4 ( member #15906) posted at 8:13 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
. I'm thinking of maybe planting a rose bush and having her ashes placed there, then she'll be part of the living plant.
That's sounds wonderful.
BS-me 34
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/2008
woundedwidow ( member #36869) posted at 9:45 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
JanetS, I'm so sorry you had to make that final decision for Charlotte, but you should be proud that you helped her to be pain-free and happy on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge. She was very lucky to have you as her doggie Mom. I know you must miss her lots, and I hope your sorrow lessens daily. (((Janet)))
Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 10:49 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 12:07 AM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
I am terribly sorry for your loss Janet. I believe you did what was best.
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
juliette ( member #9635) posted at 12:28 AM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
So sorry for your loss Janet. I remember Charlotte. She was a great dog.
Me : BS - 40
Have a son (Romeo) - 14 years
Well this April's Fools Day joke sucked big time.
JanetS (original poster member #2766) posted at 2:01 AM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
Thanks Juliette. You know, she was quite a "fat girl" for most of her adult life. And she went for food as if we did not feed her at all. Once her hind legs started having problems we put her on a Prescription weight control. We got her to a nice perfect weight which she held for a couple of years. Then we put her on Prescription joint development, because of her hips. But for the last few months she was losing weight and looking skinny. Not a good look for her. If somebody will tell me how, I will post her picture.
Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 6:22 PM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
I'm so sorry. Charlotte brought so much love and joy and now I know you have a big hole in your heart.
Big hugs.
I read this recently:
People are born needing to learn how to live a good life. Dogs already know how, so they don't have to stay around so long.
I'm tearing up just thinking about how hard it was for you to lose Charlotte but I think it is the greatest love of all to let her go on to the Rainbow Bridge.
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 6:25 PM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
Just wanted to add...
While I was growing up, my Mother always said, after a beloved dog would die that she did not want another because losing them was so hard.
Every time, a few weeks later, my Dad would show up with a new pup.
And Mom would fall in love again. (With both Dad and the new pup.)
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 6:45 PM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
I'm so sorry.
(((huge hugs)))
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 7:06 PM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
((((Janet and Charlotte)))
I have thought about you both a few times sinc your orginal post in April.
I am glad that you were able to have a bit more time with her.
It is soo hard when they pass. I am actually crying right now. I lost 2 dogs, and my cat last year between Feb, and Dec (they all had long good lives). It is sooo hard. A Rose for her would be wonderful. If you do some research I'm betting there is even one out there called the Charlotte.
((((and peace))))
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
JanetS (original poster member #2766) posted at 11:35 PM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
Continued thanks for all your wonderful condolences.
I won't get another dog. Charlotte was for the kids...even though, in the end, she was really MY dog. But I want the freedom to travel (husband lives/works out of country).
If I wanted a new dog my son's dog just had 8 babies. They asked, I said "no, but thanks".
soverybetrayed ( member #32948) posted at 3:05 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
Janet, I am so sorry for what you are going through and I know how much it hurts even though we know it is the right thing to do. It is because we love them so much that we make the tough decision to let them go across the Bridge. My heart goes out to you and your family. Just know that you did the right thing for your sweet baby.
Me- Happily single
Divorced 8/23/2012
I am stronger and better than before.
lost_in_toronto ( member #25395) posted at 5:12 AM on Friday, July 19th, 2013
(((Janet)))
I am sorry for your loss and glad you have the support of your son.
Me: BS/48
Him: WS/46
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 23 years.
Reconciled.
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