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Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 6:36 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
This Tuesday morning, April first. 8:45. Maybe she will sign at 8:44.
Don't become a smurf waiting for that to happen Abbandad.
Since everything is so close, any and all texts from her (unless it is child related) need to have nothing but crickets in response.
At this point, there is nothing to say or do. Even if you do give into any demand, there is just another right behind it waiting....so at this point there is nothing that you could agree too that would actually satisify her.
Wishing you luck....
[This message edited by Undefinabl3 at 12:37 PM, March 28th (Friday)]
Me: 35 MH
Him: 41 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
1/10/18 - Again?!? Online EA's
betrayedfriend ( member #19785) posted at 6:55 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
Good luck AD. Tell your attorney to go balls to the wall since she's so obnoxiously ridiculous.
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 7:32 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
^^^^^
I agree. Soon this will be over and soon you will be sitting in your Lazy Boy recliner, watching your kids play at your new home ... after you have deposited your checks from her.
Stay strong!
"Because I deserve better"
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 8:04 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
The Final (I hope) Inevitable Crazy has begun. In rapid succession, here are the last three emails from CSTBX's attorney to mine:
"She's looking over the agreement. I am trying my hardest to get her to sign but she keeps bringing up little things."
Ten minutes later:
"I threatened to withdraw if the msa is not signed by the end of the day. It's the best I can do . She doesn't recall entire conversations she's had with me, even emails."
Just now:
"I'm never representing this woman again . I'm beyond irate right now and I too have a lot of anxiety. I told her to sign the msa or I w / draw on Monday. I told her we are facing big sanctions."
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
Flowerforme ( new member #38497) posted at 8:33 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
She is bat-sh*t crazy. 
What happens if her lawyer withdraws?
Bgf-me
WWBf-ugh
DD Aug.1/2012 with an ex gf had been seeing her the entire time we were together..
Softcentre ( member #39166) posted at 8:43 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
Wow, she actually is crazy and compartmentalising anything that doesn't fit with what she wants her reality to be
Me: BW
Him: XWH
2 Children
Finally reached indifference & looking forward to my new beginning
Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 8:50 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
Abbondad...If this lawyer withdraws, will that mean that the court will continue the case until she get's a lawyer to represent her?
This is my only worry at this point and I wonder if she is actually pushing for this so that she can continue the case longer.
What sanctions is this lawyer talking about??
Me: 35 MH
Him: 41 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
1/10/18 - Again?!? Online EA's
betrayedfriend ( member #19785) posted at 9:14 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
Is it bad that I almost feel sorry for cstbxww's lawyer...only almost though...
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 9:49 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
Sorry, but
"I'm never representing this woman again . I'm beyond irate right now and I too have a lot of anxiety. I told her to sign the msa or I w / draw on Monday. I told her we are facing big sanctions."
You called it AD!!! Buh BYE lawyer number (3? 4?) 
Are there any lawyers left in your town, or have they all inexplicably gone on vacation to a land far far away.......
It WILL be over soon, then she'll just be X, and you'll be lounging on YOUR lazyboy with your kids watching the smartest tv in the world.
((((AD))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 9:56 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
Oh jeez....
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 9:58 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
The latest: She has refused to sign today "because she has the kids right now and can't talk, and she won't sign until her boyfriend reviews everything."
She and lawyer (#3) are supposed to confer tomorrow morning.
She ain't gonna sign; I don't care if Thurgood Marshall reviews it.
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
BtraydWife ( member #42581) posted at 10:20 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
"I threatened to withdraw if the msa is not signed by the end of the day. It's the best I can do . She doesn't recall entire conversations she's had with me, even emails."
"I'm never representing this woman again . I'm beyond irate right now and I too have a lot of anxiety. I told her to sign the msa or I w / draw on Monday. I told her we are facing big sanctions."
It's pretty awesome when a lawyer bitches about their client to the opposing lawyer.
If this lawyer withdraws, will that mean that the court will continue the case until she get's a lawyer to represent her
This is my only concern.
I could see how it would be possible for the case to get pushed back if her lawyer quits. However, I'm interested in knowing how long the court would give her to hire a new lawyer. She is burning bridges as a client. I wouldn't be surprised if nobody would represent her. And that would be awesome, except in how it might effect you and the case.
The level of crazy is too high for her lawyer. I bet she has several levels to go through yet though. 
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Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 10:25 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
Abbondad...If this lawyer withdraws, will that mean that the court will continue the case until she get's a lawyer to represent her?
Yes, this is my concern as well, and it is very likely. Plus my attorney still needs time to prep for court. She (my attorney) says that the judge (whom we have to see Tuesday morning regardless) will "lower the boom" on her when he sees that it is all her fault the case has not settled and that she is there to ask for a continuance. The continuance will be granted but the judge might scare her into signing.
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
Jduff ( member #41988) posted at 10:31 PM on Friday, March 28th, 2014
The latest: She has refused to sign today "because she has the kids right now and can't talk, and she won't sign until her boyfriend reviews everything."
You know, if her lawyer is this frustrated I wonder how the OM feels right now? 
The grass is always greener.... where the dogs are shitting.
-Soundgarden
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 12:52 AM on Saturday, March 29th, 2014
Stay strong dad! You're doing great keeping the crazy away.
It's going to be a tough weekend, she'll amp up the crazy over the weekend.
If I were you, I wouldn't answer her on anything but the kids. Nothing on the MSA-leave that to the professionals.
Sending strength for the next few days.
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 1:10 AM on Saturday, March 29th, 2014
I haven't posted to your thread for a long time, but I do read every day.
You are doing so well. I think of you every day and send you strength and healing vibes every day.
Hang in there. You're almost free.
(((((AD)))))
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
k8la ( member #38408) posted at 1:16 AM on Saturday, March 29th, 2014
Dad - can your attorney request a full blown psych eval?
My concern is she is so psycho that when she loses, and she will, she'll do something bad to herself and the kids to still maintain the upper hand she still perceives she has.
crisp ( member #34236) posted at 2:18 AM on Saturday, March 29th, 2014
WOW. Is that lawyer young/inexperienced? While I have had frank discussions with opposing counsel I know and trust, I have never put in writing to third parties negative impressions or adverse discussions I have had about/with clients. I hope someone takes that lawyer aside to educate him and steer him away from ethics problems.
It is OK to give updates on progress, or lack thereof, on a settlement agreement to opposing counsel. It is not OK for the lawyer to lay blame and criticize his client in that manner---even if it is fully justified.
Endeavor to persevere. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=csEzTwKemwY
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 2:28 AM on Saturday, March 29th, 2014
Crisp, would this be admissible? Specifically:
She doesn't recall entire conversations she's had with me, even emails."
It would be interesting at the very least. An e-mail sent directly to opposing counsel? Which could lead to:
can your attorney request a full blown psych eval?
How in the world could she be entrusted to properly medicate the children. There already have been concerns raised.
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DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
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D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
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― Sophocle
BtraydWife ( member #42581) posted at 2:34 AM on Saturday, March 29th, 2014
WOW. Is that lawyer young/inexperienced? While I have had frank discussions with opposing counsel I know and trust, I have never put in writing to third parties negative impressions or adverse discussions I have had about/with clients. I hope someone takes that lawyer aside to educate him and steer him away from ethics problems.
giggle giggle
She hired a "discount" law firm. This is lawyer #3. Her last lawyer (#2) had to place liens on her assets.
Dad should be sainted. This woman is beyond loco.
My concern is she is so psycho that when she loses, and she will, she'll do something bad to herself and the kids to still maintain the upper hand she still perceives she has.
Now you have me wondering. You hear those reports of people killing themselves and their kids in order to "win". The only thing that gives me comfort is that she sounds very NPD. They don't usually commit suicide from what I understand. Why should they? They are in the right and justified to do anything they want. Isn't that the mantra?
Still-maybe bringing it up to his lawyer isn't a bad idea. That's not the kind of thing you get a do over with. 
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