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"bakes my noodle"

snork

I've never heard THAT one before.

k9

Yes, it's a good one. I think I picked up the expression from The Matrix movies.

http://ell.stackexchange.com/questions/18933/meaning-of-this-what-question

Incredible... How have you been feeling otherwise? I think threads can have up to 50 pages, so you'll need to start a new one in any case. Post a link here so we'll know where to stalk you, hehe :)

I'm actually feeling pretty good. Naturally, I hurt. But I'm in a good mood. I'm working on myself, finding my own happiness and improving my health.

My reintegration with family and friends has been helping tremendously.

I know it's pop music trash, but I've made the song "Try" by Pink my anthem. It's gotten about a hundred plays this week.

"Where there is desire there is gonna be a flame. Where there is a flame someone's bound to get burned. Just because it burns doesn't mean you're gonna die. You gotta get up and try..."

so we'll know where to stalk you, hehe

Errrr FOLLOW! SI calls it *Following*

Glad to hear you seem to have gotten your ducks in a row and aren't looking back. Seems as though this is the right path for you. Bravo for figuring it out in record time!

[This message edited by Lucky2HaveMe at 2:55 PM, May 28th (Thursday)]

You are all welcome to follow - or stalk - me in the new thread. I'll probably create it today.

Thanks again for all the wise words and support. I'd have gone crazy and would have never found my legs without all of you.

We are here, see you on the next thread if there is one.

Oh! I've also created a handy little tool to help me visualize good decision making.

Hung this up in my office today:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B5SVLpp_F5oNZy1TdV9DRWc3c2c/view?usp=sharing

For those who don't want to click - here's his sign

Love your sense of humor. You WILL survive! I think you're going to find a wonderful woman in the future.

Like the sign.

Light hearted self-deprecation at its best.

How can we NOT follow you?!?!!

My WH served communion in our money-denominational church, even though we're sort of in R I plainly told him if he volunteers for communion duty I'd knock it right out of his hands during service!

Ugh the craziness of it all!

Crazy, right? How on earth can anyone step into a church knowing they are committing adultery? I'd be afraid to even drive by it.

Tonight was difficult. I snuck into the DS' Spring Band Concert. Sat in the back, isolated, and just listened and then left.

They played so well. It's the last performance of his high school career.

I was very proud of him tonight.

Just know that as the drama dies down, so do the number of posts. Sometimes that's a letdown in itself! (There's a lot of validation in pages of posts per day!)

But we'll still be here cheering you on when you need up.....

I was very proud of him tonight.

Did you tell him? He may not admit it, but I bet it will mean a lot to him that you were there.

Yes. I didn't approach him, but I did text message him to tell him he looked great and the performance was awesome. I told him I'm proud of him and I love him.

UnlovedAndBroked,

Soon you will learn to avoid all the drama and walk away. Nothing good will come of accepting her "Friend" request on FB. She is not your friend. It's her way and drawing you back into her drama. She needs drama like you need oxygen. I pray you will learn to do the 180 to fidelity and to be happy. There is a wonderful faithful woman out there waiting for you. You just have to close the door on the STBXWW and stop giving in to her "requests" and her drama. It will only continue to upset you brother. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.

You are doing awesome.

She is not your friend.

I agree.

I encountered her at the band performance last night. I sat on the opposite side from where we usually sit, in a back corner. She had the same thought, of course.

As I walked out, she caught up with me and started to talk about packing the apartment up and getting ready to move out in August. I just kept walking, didn't talk.

Finally, as I got near my car, she said, "The way you look at me is so weird. It's like you're looking at a stranger. I don't know what to do with that."

I replied, "I am looking at a stranger. I don't know you at all."

I left it at that and got in my car.

Not resetting my counter. I didn't get drawn into any real contact and I figured my response to her made me the winner.

This idiot has gone 2 days since breaking no-contact.

You handled things with your son and "the Stranger" great! Hats off, m'lord!