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Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 7:38 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Done!!!
She signed.
Final tally of proceeds:
Faithful husband: $15,200
Unfaithful XW: $500.00
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 7:38 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
Bravenewgirl ( member #36267) posted at 7:45 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Well thank God.
Is it just me Abbondad, or do you think she always intended to sign, but just wanted to turn the knife in your belly as much as possible?
I am not sure which is worse...being a total nutter that has to be talked off the ledge by an attorney every five minutes, or just pretending to be a nutter to get attention and stress out your ex as much as possible.
I am glad it went okay in the end.
[This message edited by Bravenewgirl at 1:45 PM, April 24th (Thursday)]
Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 7:45 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 7:49 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
YAYYYYYY!!!!! 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 7:50 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Wow! I'm so pleased it's turned out this way.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 7:51 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Is it just me Abbondad, or do you think she always intended to sign, but just wanted to turn the knife in your belly as much as possible?
Considering by his own admission that when they were together, he gave into her quite a lot - my guess is that she is trying desperately to hang on to this tactic.
She has yet to realize that he's gotten his balls, spine, heart, and voice back....
Me: 35 MH
Him: 41 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
1/10/18 - Again?!? Online EA's
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 7:55 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Woot, woot, woot!!!!!!
Rock it brother. Celebration time! I'll buy!
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
timeforchange ( member #27454) posted at 8:13 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Justice!!!!
Am very very pleased for you.
Onwards and upwards Abandondad 
Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
deeplysad ( member #16590) posted at 8:21 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
That is wonderful...congratulations!!!
Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 8:52 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Thank heavens!!!!
((((((HUGS)))))) to you AD!!!
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 9:06 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Final tally of proceeds:
Faithful husband: $15,200
That's a lot of champagne. Congratulations, Abbondad.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 9:07 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
5674emt ( member #40012) posted at 9:11 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Glad you have something to share with your kids!!!
BS 53
WH 44
M 14 years at time of DD
2 young daughters
DD 12-8-12
OW=Xfriend
A-3 YEARS and her husband was an accomplice.
In R, IC, & MC Since 1 week after DD. On the mend with the help of God, Friends and Family.
momentintime ( member #16394) posted at 10:35 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Now go buy your new recliner and big TV!
Just think you are now removed from the daily crazy of her AND the best part is she will be turning her crazy onto the very deserving POS!
However we all know that she will be demanding you tow HER line about the kiddos. More stress to come, but she can't quite get at YOU personally as easily anymore. If only her head would explode because she can't control you anymore.
[This message edited by momentintime at 4:36 PM, April 24th (Thursday)]
BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 10:40 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
Awesome. That calls for a sixpack of the good beer.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 10:55 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
I know you can't see or hear it from here but there are fireworks and parade happening here in your honor.
Congratufuckinglations man!!!!
I'm having a beer for you when I get home.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 11:08 PM on Thursday, April 24th, 2014
WOOWHOO!
Get back in your box you crazy fuckwit!!
No more financial ties besides CS - life is sweet!
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 12:05 AM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
**standing ovation for Abb**
WOO HOO!!!!
The crazy train is now leaving the station!! 
She has NOTHING (minus the kiddies) to yank your chain anymore!
Well done, well played, and thank heavens you are FREE!!
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 12:32 AM on Friday, April 25th, 2014
Thanks everyone! I can hear the parade and fireworks. :-)
Considering by his own admission that when they were together, he gave into her quite a lot - my guess is that she is trying desperately to hang on to this tactic.
I do believe this is the case--that this is always fueling her rage. I am simply not playing by the script: I treated her for years like a princess (out of love), and now I have been going against script, starting with divorcing her. I think she absolutely was not going to sign, however--until my attorney contacted her ex-attorney who must have shown her how incontrovertible my case was, in this case the proceeds due me. (And probably the dire consequences if she did not sign.)
The blowback has already started rumbling: she texted me offering first right of refusal, and I texted back, "No thank you."
Then another text offering me again, this time on another date. Me: "No, thank you."
Followed by a snotty Email asking me to confirm I have "refused to take the children."
She now has a job and must find a sitter. That means more money out of her pocket.
(BTW, I wasn't being an asshole; I just couldn't take the kids on those days--but I am through feeling I have to explain myself.)
I feel liberated and vindicate. She has nothing over me any more.
I have a giant credit card bill I am going to pay off. But first things first: I bought an awesome TV which I'm watching with DD right now.
:-) :-) :-)
PS: our realtor gave me an expensive bottle of wine after closing and kissed me, thanking me for being so helpful and wishing me well. (XW put her through hell as well.)
(Fist pump!)
[This message edited by Abbondad at 6:35 PM, April 24th (Thursday)]
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
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