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monarchwings ( member #39891) posted at 7:00 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
Oh I am as sorry for your loss. I have walked in your shoes. My DD died suddenly during her nap when she was a toddler. There were no prexisting conditions. I still cannot understand how a normal day turned so horribly wrong. I know how numb I was g or a long time, then the pain of grief , then the destruction of my marriage. I miss her every. I miss saying her name. Its tough and I know your heart feels like its going to literally rip in two. Its hard to see that you will get through this and when you do its hard to accept the unacceptable. But time does heal. He was your son and your love and the bond you create with your children is immortal. I will pray for you during this difficult time. Please know that time does heal slighly. You dont get over it, you get better at dealing with it.
Sparkles ( member #39901) posted at 7:04 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
I am so, so very sorry for your loss.
mom of 2 ( member #11214) posted at 7:40 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
Oh my heart breaks for you! 
My sincerest condolences on the loss of your son.
I have not experienced the loss of a child but unfortunately since I joined SI, I know there are many members who have been through this. I hope you will find the support you are seeking by starting this thread. I am grateful (for you) to the members that have walked in your shoes and have replied. This community offers tremendous compassion when you need it.
Wishing you and your family peace and strength.
(((lonely2009)))
Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.
Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)
weeping willow ( member #22800) posted at 8:09 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
((((lonely))))
I sent you a pm.
BW - me FWH - him
D Day - July 26, 2007
Married 40 years
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 8:17 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
I am so sorry for your loss
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 8:31 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Can
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
circe ( member #6687) posted at 8:39 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
I'm so, so sorry.
((((lonely))))
Everything I ever let go of has claw marks on it -- Infinite Jest
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 8:53 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
I am so sorry - what a horrible, tragedic thing.
There is no right way to grieve. Don't let anyone make you think you should or shouldn't be doing certain things at certain times. You do whatever you have to do and don't let anyone else determine it.
I am so glad you reached out to us. In the very remote chance that anyone here could figure out who you were....I am certain they would never 'out' ya. They are good beans here.
Again - sooo sorry!
knightsbff ( member #36853) posted at 9:43 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
I am so very sorry.
There are no words....
(((Lonely2009)))
fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
Brandon808 ( member #35619) posted at 9:58 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
(((lonely2009)))
So very sorry for your loss.
velveteer ( member #30997) posted at 10:00 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
(((lonely))) no words at all....you and yours are in my thoughts
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 10:12 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
There are times when there are simply no adequate words. I am so very sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Bobbi_sue ( member #10347) posted at 12:22 AM on Saturday, February 1st, 2014
I am so sorry. We lost DD when she was 24 too, over 7 years ago now. Reading your story, I cannot talk about it or write about it without crying and don't want to do that with my H sitting here, so I'll stop writing.
PM me any time.
hurting2much ( member #25643) posted at 12:43 AM on Saturday, February 1st, 2014
((((lonely)))). I am so very sorry to hear about your son. I too lost my son, he was 21, unexpectedly. When I heard the news, half of me immediately died too. It has been 1 1/2 years.
I am in counseling and attend a parents grief group. The grief group has been my lifeline.
PM me if you would like to. It is still so very raw for you. I am so very very sorry...no parent should ever have to go through this.
roseguide ( member #35697) posted at 12:52 AM on Saturday, February 1st, 2014
((((((lonely2009)))))))
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of the things not meant for you. – Buddhist saying
purplejacket4 ( member #34262) posted at 1:20 AM on Saturday, February 1st, 2014
Me: BS 50
Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 3:19 AM on Saturday, February 1st, 2014
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 7:44 AM on Saturday, February 1st, 2014
I'm so sorry for your loss. (((Lonely)))
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 12:16 PM on Saturday, February 1st, 2014
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 1:17 PM on Saturday, February 1st, 2014
I am so very sorry for your tremendous loss.
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