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Well now I want to see 6M$Man (your name is hard to write) rumble with wildbananas.

Ice-water and nutting. Sounds like a party.

All while Cornflake and funnelcakes (and any other food-related usernames) serenade us with songs about touching light and heat and being complete.

(GG - you got $2 coming back? Mine was only $1. Crap.)

Oh...and our "chaperone" Skan is not paying any attention since she has her nose in a book (again) and million pieces is sitting in the corner just a hummmming for some odd reason.

Does that about sum up the old Soul Mate g2g?

Honestly, the term "soul mates" to me is a little like "s/he is my BEST friend." I hear them and think they're a little too I'm-Trying-to-Convince-You-How-Wonderful-Things-Are.

Yeah, I'm cynical, but I guess it seems the idea of soul mate is that there is someONE who comes into your life, there is an instant connection, and you live happily ever after (just b/c you're SOUL MATES.)

On the other hand, if you believe that a soul mate is a person who respects you, loves you, and is dedicated to making your relationship a long and positive one~well, I do believe that does exist.

I guess I just hear the term thrown around so much that I kind of do an eye-roll automatically.

I think looking for a soulmate would be like looking for a needle in a pile of needles. I’m at the point now that I’d be grateful to find a person who doesn’t annoy me when they blink.

More to the point....

Can someone compliment you and bring out the best in you without you having to sacrifice one single thing about yourself? Yes. Should you ignore every possibility that comes your way because you desire Hollywood’s version of romance? No.

I think I believe in soul mates, I don't believe in "The One". And, I think you can have more than one soul mate.

No.

I don’t believe in that fantasy-based concept.

I certainly don’t believe it’s that easy.

Love is wonderful but it is also a struggle.

That struggle takes inner-strength, acceptance, loyalty, and persistence.

Love is a choice - not a predestined, bliss-filled fairy-tale that just happens.

Being loyal to that choice, being true to the person you make that choice with, and being true to yourself and your values is an immense satisfaction that goes far beyond anything the notion of soul-mates can bring.

keptmyword, you said

Being loyal to that choice, being true to the person you make that choice with, and being true to yourself and your values is an immense satisfaction that goes far beyond anything the notion of soul-mates can bring.

I would like to respectfully point out that being with your soulmate and being the person you described are not mutually exclusive.

I would like to respectfully point out that being with your soulmate and being the person you described are not mutually exclusive.

I’m not exactly sure of the point.

My point is that there is no divine, creator-miracle-made one person on this earth that you are pre-destined to meet and be thee only one to blissfully and worry-free spend your life with.

If two people want to spend their lives together then they need to understand that they are different, will have disagreements and conflicts, and will undergo very stressful hard times that will test their personal values.

It is not pre-destiny that keeps them together - it is their individual and team efforts.

I believe if you are a loving healthy person who can not only love, but accept love, you can certainly love and be loved by more than one person in a life time

I did not read replies, but I feel like there are far too many people on this planet to believe there is only one for me.

dup post, that's happened before?!

[This message edited by wannabenormal at 11:26 PM, April 16th (Monday)]

dup post, that's happened before?!

[This message edited by wannabenormal at 11:24 PM, April 16th (Monday)]

Late to this party, but decided I would weigh in anyway.

Do I believe in soul mates? I used to. it was a very hard belief to let go of. Not because of how much evidence surrounds it, but because of how hard I wanted to believe it.

Think about it. If you have a soul mate, then that basically means that whatever you do, wherever you end up, this one person in the universe will find you (and you him/her) and that will be it.

What is the point of life then? If it's all laid out for you like that?

This was hard. I struggled for a long time with the notion of free will vs. God being all-knowing. How could they co-exist? Don't all things happen for a reason??? That's where I would get stuck:

If that is true, then do people get cancer for a reason? Do people get cheated on for a reason? Lose their loved ones for a reason?

No. No, they don't. What I do believe is that God (or whatever you believe in) gives you the opportunity to make the best out of any scenario. It doesn't happen for a reason, but you can bring reason to it by what you do with it.

Bringing this full circle, this is what helped me to understand soul-mates. Soul mates (plural) in my opinion are people in your life that you have a deep connection with, that help you with tremendous amounts of growth that maybe wouldn't have been possible otherwise. They understand you, love you for who you are, encourage you, etc. I have one for sure in my life...She's a woman, as am I, and we are both heterosexual. at the same time, I have no doubt that her existence/involvement in my life has brought about the most personal healing, growth, self-love, knowledge, understanding, etc. than I have EVER experienced. I also know that due to the nature of our relationship, she very well may not be in my life for long/ever. Maybe only 5 or so years.

She reminds me a lot of, well, me. Just a little older. And how amazing to see myself in someone that I love and admire so much?!?!

If you are looking for one man (or woman) to come into your life and be that person, it's not impossible...nor is it impossible to have more than one. Just know, that it may not be a lover, sexual partner or life partner.

I no longer believe that the one person we marry will necessarily be our soul mate. I believe that he/she could be, but don't have to be in order for us to build an awesome, loving, deep relationship with them.

I don't think that a soulmate is someone we should aspire to meet, I think we should aspire to connect with all whom we meet.

In the words of Liz Gilbert (and I know she's not a favorite person around her but I think her description is spot-on)....

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”

So, yes...I believe in soulmates. I do not believe we have just one...and I don't believe they necessarily come in the package that we may traditionally think/expect. I also believe in "soul contracts"....that we agree to the relationships we have prior to our incarnation - even the ones that cause us pain - as part of our own soul's plan for evolution.

Why am I not at all surprised at your response, tsmf?

I think we grok each other.....