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Mine was very simple. I went onto the FreindsReunited website where WH found her and joined her school in her name (she had removed herself after d-day) and on her profile I said that I was married but not that happily and was free to hook up with old boyfriends if they wanted to get in touch again…. Something along those lines. I left it up for several weeks and then took it down. I’ve no doubt that several people saw it, as it was pre-Facebook, it was a pretty popular website at the time.

There were, of course, many other revenge acts that I didn't carry out.....

Bigger, I guess I don't understand why you feel bad about sending that note. It exposed her actions to her loved ones, subtly I am guessing as you did not mention that you shared catching her in bed.

Did it need to be done? No, she would have had to explain one way or the other. But it put out the truth. The fact that the truth caused her friends and family pain.... not your problem really from my eyes. I can't see where it made you the villain in any way shape or form. And anyone who did feel that way just does not understand what you were going through.

[This message edited by Trdd at 6:36 AM, November 4th (Monday)]

I guess my revenge fantasy came true. He recently discovered he has a medical condition that prevents him from having penatrative sex.

I didn’t execute the revenge, his body did.

Some guilt exists about finding this hilarious, but not much.

sassylee, that’s really comforting to hear. I hope I get there too. Thank you for sharing. At the moment just the thought of her makes my blood boil.

Chicklette, your two fantasies are great!!

Could you send the box with UPS or DHL - they get signed deliveries.... maybe you could put a little camera in there so that you can see the unboxing, haha. I’m pretty sure it’s not legal so better just remain a fantasy but I’ll definitely add this to my revenge fantasy repertoire

Thank you Charlotte77! The idea of DHL or UPS is interesting but I live in England so not sure I could use them. And maybe it'd cost more? When I really don't want to give that skank anything more of mine. Plus, if it was signed for it'd presumably be just by whoever received the post at her work, so I still wouldn't know anything.

I was telling a friend about the shit in the post idea, and she said as it'd be too much money we ought to collect the fox shit from her garden as it absolutely stinks , and send that to the POSOW! I love that idea.

Karma is a tricky thing. Someone loaded up the karma bus with a nuclear bomb and detonated it in my situation, and the whirlwind of confusing feelings just got worse. When you see TOO much karma, and there is collateral damage, it really makes you think.

A few months after WW went NC with her last AP, AP's family was murdered. 2 cousins, aunt and uncle. It was presumably something drug-related but is still unsolved. WW and AP worked together, and AP's mom also worked in HR at the place... and I was in the middle of contacting them for various reasons. This threw everything into chaos.

Obviously I know he's not the victim--the murdered family were the true victims. But they weren't suffering anymore. AP and his mother were both suffering, and AP's mother was ALSO a victim since her brother was one of the homicide victims. How was I supposed to suck her into the mess as well? Is such a terrible situation "worth" the atrocious, cheating behavior he exhibited beforehand? Am I sick and twisted for feeling nothing but cold emptiness at the human suffering surrounding AP and all the innocent victims?

There are giant, existential questions that arise based on this kind of karma bus. I didn't like it at all, and still don't.

And despite it all, this is still what I want:

Anyone who says revenge is not worth it simply hasn't pulled the trigger. It most certainly can be.

I really did not think about revenge for my X or the AP. I simply warned him to keep his distance, which he did for the most part. Of course one day he was with his friends and had a dose of liquid courage. He said the wrong thing at the wrong time and received a straight right down the middle.

My children are *literally* the only thing keeping me from seeking him out and doing this, even almost 3 years later.

I think about this constantly. My husbands AP had the audacity to smirk at me one day when I passed her at a restaurant. This was before I knew of the affair and in hindsight was very telling.

I knew her through mutual friends and we were aquaintances.

I re-play that moment over and over in my mind and believe me, things end differently.

I have thought of many ways to embarrass her but, I am not going to jail for a whore!!

[This message edited by livingalie80 at 6:39 PM, November 19th (Tuesday)]

I got my revenge by puting the AP in a whealchair. And he attacked me first so I got away with it. He will remember me for the rest of his life.

I only wanted revenge on the XWW. And I got it.

I think it was about a year after kicking her out she called me crying and wanting to "come home".

I told her to come over and we would talk. She gave me her sob story about her AP: he was cruel, mean, he wouldn't feed her and he would abuse her emotionally and physically.

After her 20 minute shpiel about how he sucked and how she made a mistake, I said "So he's the exact same as me, right? Bc that's what you told all your friends about me...I was cruel and mean and starved you and I abused you. So yeahhhh, no thanks, I'm good being no one's backup plan. She exploded and I kicked her out. I then pulled out my VAR and called her AP and played the entire conversation for him. He kicked her out, but took her back after a few days.

I used to have fantasies of revenge in the beginning of our reconciliation. They were based on me switching roles with the AP and were all based on my insecurities. I would imagine that we had changed places and it was actually him who struggled sexually with his wife and wasn’t able to satisfy her. I would then have an affair with his ‘fictional’ wife and have all the success and do all the things with his wife that he had with mine.

I realize that this is petty and unhelpful. Furthermore, I would never ever either cheat on my wife or be involved with a married women. So for many reasons the revenge I craved didn’t make sense. I don’t fixate on this fantasy much, or at all anymore but I certainly still think often about the juxtaposition between their sexual relationship and ours. That’s never far from my mind.

I have enjoyed this post and reading about some of the karma that BS have delivered.

Been in R for 13 months, the A lasted 2 1/2 years on and off, he is a complete pos, and he is the son of a good friend of mine, well once good friend, I can no longer even tolerate to look at him because I see his kid. I still think of revenge every day, I still want to ruin his life like he did mine and my children. I still dream about beating the shit out of him and sometimes way worse, in my case he knew what he was doing, knew it was wrong, and did it anyway....

I’ve heard over and over this line “living a happy life is the best revenge”, ya well I call bullsh*t, I think just carrying on and getting over it, trying to live a happy life is zero revenge at all. Why should this type of trash be able to slide from one woman to the next, ruining marriages, braking down families, hurting kids, with no consequences whatsoever? What if life and karma and all that crap doesn’t ever come back to bite him in the ass? Sorry I don’t buy it, I think that “living a happy life is the best revenge” line is just a way to convince yourself to get over it and leave the past behind......it’s not revenge at all, it’s walking away sending the message “it’s ok you violated what was mine”, but that’s ok tho I’m fine with it, just go ahead and do it agin to someone else.

I honestly believe that revenge is the only thing that kept me sane. Call me whatever but I had to have it and have it I did. I know it may seem low rent to some that have taken the "high road". I got my revenge and it truly did make me somewhat feel better. It was by no means a cure but it was a comfort knowing that the AP was going to walk with a limp for a very long time. If we were a few hundred years prior to this century I probably would've went further than I did.

I don't think of the AP hardly ever but when I do I picture him lying in a hospital bed rotting away with the most awful cancer ever conjured up. I'm not consumed by it anymore and I feel that I would have been had I not gotten a chance to address him face to face.

I certainly don't recommend revenge because of the legal ramifications but there is something cathartic about it that I can't describe. I've always been this way about most everything. Maybe I'm just not as evolved as some.

It’s all I can think about some days. My WH lives in a different state then I do thanks to the military and circumstance. He has two OW. The first one was more of a one night stand. I think about messaging her baby daddy and letting him know she’s fine with leaving their toddler alone with a man she just met. I think about messaging her parents to let them know what a home wrecking whore they raised.

The other one I hate the most. She had a seven month affair with my husband. She knew he was married. Her husband had multiple affairs on her, she knew exam the devastation she was wrecking. I I have friends all over the world. Even though she’s in a different state, friends offered to lay hands on her. Not gonna lie, the thought makes me smile. All o could do was not be that person that day. Maybe tomorrow or next week or next month I’d be that person and take my friend up on their offer. That was before I knew she was screwing my husband, my friend made the offer today I’m not sure what my response would be. I have a draft saved to send to her current boyfriend. He doesn’t know about the nudes she was sending my WH since she moved in with him. I haven’t sent it yet.

There for a while I used to go to online look up colleges in her area and request information. I’d put in her phone number and click ok to text. I’m sure that did nothing but annoy her, but I’m a petty bitch.

I’ve gotten over Ow some time ago. It was a very long effort.

For some reason. I realized it was her anniversary. I never think of her. The date popped up for another reason.

I realized her and her new husband have now been together about 7 years. The new is worn off He no longer hangs on her every word. Probably tired of a lot of things.

This was painful to see in my marriage. Painful to accept. Now I know they are ripe for it. Now she gets to feel it.

I don’t wish infidelity on anyone. Except her. And those like her. Maybe she’s gonna get an awakening. That 7 year itch

And....at the time I had her fired. She lost her home. Unemployed 7 months. And had to move to another city. She lost 4 more jobs. I had some revenge.

[This message edited by cancuncrushed at 7:16 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)]