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If you don't want to do it, don't. I'm almost 50 and started keeping a "landing strip" about 6 or 7 years ago. Even though I haven't had sex in three years, I still like the clean feeling of being trimmed up. I've shaved it all off a couple of times but I really don't like it that way. Since I'm the only one who sees it, it doesn't matter. If he's trying to guilt you into doing it, don't do it. If it's just something he wants you to try, you might consider trying it once, but THE CHOICE IS YOURS.

I have mine lasered off apart from a strip, and am not even having sex! It's pretty common these days, me personally I hate hair down there as t makes me feel unclean which is why I was happy to take the more permanent option of laser as opposed to wax or shaving, it's for me no one else.

If I let mine just grow and do nothing with it, my pubic hair will get aobut 4 inches in length in no time. BLECH! Personally speaking, it's just unsanitary for me to let it get that way. I trim really close with clippers (no guard) once a month just before my monthly "visitor". I can't do bald as I get hair bumps due to my ethnicity. I wouldn't do bald even if I could because I just don't like the way that feels but with it cropped close, sexual sensations are much more intense. I vote for - It's YOUR body - if you want to do it do it and if you don't then don't.

eta: I'm 47

[This message edited by Chicky at 6:39 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)]

Funny that people keep bringing up age. According to my 26 year old, her peer group do not do this. They consider it the "older" gals that do it. I have had this discussion with some friends and it seems most of the women I know that do it are in their 30s. Maybe it is a generational or locational thing, she is on the East Coast at an Ivy League institution. I am in the Southwest.

The point that it was a problem on this thread is that her WH was using prostitutes that shaved their kitties. Therefore, it would seem cruel and abusive to want her to do it.

WH's MOW was totally shaved. She's approaching 50. WH says that the "guys at work" say that all their conquests are shaved. I think it has something to do with the fact that they are all watching porn and want to be porn stars. Me? I didn't know any of this. I don't talk about sex with my colleagues. I only ever saw WH's pubic area while we were married. Who knew?

If WH wants to have that shaved MOW, he knows where to find her.

As others have mentioned, I would be more concerned with his reaction than anything else. If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it. At the same time, if you are then do.

Personally, I do (my preference and Do3K preference) and Do3K shaves everything but his legs, arms, eyebrows, and his faux hawk Neither of us are porn stars, kids, or whores...just sayin'

When my DD and I had this convo, it started about waxing. I have a friend that is an aesthetician that does this for people. She doesn't do it for herself. The only thing that looked interesting to me is that you can bedazzle your kitty after waxing. That I would do for a silly bit of fun. But couldn't do the waxing first, ouch!

I am with everyone else on him asking this.

For us personally I do not. I can not use a regular razor even on my legs because I have a skin condition that causes a mineral to build up on my hair follicles. I bleed a lot and I am in pain for days. I do however use an electric razor some times. But don't need to I have very thin hair down there due to this condition.

You do what you want. I have asked my H what he likes and he says I'm a man I don't care what it looks like as long as I get to play with it.

t/j

OK, is it just me or does it strike anyone else as funny we would have 4 full pages on a topic about "Bald Beavers"? Sorry ladies, quasi chauvinistic remark I know.

Anyhoo, I also triggered when I saw this title. stbxWW did this 3 times for POSOM. They had reams of email convos about it with her sending progress pics to him. And while she did do it back in her 30's, it still pissed me off to no end when I found that out. (She was 57 at the time BTW.)

Funny thing is that I remember her telling me back in her 30's how it would hurt due to razor burn... especially in the dead of summer. So after I found out she did it for OM, I insisted she do it again for me. Not because I really wanted it... but rather secretly hoping she'd get severe razor burns again. I know, I know... that was childish of me.

ETA: Is it OCD to go back and edit your typos two days later?

[This message edited by PanicAttack53 at 1:09 AM, May 3rd (Friday)]

This thread has been one of the highlights of my day.

I think its great to talk about the crazy, kind of out there private stuff because its nice to know how many people can relate to THAT stuff.

Reminds me of talking with his DD's mom, no one quite gets what its like to deal with him as a spouse like someone whose been there, including all of the weird stuff. Like agreeing with him that his member is impressively sized even when it's not because you just can't bear to disillusion him.

So yeah... great thread!

I just wanted to say I read the topic as "shared vaginas" and was looking at cloud computing in another tab and, well... anyway, nm

I don't know if she started doing this during her A, or before, but it's not something that bothers me since I do it as well for hygiene and comfort reasons. I made her throw out dog bowls, but tending to landscaping isn't even on my radar for some reason. Maybe it was at some point, but I can't recall.

[This message edited by StillGoing at 7:00 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)]

Generally speaking, I think the grooming down there goes with the times...

When I was cleaning out my dad's house, I found some old playboys. Funny. 70's ones had bushy ones, 80's had more of the landing strip look and they seemed to get balder now...

I thought it was funny at the time. Maybe it was just evolution, but that is what I noticed.

I do think it is personal preference. I do what I like. I think you should to.

As others have said, his comment is bothersome because it's like he wants you to because of his AP's. Yuk!

This thread has been one of the highlights of my day.

Same here! I keep coming back to read up on all the dirty details on how fellow SIers tend to their gardens

If you want to be sure that everyone on SI reads your post, put the word "vagina" in the topic!

Back o/t.. Letitout, did you and WH discuss this at all yet? How is this playing out on your end? It's clear that we all have different standpoints and preferences on the art of shaving but we all agree that you should do only what you are comfortable with doing. On the one hand i do not believe in "rewarding" WH with a bald kitty if you don't think he deserves it or might have ulterior motives. OTOH, maybe this is an opportunity for you and him to spice things up a bit? Not 100% on your situation, jmo.

~Larry

If you want to be sure that everyone on SI reads your post, put the word "vagina" in the topic!

Haha that is so true!! I was thinking this thread is getting massive!!!

I wonder if I started a "back, sack and crack" thread it would be as popular!!

I'd have loved someone to come along and say "I like to have a vajazzle at all times"- I'm not sure if you guys do them in the US- if not, google and it will brighten your day!! Haha

Mow waxed her vaj bald. Wh said he really didnt think much of it. Ya, right! He liked it & im sure he told her how much. She was sending him pics of her bald vaj on his cell. He saved them so he must have liked looking at it. No pics of her huge saggy fun bags though...guess those werent the focal point in their relationship. Her magic vaj was.

I used to just trim mine up and sometimes do a landing strip. If i messed up id shave it all off. Wh would always comment on liking it "bald"...

After d-day i was trying to be this sexy hottie lol and kept it shaved bald for a year. Got sick of the up keep and the hair is there in my opinion for a purpose. I kept getting friction irritation from my clothes, sex. Went back to the landing strip. Wh isnt fond of it. Oh well. He can go chase after that bald cougar. sorry had to add that! lol....Its a personal preference and depends on your hair type and skin type too.

Most my friends in there 30's dont shave it all off or wax it all off. Most the women i know who do it or tried it are in their mid to late 40's...including mow.

Wonder if her waxed vaj was a red flag to her bh. Sorry but the thought of her having that thing waxed makes me lol...and seeing her bedazzled bald vaj! I laughed so hard and wh. Sadly its the only pretty thing on her. Ive seen pics. ( barf)

My wh trims his junk with an electric razor and guard. He has for over 10 yrs since his vasectomy. He started shaving it and i didnt like that at all. I asked him to stop. He went back to trimming it.

Sorry for my vent...if it makes you uncomfortable then dont do it if he cant understand hes a douche!

Hi, new here but this one definitely triggered some issues for me.

My WH asked me to shave-oh around 2 years ago...and he confessed he started an A oh around...2 years ago.

Yeah, not a good feeling, but after shaving for the last 2 years it is just more comfortable for me. It's your choice, if you don't like it or it triggers bad memories/ emotions don't do it. It's your body, not his. Ask him to change something about his appearance and see how he reacts. (It does however keep everything cleaner during periods.)

Generally speaking, I think the grooming down there goes with the times...

When I was cleaning out my dad's house, I found some old playboys. Funny. 70's ones had bushy ones, 80's had more of the landing strip look and they seemed to get balder now...

I thought it was funny at the time. Maybe it was just evolution, but that is what I noticed.

Gwenyth Paltrow has for some reason been all over the media talking about how she loves to keep it "full 70's" down below, and had to shave it close for a revealing dress she was wearing. So maybe the full 70's look is coming back in fashion!

Don't mean to t/j but what if the tables were turned. WW instead of WH. And its the BH (not WH) asking (not demanded, just asked) the WW (not BW) to shave. To do something special just for him or something the BH thinks might be sexy. Does that change the analysis?

Don't mean to t/j but what if the tables were turned. WW instead of WH. And its the BH (not WH) asking (not demanded, just asked) the WW (not BW) to shave. To do something special just for him or something the BH thinks might be sexy. Does that change the analysis?

Not really. Most of the females in here would be saying that its her choice. Just like in thread where the BH was asking his WW to have sex with him, but she wouldn't, and he was upset that she gave it up to the OM so easily and often. One of the females in here was a rape victim and was equating his requests to rape. The rest were saying that its his WWs choice and too bad for him.

My fWW likes me to be clean shaven, no mustache. Well, to hell with her, its my choice. I'll grow a goatee just because I can.

[This message edited by lm2024 at 5:37 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)]

t/j

GAHHHH could Gwynyth Paltrow BE any more freaking obnoxious?

end t/j