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Underserving (original poster member #72259) posted at 11:38 PM on Wednesday, February 17th, 2021
I really am so grateful for each response, even the one who said to bail. It only reiterates that even here on a reconciliation forum, there are still people who think your only option should be to divorce. It’s a real reality for us who choose to stay, knowing others might judge us for our decisions. One I’m still working on being able to ignore.
Hope everyone is doing well!
BW (32)Found out 3 years post end of AD-day 12-9-19In R
Infidelity brings out the cuss in me. I’m not as foul mouthed in real life. ;)
Trapped74 ( member #49696) posted at 10:57 PM on Friday, February 19th, 2021
My shame is in my head. I know it's an ego issue.
I used to be proud of my marriage, I used to be a wife that never joined in with the "my husband" jokes/comments.
I am not proud of my marriage any longer. I am not proud to be his wife. I am not proud that he is my husband.
Oh my gosh, so much this. I used to ooze pride in my "hot hubby" how much fun we had, how much we enjoyed each others' company. And because of my business, I said these things in a published and public forum. In magazines for people to read. Knowing that I am in print saying how much we enjoy each other and loved to spend time together WHILE HE WAS ACTIVELY BALLS-DEEP IN ANOTHER WOMAN absolutely kills me. I am not proud of him or our marriage and will never say anything good about him to my friends or acquaintances again.
Like I wasn't living up to the 'for better or worse' part of my vows,
Right? But that whole "forsaking all others" part is negotiable?? That's what pisses me off about my no-fault state: HE BROKE THE CONTRACT. Since he voided the marital contract, there is no marriage, therefore, there should be no marital assets.
Many DDays. Me (BW) 49 Him (WH) 52 Happily detached and compartmentalized.
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