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yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 11:23 PM on Saturday, April 26th, 2014
Was thinking about you again today. Sending more thoughts and prayers your way.
(((((Phoenix1)))))
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
sudra ( member #30143) posted at 11:38 PM on Saturday, April 26th, 2014
Just saw this thread yesterday. My heart hurts for you and all of your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Me (BW) (5\64), Him(SAWH) (68)Married 31 years, 1 son (28), 1 stepdaughter (36) DDay #1 January 2004DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)Working on R
carnelian ( member #24824) posted at 2:37 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Thinking about you and your family today
(((Phoenix1))
What are you going to do when he leaves you?
Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 3:07 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Phoenix1,
Sending strength, thoughts and prayers to you and your family today.
Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 4:02 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
((((Phoenix and family)))
AgainandAgain ( member #34835) posted at 6:02 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Just wanted to know I'm thinking of you and your family.
I'm sending hugs and strength your way!
truthsetmefree ( member #7168) posted at 6:51 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
So much in life I don't understand. 
My heart hurts for you in the loss if your SIL.
My heart breaks for the loss of your brother.
There is no description adequate for the feelings on the loss of your sweet son.
For how this has happened...for the magnitude in the timing - it's just simply too hard to comprehend. It feels insurmountable to just try to offer you any comfort. I know I am woefully inadequate. 
I think of you often. I send you love and light every time. I'm so very sorry that any of this has happened.
Hope has two beautiful daughters; their names are Anger and Courage. Anger at the way things are, and Courage to see that they do not remain as they are. ~ Augustine of Hippo
Funny thing, I quit being broken when I quit letting people break me.
knutz ( member #28877) posted at 2:20 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
I hope that you and your family are getting the rest and nourishment you all need. We are all here for you when you are ready.
Together 23 years
Married 20 Years
BW (me) 48
FWH: 49 (rSA)
2 children, 9 & 12
DDay: December 27, 2009
"Life is not what it is supposed to be. It is what it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference". Virginia Satir
Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 4:35 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
Thank you all for the continued support. Made it thru the funeral and burial. Going thru all the military honors a second time was rough, though touching. Hearing taps played again and the rifle salute was tough. He is finally off display, which really bothered me, and is at rest. The cemetery is actually quite beautiful, surrounded by forest and he is facing the mountains. I am certain he would like it knowing wildlife wanders freely on the grounds.
Family has finally all left and I can decompress. All DS's soldier friends that were here all wanted to stop by and see DS's pride and joy that he routinely flaunted pics of...his jacked up '86 Ford F-150 mud truck. I let them start her up in his honor and they were crawling all over it checking out DS's mechanical work. It was quite touching and I know DS was looking down with pride.
We now have to wait for his personal effects to ship here and finish up with probate and military legal stuff. In the meantime, I am also working with nieces to plan bro and SIL's combined memorial services (taking place in two different states). I could be flying out again as early as next week for that. This is all really starting to wear on me, but it is good to finally have at least a little bit of breathing room again. Ex and I had a slight altercation at the reception because he was being an ass, but it was otherwise uneventful, especially with how much time we have been spending together. That will be a topic (rant) for another time in the D/S forum when I have the energy.
What an incredibly horrific month it has been...
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 10:53 PM, April 27th (Sunday)]
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 4:51 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
Sending hugs to you Phoenix. I hope you weather these remaining tasks and find peace arriving day by day. ((((Phoenix))))
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 5:47 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
Sending you hugs, prayers, strength, and peace. I can't believe you are going through all this.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 5:53 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
(((Phoenix)))
Prayers
Strength
Mojo
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:01 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
((((Phoenix)))) You have been on my mind constantly, hon. Hope things go smoothly with planning the memorial services for your brother and sister-in-law.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 6:29 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
((((Phoenix))))
Sending more strength. We are all thinking of you.
((((Phoenix))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
okaynow ( member #13813) posted at 6:48 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
(((Phoenix))) Praying for you.
Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 1:54 PM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
Oh, sweetie, my heart just aches for you. You are constantly in my thoughts.
((((Phoenix1))))
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 3:29 PM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
I simply can not believe the hell you are enduring. OMG sweetie, massive thoughts and prayers for your strength and healing. ((((((Phoenix1))))))
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 3:47 PM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
(((((Phoenix)))))
Thinking of you and praying for continued strength.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 3:51 PM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
(((HUGS)))
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 4:01 PM on Monday, April 28th, 2014
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