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Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 8:51 AM on Thursday, September 10th, 2020

Well after the discovery they always say I was used.

WGF seems heartbroken that he could do this to her and is now claiming she's been used.

Brother the relationship is over, sell the abode if you don’t want to bye her out. But move on.

One day at a time

Buffer

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longsadstory1952 ( member #29048) posted at 2:38 PM on Thursday, September 10th, 2020

If there is one certainty in this life, it is that cheaters use each other.

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 despairingUK (original poster new member #75326) posted at 12:29 PM on Friday, September 11th, 2020

Thank you all for the advice.

Not much of an update after the drama of last weekend.

Other than having no appetite and struggling to eat well I'm mostly OK. I'm spending a lot of time catching up with friends and family who are being really supportive.

I think I've settled into the 180 now and just give minimal answers to WGFs questions.

For now I'm just taking it day by day and not taking any big decisions.

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Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 1:26 PM on Friday, September 11th, 2020

The loss of appetite is nearly a universal experience.

Nutrition and hydration is very important for recovery. I don’t have anything scientific to back this up but I think our brains are in overdrive, consuming immense energy, keeping us awake and tensing up our bodies. We need to fuel our body simply to have the energy to get ourselves back under some form of control.

Consider these ideas:

Start the day with a large glass of water. Regularly rehydrate. No pissing -> not enough water.

Schedule times to eat. Set a timer on your phone and eat when it goes off irrespective of appetite.

If you don’t have an appetite then grab fruits, have a banana or apple or power bar ready. Just know beforehand that you re going to finish that snack.

Look into nutritional supplements, sport-shakes, protein-shakes…

Take time out to cook meals at home.

Try microwave or take-aways.

Healthy is better, but frankly I would be OK with you downing cheeseburgers and milkshakes. Main thing is to power up. Doesn’t even have to taste good – just get it down your throat.

Stay away from caffeinated drinks after late-afternoon, stay off booze.

Take time to have a long walk or start jogging. It’s so monotonous that eventually your brain sort-of turns off and surprisingly that’s maybe when you do your best logical thinking. Maybe because it turns off what’s been consuming you.

"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus

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pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 1:03 AM on Saturday, September 12th, 2020

Please eat and try to sleep. Some of us were losing handfuls of hair in the shower. This is serious and you must treat it like the trauma it is.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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