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circlinggirl ( member #37035) posted at 12:20 AM on Wednesday, October 10th, 2012
You are amazing, DBB! Thank you so much for this. Obviously as this is a 36 page long thread, you have helped MANY with your inspiring words. I will be showing this to my WS, as well. You have articulated so beautifully what is not always obvious. THANK YOU!
Me- BS (27)
Him- WS (32) MajorTom
Dday July 23, 2012
PA during January 2012
In R.
"New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings." -- Lao Tzu
tinysteps ( member #36104) posted at 3:32 AM on Saturday, October 13th, 2012
Bump.
This ALWAYS makes me feel better
BS-Me (56
WH-Him (62)
M-20 years T-23 years
D'Day April 20, 2012
On the R Rollercoaster
8.2.19 back here again. Something tells me I need to be concerned.
11.6.20 back here again. Why don't I remember why I was concerned in?
What if
Lost33 ( member #36927) posted at 3:53 AM on Saturday, October 13th, 2012
This is the thread I remember seeing its so great
Wh 37 (sam793) Bs 33 me
Married 8 years. Daughter 2, due in April
Dd: July 10/12 ow called me (3.5 year ea and pa)
Ow-32-chose to not have custody of kids, divorced.drinks, drugs, goes from job to job! Had "in a relationship" with wh on fb
hurtandscared30 ( new member #37127) posted at 9:29 AM on Sunday, October 14th, 2012
Thank you...this made me feel a little bit better. I'll have to keep re-reading it as time goes by, when it might help more.
BS: Me 30
WS: Him 33
DD: 19 months old
DS: 6 months old
D-day 1: August 19th 2012
D-day 2: August 30th
D-day 3: September 5th
D-day 4: October 2nd
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 8:19 PM on Wednesday, October 24th, 2012
Bumped for notsaralee.
shattered123 ( member #27843) posted at 3:33 PM on Saturday, October 27th, 2012
DixieD ( member #33457) posted at 2:30 PM on Thursday, November 8th, 2012
itfeelsunreal ( member #35947) posted at 2:22 PM on Friday, November 9th, 2012
So close, I can taste it!
BS=me, fifty-something
Married 1985
Dday 3/20/12
Reconciling, oh ya!
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 5:08 PM on Friday, November 23rd, 2012
bump
Blameitontherain ( member #37476) posted at 6:09 PM on Friday, November 23rd, 2012
I never thought of it that way at all. You have given me a moment of peace and clarity. I hope that I can draw strength from this.
Thank you very much! I am so very glad I clicked on this thread.
Zebo1434 ( new member #37336) posted at 9:44 PM on Friday, November 23rd, 2012
Thank you, this was a read I really needed today. More then anything I miss the feeling of security, confidence and self worth.... And this helps. Even knowing the OW was a hag, and a very ughhh person, readibg it in this perspective is helpful.
Thank you.
BS Me -26
WH - 24
D Day 10/25/2012
brunette ( new member #32807) posted at 4:20 AM on Saturday, November 24th, 2012
Well said! The only thing that I could add to this is that She is the victum and he is the rescuer. Then the roles reverse and he is the victum and she is the rescurer and the whole ugly circle keeps perpetuating itself. Two sick people thinking that they have something special because they can talk to each other. What shit! While you are at home taking care of the house and kids and everything else so he can be with his soulmate pouring out his heart to the one that he thinks he loves.
jojo42 ( member #37583) posted at 7:24 PM on Saturday, November 24th, 2012
Thank you for bumping this- I loved it
Me: 30, BS
Him: 30, WH
Married: 1 year, together for 7 years
1st child due in Sept 2013
DDay: 09/02/12, 09/22/12 admitted to EA ,false R, then 06/02/13 found out about PA & EA with same woman (OW is a coworker)
Hoping for R
Tiseye ( new member #37597) posted at 12:26 AM on Sunday, November 25th, 2012
Thanks you... even though we're the ones "not doing something wrong" it still feels awful and I love your perspective.
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 8:51 PM on Wednesday, November 28th, 2012
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 11:06 AM on Saturday, December 22nd, 2012
notwarmorfuzzy ( new member #37868) posted at 3:36 PM on Saturday, December 22nd, 2012
WOW!!! This post is amazing! Inspiring! True words of strength, pride, wisdom & IMPOWERMENT! Truly amazing! Thank u!!!!!!!
👍👍👍👍🙏
Getting to Happy ( member #35200) posted at 4:23 PM on Saturday, December 22nd, 2012
I love this post. 
I read it early on and it really gave me strength.
Thanks DBB!
WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown
SadFlower ( member #37725) posted at 10:53 PM on Saturday, December 22nd, 2012
Deathbybetrayal, I just found your posting, and wow. Well said. I especially like, "She accepts the very worst parts of our husbands; the liar, the cheater, the deceiver, the broken man. His behavior is lower than low, but that’s okay with her. She’s accepts trashy behavior, because she is trash."
Me: BW, age 71
Him: WH, age 70
Married 24 years
In R.
D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 8:36 PM on Sunday, January 6th, 2013
a bump for a new year and new view
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