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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 1:25 PM on Saturday, February 1st, 2014
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have chosen to reach out here, where you are safe, with people who care.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Elektra ( member #13326) posted at 7:43 PM on Saturday, February 1st, 2014
So very sorry for your loss. Take good care.
Divorced in 2010
Enjoying my freedom.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 3:27 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I'm so sorry for your loss.
(((lonely2009)))
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 4:08 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Ellejay ( member #30498) posted at 4:17 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
My heart goes out to you. Words will never be enough. I am so sorry that you have had this loss. We are here for you.
Ellejay
Married 25 years now divorced.
D-Day: 20/11/10
Me: 48.5 plus 10% GST
Him: mental age 6 (apologies to all 6 year olds)
Betrayal: Who cares anymore?
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 4:24 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I am so sorry ((hugs)). I have no words, but want you to know I will say a prayer for you.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
SadInNC ( member #42170) posted at 4:43 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I am sending you hugs and prayers. So very sorry to hear about your tragic loss.
BS/Me WH/Him
"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person
soveryweary ( member #32265) posted at 5:01 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
(( lonely)) I am so sorry for your loss.
Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.
TooAloof ( member #12764) posted at 6:21 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I can't imagine your pain and sorrow. So sorry.(((Lonely2009)))
I hope you find peace soon
The Cure for Everything is Salt Water; Tears, Sweat, the Sea
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 7:42 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Hi Lonely2009. I am so very sorry for your loss. No parent should ever have to lose a child. There are no words it. I lost my younger brother day after my 21st birthday. Day of my birthday he said his goodbyes. I have never had another birthday since then. I know how those holidays will feel for you. I lost 5 people that I was close to in a two year span. Three of them were young and way before their time. Including my brother.
I can relate to those things that people say. What I have found in my life is that people do not know how to handle death. More importantly they have no idea how to communicate with you about it. After my bothers death I learned who my friends were and who weren't. Those that are my best friends today, more like family actually, are those that didn't speak. They communicated with me through their actions. One best friend would show up randomly and get me out of the house. Another would call me weekly to check in and ask me to move in with him out of state. The one's who distanced themselves from me after my brothers death were the one's that would say the stupid things. Funny that after 21 years later none of them are in my life anymore.
Everyone wants to say I'm sorry. It's those that are there for you that help the most in the long run. Lean on these people. Don't hesitate to reach out to them. Know that I will be thinking of you and sending you all the strength in the world to get through the days as they pass by.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 8:00 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 8:14 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
(((lonely2009)))
I'm so sorry. There are just no words that any of us could say that will quell your grief.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 8:14 PM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
(((lonely2009)))
I'm so sorry. There are just no words that any of us could say that will quell your grief.
TrulyReconciled ( member #3031) posted at 4:32 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
(((lonely2009)))
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I have a daughter just a little older and I cannot imagine what you are going through.
TR 
"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 4:43 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
((Hugs)) again to you
lonely2009 (original poster member #26370) posted at 4:43 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
I appreciate all the hugs and support.
Parents should never outlive a child.
I know we are not the first to experience this tragedy nor will be the last.
Puts a lot of things in perspective.
BS- Me -young at heart
FWH- AARP Eligible
M - Over a quarter of a century
DDay - 9-14-09
R - going full steam ahead
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 5:07 PM on Monday, February 3rd, 2014
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved son.
((((((lonely and DH))))))
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Toodevoted ( member #33149) posted at 4:44 AM on Tuesday, February 4th, 2014
I'm so sorry (((lonely2009))) sending you hugs
BS (me): 44
WH: 44
DD: Dec 2009 but let him rugsweep
BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 5:01 AM on Tuesday, February 4th, 2014
My condolences to you on the loss of your son. Please know I will be praying for you and your whole family. (((lonely2009)))
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 4:47 PM on Tuesday, February 4th, 2014
Lonely,
I don't have any words for the pain. I lost my daughter 1.5 years ago.
I think the pain will always be with you. I agree try to find a grief group. I am still trying to get to one of those.
Please try to take care of yourself.
((((Lonely and family))))
Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
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