40YOSL ( member #49318) posted at 5:52 AM on Friday, March 6th, 2026
Psychology Today reported in February 2022 that the American Psychological Assoc. research found that only 44% of women who have cheated are still married.
I doubt that this information will be that helpful to Yellowdoxie, but the odds certainly are better that 1 out of 11.
[This message edited by 40YOSL at 5:54 AM, Friday, March 6th]
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 11:04 AM on Friday, March 6th, 2026
How did the talk/intervention go?
I get it that a lot of the information on this site sounds harsh...
I think that when dealing with infidelity there is very little leeway to give ground on some basic requirements. It’s then a question where the answer can vary situation-by-situation, what’s the best way to get those requirements met.
In some instances, it might require a hard stance, in some maybe a softer stance. The key-issue is IMHO the final outcome.
As an example: As a cop I had to place lot’s of people in lockup. I doubt a single one wanted to spend the next 24 hours in a cell. I could be calm, patient, work with them (within the scope I could) and walk them into the cell, or I could drag them by force and slam the door on them. Basically the same result, but in once scenario the end-goal is reached with minimal risk and effort, in the other it’s brute force. End result the same.
The minimal requirements I would have wanted to see after the "talk" would be that:
Total accountability and openness.
Total accountability moving forwards.
Total NC with OM – including a new gym.
A NC letter to OM.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
