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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 4:34 PM on Wednesday, January 13th, 2021
If you still have to keep her in your phone and can't block her, change her name to something that reminds you of who you're dealing with.
Example? In the time I still had to communicate with mine, I changed his name in my phone to 'Idiot Cheating Fucking Arsehole' and I changed his picture to a photo of a dog turd. Then every time he texted or called, it reminded me exactly who I was getting done with. Seems silly, but it helped me mentally to shift gears from 'spouse' to 'getting divorced'.
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
DanielJK (original poster member #75654) posted at 7:36 PM on Wednesday, January 13th, 2021
Thank you EllieKMAS
I will change the name on my contacts. That may help...I just need a good name.
It's currently aaa before her name so her name comes up at the top of my contacts list. Definitely need to remove her from the top spot.
BH 51
STBXWW 53
2 daughters, 14 and 16
Filed for divorce 12/23/2020
After a year of hell I finally moved out (5/26/2021).
Divorce still pending.
Graphite ( member #76081) posted at 7:57 PM on Wednesday, January 13th, 2021
Funnily enough I had to make the same call recently and decided to call him 'Other', a detached non-inflammatory description of his now alien being.
It is hard to stop saying 'us' and 'our' house but I will get there.
You mentioned your WS having lovely green eyes in one of ypur recent posts and that struck a chord, my WS has or had lovely blue green eyes. But if eyes are windows to the soul they don't seem so pretty any more.
I made a simple list of reasons I could no longer love him, like he did not think twice about hurting me, he lied all throughout therapy, he is like a ridiculous teenager abdicating all responsibilities. Quite helpful at times.
blahblahblahe ( member #62231) posted at 7:59 PM on Wednesday, January 13th, 2021
I used to reference mine originally as Wackjob, and then later on as Error.
BobPar ( member #62993) posted at 8:30 PM on Wednesday, January 13th, 2021
I'm sorry you are here and going through this Daniel. There has been a lot of good advice. IC, post here, friends, journal (keep it safe), exercise, make sure your are sleeping. It's a tough long emotional road. It will be OK and it will eventually be better.
DDay 1 (AP1) and 2 (AP2) 2015 DDay 3 (AP 3) and 4 (AP4) 2016There was some overlap with 3 and 4)False R 2016Suspect more from exWW
DanielJK (original poster member #75654) posted at 9:03 PM on Wednesday, January 13th, 2021
Just great.
We started the mediation process in mid summer 2020 and had to do all the data collection.
I just got the request for documents from the attorney. Back to printing out pay stubs, bank accounts, insurance, etc.
God, here we fucking go again.
I hope he was worth it.
I just want to wake up from this fucking nightmare.
FUCK!
BH 51
STBXWW 53
2 daughters, 14 and 16
Filed for divorce 12/23/2020
After a year of hell I finally moved out (5/26/2021).
Divorce still pending.
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