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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 9:47 PM on Thursday, February 27th, 2014
I'm so sorry. I had a similar experience (minus the blowout) when I was 23 - blew .08 a few DAYS after the limit was changed from .1 to .08. Not that that's an excuse but still. It straightened me out FAST. It's a long story but the charges ended up being dropped. I hope you have a similar experience, I'm sorry this happened and glad you're ok, a blowout and hitting the rail could have happened to anyone and it could have been so much worse. 
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 10:00 PM on Thursday, February 27th, 2014
Ugh Waiting is the hardest part. In anything!!!!
Please know that we got your back. Just like we had others backs, even if we know you made a mistake.
Deep Breaths, Like Grma said....This too shall pass, tomorrow is another day, and if aint we dont' need it. 
Grma was a wise wise German lady.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Sad in AZ (original poster member #24239) posted at 11:35 PM on Thursday, February 27th, 2014
Thank you again. I don't want to appear petulant. I'm very stressed. Even though nothing happened yesterday (which is actually great because I'll have an unencumbered license for another two weeks at least), I cried all the way back to work, then had to make it look like nothing was wrong. I haven't told anyone here yet, not even about the accident. I haven't even told my friends yet because I don't think I can do so without crying yet.
DS knows I called him first thing in the morning. He's loving and supportive as always. 
I called the X too he's retired LEO but really no help in that regard because he's been retired so long (legal limit was .15 when he was active duty.) However, he's still feeling guilty 
and has been promising me some money to help with the funds I gave DS & DDIL before I lost the job that I moved for. I could use it to pay the legal bill, and he's already made an initial deposit in my bank account. It was also another opportunity to talk about the QDRO.
My baby brother is coming here tomorrow completely unrelated. He has to get his department's radar guns calibrated at the State Police Academy, so we're going to meet and have lunch. Then I leave to meet my new grandson on Satuday morning. A week of new baby smell should buoy my spirits.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 4:16 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Everything is suspended in time when you're cuddling and snuggling a baby.
Breathe deep when you feel your body starting to stress. This event doesn't define you, please remember that.
More hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 4:27 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
The DA didn't show up. I have to go back in two weeks.
Why didn't your lawyer ask for an immediate dismissal? Sounds like it should have been a default judgment in your favor. You showed up, he didn't. Am I missing something?
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
Sad in AZ (original poster member #24239) posted at 9:27 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
It was just the arraignment, 5454.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 9:44 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
Sad,
Do you remember what you said to me when my mom was in an accident, totaled her car and got a OWI? It wasn't very nice but I do want to say this to you..
I am so HAPPY you are okay and I know what it is like to have a few drinks and drive home.
Please don't be scared. Everything will be okay. It was for my mom. She had to pay at least 5000.00 in fines, take a course or do a weekend in jail. She was restricted to drive for 6 months. She just got her lic. back and has to have SSR insurance.
Please know that it happens to ppl who are great people (which I think you are). I feel horrible for you but your lawyer should be able to go to court for you on most of this and you should only have to appear once. At least that is how it was for my mom.
I am here for you if you need anything and you are not alone. 
Enjoy that new baby. everything will be okay.
.
BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 10:07 PM on Friday, February 28th, 2014
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
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