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btl1980 ( member #36490) posted at 3:25 AM on Saturday, August 18th, 2012
deathbybetrayal - those were the most empowering words i've read to date (and heaven knows i've read a lot!!).
i think i'll make it a habit to read that at least once daily. thanks so much!
Me: 47yo
Him: 53yo
Married 15; Together 18
"Mid Life Crisis Affair Jan 2011"
I found his hotel charges on the Visa bill. How very Soap Opera.
Two beautiful daughters = my life
mka0811 ( new member #36518) posted at 3:33 AM on Saturday, August 18th, 2012
Thank you for those words. . . It made me cry the whole way through.
Getting to Happy ( member #35200) posted at 3:57 PM on Saturday, August 18th, 2012
DBB~
Thanks so much for these very true words. I have to remind myself to read them from time to time, I get so low.
I think about the amount of lying and planning...thinking that she must have been really something for him to make this much effort.
But when their nasty trysts were found out, whoa! Whorestein was thrown WAAAAY under the bus. She lost her job, and a lot of work friends. Her parents and siblings are ashamed that she is a common whore, (I told them in person!) Some of her employers now know she will suck dick for a job...OUCH!
And he is in overdrive trying to make things right. We are getting better, 15 months out from DD.
So thanks from the bottom of my broken heart.
WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown
BEM817 ( member #35104) posted at 6:24 PM on Thursday, August 23rd, 2012
Bumped. Six months out and needed to read this again!!!
Married 16 years, together for 22
BS Me - 43
WS Husband - 45
Two Kids 8 & 9
DDay 3/15/12 8 month EA. PA for 5 of those months.
TheTooGoodWife ( member #35973) posted at 3:15 PM on Monday, August 27th, 2012
Bump love this 
Me-BW-46
WH-43
M-13 yrs together 15 yrs, 2 DS 11 & 8
D-Day 20 May '12 WH confessed, PA 4 months 06/2008-10/2008 cOW
His A says nothing about me but everything about him
s+++forbrains ( member #18128) posted at 5:44 PM on Sunday, September 2nd, 2012
I need to read this every so often to remind myself what it says! Thanks!
Icannotbehere ( new member #36610) posted at 5:53 PM on Sunday, September 2nd, 2012
I needed this last week when I read it for the first time.
Me: 26
DH: 28
DD: 8-17-2012
Together 12 years, married 4; 2 very young children 3 yrs and 4 weeks at time of DD.
Struggling immensely with the road to hopeful R.
www.mendingabrokenmarriage.blogspot.com
invictus ( member #21623) posted at 5:35 AM on Saturday, September 8th, 2012
Read this again and feel much better.
THANK you so much for sharing!
♥ BW m. 31 years - Divorced in 2009. It's still a month to month financial struggle, with higher income taxes as a single and no retirement parachute since I was a stay at home mom.
feeling bi polar ( member #31086) posted at 6:23 AM on Saturday, September 8th, 2012
Thanks I needed to read that today. My self esteen has taken a beating lately and it is not all A related.
In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life — It goes on. —Robert Frost
tinysteps ( member #36104) posted at 3:29 AM on Monday, September 24th, 2012
BS-Me (56
WH-Him (62)
M-20 years T-23 years
D'Day April 20, 2012
On the R Rollercoaster
8.2.19 back here again. Something tells me I need to be concerned.
11.6.20 back here again. Why don't I remember why I was concerned in?
What if
DeeA ( new member #34843) posted at 11:04 AM on Monday, September 24th, 2012
deeplyblue ( new member #36897) posted at 8:54 PM on Tuesday, September 25th, 2012
BS(me):37
WSH: 34
OW: 23
married for 2 1/2 yrs
together for 4 yrs
children : 2
DD 27/7/2012
Status: He wants R, I want S/D.
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 5:58 PM on Friday, September 28th, 2012
Bump
FindMyselfAgain ( member #36969) posted at 3:26 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
Thank you for this. In the case of my WH it most certainly rings true. Just need to remind myself when I'm stuck on what he thought was so great about her.
DDay: October 7, 2011
R finally started in earnest: April 2014
Current status: If he won't make changes, I must.
FenixRising ( new member #36790) posted at 6:56 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
Haha wow this is sooo true of my WH and the OW. She is trash and truthfully nowhere near as attractive as I am. WH has even said she is nothing special. Yet he can't give her up. They can just be trash together then.
Me: 31
Ws:32
Married 10yrs, together 15yrs
DD: 5/30/12
Daughter 9, son 3mos
Status: stuck in the same house, but I saw the lawyer and filing for D!
"Nothing is permanent in this wicked world...not even our troubles!" Charlie Chaplin
Diva0702 ( member #32309) posted at 11:44 PM on Sunday, September 30th, 2012
This post brings so much comfort to us all. In my case the O@W was indeed shorter, fatter, and definately uglier than I am. My FWH even said at the very beginning of my discovery that she was nowhere near as glamorous as me. Dumbass
Me: BW 53
Him: FWH 47
4 wonderful grown children
2 beautiful grandchildren
Married 20 years
Together 23 years
Dday March 10 2010. 4 yr A.
Me: RGN(ret), N.Dip.,BA(Psych),MA (Psych),BA Music.
OW: 55 year old taxi driver
sevensisterhood ( new member #36851) posted at 12:02 AM on Monday, October 1st, 2012
THANK YOU!! Wow did I need that today, after getting a nice helping of TT with "I fell in love with her over the summer, just before I told you..." "But I didn't really love her, I love you. " Umm...?
In the Costco Parking Lot! sheesh.
this is a great post, thanks so much.
Me-53, married 23 yrs, 25 yr relationship; PA at his HS reunion, year + of s/texting, phone, Facebook; CraigsLIst postings, Ashley Madison, OKCUpid account, Adult slut sites..... "I never used them!!".
evephoebe1 ( member #36923) posted at 2:40 AM on Tuesday, October 2nd, 2012
Yeah, my FWH had an affair with a woman 20 years my junior. I was prepared for a truly beautiful woman.
Instead, I was thrilled to discover a frumpy, obese woman sporting chia pet hair whilst wearing a tent dress for a shirt. She pushed a dinky cart of books around at the library.
It was also refreshing to discover that she doesn't look much younger than I do.
Me: Survivor! BS (47)
Him: WH (45)
2 awesome kids, 13 & 16
Brandon808 ( member #35619) posted at 4:34 PM on Saturday, October 6th, 2012
Noexcuse2012 ( new member #37087) posted at 12:12 AM on Wednesday, October 10th, 2012
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