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4 more days... right?

4 days 16 hours 40minutes to freedom.

Getting nervous. I just want it to go smooth with no changes. Then I throw open the blinds again and smile at the world again.

This infidelity is like a tumor. Cut it out with divorce, radiate the area with counseling and walk away cured with a new appreciation for life. (Just a analogy I get real cancer is a scary mother..no disrespect for those that have experienced that)

Say a prayer, cross your fingers and hope nothing changes till then.

Neighbors want to screw with her and been texting me often. They all want me to stay and have been texting and stopping by to tell me. Nice to hear they as casual friends care that much. They all want to screw with her...Really I could care less about messing with her, she does enough damage to herself no assistance needed and it isnt worth the effort. She isn't occupying my thoughts all the time and anger is being replaced with feeling bad for her. I would never want her life...ugh what a shame.

If I can escape with finances intact, my boys most of the time, my career, and a promising future that's all I need to be happy. Single or married again I am having fun.

Looking forward to thanking OM. Not so much to fuck with him as to show him I don't give the fucks he thinks I do. Man if I knew before what I know know I never even would have flirted with her let alone dated and married. He has to know more than I did already. Have the broken toy bud. I played with it hard, get what use you want and throw it away or keep it, I don't care, I've grown out of it. Onward.

[This message edited by RockstarDad at 4:37 PM, April 11th (Wednesday)]

Strange.

I never met her, but I feel sorry for her, too.

Once divorced, om will probably kick her to the curb. She's less desirable now that she's free. Just wait until some young cutie--with no kids--crosses his path. The 'luuurve' show will hit the skids.

I agree with whoever said staying there shows your kids that THEY were the most important thing. But if you can't do it, no judgement.

IF you sell that house, I hope the cute younger thing he is bound to leave her for moves in. That'd be an excellent karma for her...

Four more days!

[This message edited by latebloomer45 at 7:35 PM, April 11th (Wednesday)]

I'm nervous for you. I mean I know their relationship is going to explode... I just want it to happen 4 days, 16 hours and 41 minutes from now.

I agree with the previous poster. Once you are divorced I doubt he will be as attached to your EX. When he find out you are happy to be rid of her a lot of the luster will be gone. I've got to wonder if he knows this is the second marriage that has gone south because of her cheating.

I just reread your first post. Did you ever find out what she did with the mortgage money?

[This message edited by Freeme at 5:53 AM, April 12th (Thursday)]

Personally I think it is a matter of years, but we'll see. Not my problem and that is what matters.

Have the broken toy bud. I played with it hard, get what use you want and throw it away or keep it, I don't care, I've grown out of it.

^^^^ YESSSSS!!!! Just awesome. That, ladies and gentlemen, is what we call “detachment“! LOVE IT!!!!

You are going to be WAY better than fine! Counting down with you!

Winter snowstorm shut everything down here. Court is shutdown tomorrow. Fuck, fuck fuck.

I don't want to be married to this c*** one more day. My anxiety has been a 9 outs 10 the last day and now it ain't even gonna happen tomorrow. Super freaking pissed. Dammit.

Of all the stinking things...come on.

Anxiety and darkness come just before the light.

Take a deep breath. You're almost there.

Yea I was looking forward to the light tomorrow. Had the day planned. Had to buy new clothes cause nothing fit anymore I lost to much weight. Was going to go I looking stellar and get it done. No need for words, wasn't gonna say anything to her. Then stop in HR and drop her from health insurance (doubt she will have any anymore). Then drop her auto insurance. Throw the ring(s) (she hasn't given me hers yet) in the river. Lunch with a best friend and then go home and crash cause I work the night before.

I hope it isn't delayed long who knows when I get in now. I really wanted the neigh or to be able to screw his girlfriend and not my wife tomorrow.

[This message edited by RockstarDad at 6:19 PM, April 15th (Sunday)]

When you're primed it's a real letdown when it doesn't happen. It'll happen Rockstar. It'll still happen. Hopefully just a short delay.

When it's final, you need to throw a big party at your house with your curtains/blinds open so they can see you are celebrating.

Sorry RD. That’s a huge letdown. It will happen. You will be free very very soon. I’m sorry that Mother Nature intervened.

It'll pass.

Good things come to those who wait.

I like Jade's idea.

Drat, I've been holding my breath for this to be over for you. I've still got this fear that something will blow-up and she will run across the street for your help and support. I know you've given her no indication that you would help her but..you never know with these people. Pissed for you, angry for you.

[This message edited by Freeme at 10:51 AM, April 16th (Monday)]

Hang in there, man. You've been kicking ass at this thing and it sucks to hit detour so close to the finish line but you can make it.

My oldest is my STBXW as well and I love her like she's my own so I understand your feeling there.

Hopefully it won't be delayed long but even if it is you got this. You've come this damn far already, right?

Thanks guys/gals. I was planning on ending thus chapter of the book and starting to write the next one. Probably have to wait until tomorrow to get it rescheduled.

I too have the fear that she will feel entitled or something happens. 4.months ago I would have given everything for them to explode. Now I am praying for the to stay together...kind humorous.

Was cleaning up what the plows left at the end of my driveway. Dude leaves for work and the way he backs up he is about 20 feet away. I wave, he looks like a bag-o-shame and shit raises his hand in a meek wave looks away and leaves. This time I couldn't help but smile a littls as I waved though. I am so glad I am not him.

I got this. Whether it's one more day or another month or two. Thanks for letting me vent.

I think you need a big banner for the party, Rockstar. Something about independence day or losing a lot of dead weight or someone taking a bullet for you. I don't know. Others have more imagination and talent than I.

"Now I am praying for the to stay together..."

I've been there. Holding my breath until the divorce was final. It was insanely stressful and then a huge relief when it was over. Of course then it became hilarious when he dumped her.