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I am not a menz, but I am also interested in this topic. I don't remember if I've heard FWH worry about his penis size or not (though he's mentioned it), but he is concerned about his weight (I'm not - I think he's perfect). I think he is insecure about his body, and it comes across in his excessive comments about other women's bodies - to the point where it's brought out my own insecurities as well. Really, he could be noticing my smile, but he's gotta point out my pimples instead? You notice what you choose to notice.

I've got to wonder if it hurts men to be watching porn as well. We've heard the arguments about men being visual and needing porn to satisfy a drive (as if women aren't visual/don't have as high a sex drive as men?). We've heard the complaints of how many women worry they won't live up to the images and acts of the porn stars (which I think is partially why so many women consider porn to be infidelity). But seeing images of huge penises all the time must be hurting men too, right? Even that little voice in the back of your head might say something hurtful when you see Ron Jeremy or whoever, that makes you wonder why you couldn't be that big?

Both men and women: stop looking at those images. Seriously. Stop looking and start feeling. Stop giving those images so much power. Stop thinking about those images when you're in bed with your partner. Push them out of your head and really focus on you and your partner. After a while, intimacy might start having a different picture for you. My H and I have had more sex AND greater intimacy since he stopped watching porn. We've both still got some self-esteem issues though, so we're working on them together. I don't think I ever noticed my H's penis size until he mentioned it. I was just happy to enjoy him!

[This message edited by silverhopes at 12:07 AM, December 26th (Monday)]

This is an area I've always been insecure about. I wonder how much it has to do with growing up with a dad that joked about sex a lot, hearing some of the stuff he said may have put an early hitch in my giddyup. Then there was the fact that my brother is more blessed in that area.

So you grow up worrying you got a little pecker. And don't lose your virginity until you're 23, well you might have some issues about that.

But I was just talking about this last night with a friend. About how I've always been insecure not just the size thing but it fell over into my overall ability coming into question.

But it was never the case in reality, I've always found a way for the woman to enjoy it before I ever make a move towards myself. I see it now as like an insurance that she isn't going to like this but I'll make sure she's had a good time before it gets there.

I guess I'm saying insecurity is more about whats in our heads than reality.

Lot of the truth is it's all about how you are with the woman. Take your time, enjoy her body, make it about more than just the act.

My gf and i laid in bed for 4 hours late this afternoon and evening. There were periods of sex, talking and sharing about the whole time, kissing, and holding the entire time. I may not have 9 inches but i damn sure know how to love my woman

Hmm...I am uniquely qualified to answer this question, finally SI has provided me with a purpose!

I dated an ex-porn star. She made films with some of the "giants" of the industry.

One day, as I made a self-deprecating joke about my lack of a monster-sized penis, she told me that I was bigger than some folks she'd worked with "And they made good money" doing it.

Well...hurray for me! I have always been a bit self-conscious about it without really knowing where I stood in terms of the average guy. I suppose it's a question we'd all like to ask, but not necessarily one we'd like answered.

Since the XPSGF (new acronym for SI), I have dated two other women who've complimented me on my size.

Huh. Who'd have thunk it. I spent nine years with someone who made me feel inadequate only to find out on SI that she obviously has a huge vagina!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. No different in this case, I suppose.

I think size only matter if you happen to fall into the tiny tiny size. But even then if you learn how to make love to a woman with your entire body the size will not matter.

I have been with JUMBO, large, average and tiny. I was really only stunned with tiny and that was because he didn't try anything else.

The best were always the average guys full of passion.

It wouldn't be Christmas without the bumping of a penis thread.

It wouldn't be Christmas without the bumping of a penis thread.

It wouldn't be Christmas without the bumping of a penis thread.

Would that be thrusting it up to the top?

I agree with hitbyatruck; the only one who didn't "do it" for me, was a teeny tiny guy who didn't try any other methods of pleasing me. And as much as I love my SO, he's just too endowed for us to enjoy as many positions - we have to be careful or else it's too painful for me. The best sex was with an "average" guy - he ended up being a man-child but the sex was awesome.

Would that be thrusting it up to the top?

This thread makes me want to find my way off the bus!

not that this subject needs any more posts lol but just wanted to add that I think it's definitely not the size, but what you do with it.

Pornos are meant to LOOK exciting, not FEEL awesome for the girl. Yeah, she's yelping or whatever, but that's what she's supposed to do, it's what sells, duh. I wish porns came with a disclaimer "warning, your gf/w will NOT like to do most of this stuff most likely."

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[This message edited by smallmouse at 9:23 PM, January 4th (Wednesday)]

not that this subject needs any more posts

but who can resist posting on a penis thread....

BTW, thank you smallmouse!

Pornos are meant to LOOK exciting, not FEEL awesome for the girl.

Yes, Please, guys, do NOT get your sex tips from the pornos....that stuff really does not do a whole lot for real women. Our happy spot can NOT be reached by most of the positions they show in those things.....

A Penis Story

There was a guy I dated and fell for about a year ago. I never, ever fell so hard for a guy! He was handsome, romantic, easy to talk to, and had a rock hard body (rode his bike 2 hours a day, every day). He was the CEO of 3 (yes 3) different companies, he had a vacation home in Hawaii and Park City. And he was my age. He also was a motivational speaker "Conquer your Fears".

I was bugged. I googled him. No red flags. Everything was as he told me. What was the catch? He could have anyone, why did he choose 48 year old me?

When I finally saw him naked (he turned down the lights as he undressed, which I thought was odd)... I got my answer.

Micropenis. Look it up, its a true condition! Thumb-sized. If that.

It didn't matter to me ... I was relieved to find out his secret. He knew how to please me in other ways.

BTW...I ended it with him for non penis-based reasons...

Micropenis. Who knew?

[This message edited by HappilyUnMarried at 8:40 PM, December 27th (Tuesday)]

I would take a man that has passion and puts some effort into pleasing me any day over a huge dick.

It is all about me, you know.

It is all about me, you know.

We women are a bit narcissistic when it comes to being sexually satisfied, aren't we ?

As in many penis size threads before this one, size is not an issue. I prefer average, much more versatile.

If a man isn't interested in what turns me on then there won't be a second chance. I put up with way too much from FT for years.

It is all about ME and he will be rewarded nicely.

gma

I just want to know where all the micro vajay jay's are?

I just want to know where all the micro vajay jay's are?

I'm not micro but goodness do I need to be lubed up...talk about tight. Not even childbirth loosened it up.

I need a cigarette after reading this thread!

WB

Bring on the 34AAs. To me it's all about the nipples!

Yeah, I'm Mr. Average, both length and width and have self doubts as FWW's OM#1 was very large both length and width.

Males are concerned with penis size from the time they're old enough to know that there are differences.

I told myself I was going to bump this thread but I'd post this link if someone else did!

What Women Really Think About Penis Size:

http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2009/07/17/hookinguprealities/what-women-really-think-about-penis-size/

To women I would say this: Give your partner plenty of reassurance. Tell him his c*ck is beautiful, or powerful, or hot, or whatever. Focus on what genuinely pleases you and give him credit for that. We women are partly responsible for this problem, and we should make every effort to correct it.

And to the guys: Seriously, dude, take a deep breath and don’t ever worry about this again. Be imaginative and giving in bed and your partner will be 100% satisfied, even if your little guy is smaller than average.