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And, I am also free to post where I choose to, LtCdrLost. I am free to share my opinion on any threads in any forum I am allowed to post in.

I believe you can become a paid member and upgrade to be able to block me if you so choose. Some people do enjoy echo chambers.

FTR, this is my thread, SMS. "Red pill" values and actions are encouraged and welcomed here. Feel free to scroll past if that makes you uncomfortable.

Well now we have a party, pass the popcorn!

I'll take Misogyny for $200 Alex

...your wife is at least 40 years old, by my calculation and you're about the same age.

I'm 35 and she's 34.

And there are no promises that by the end of this, you will find another women as special as you said your stbxw was, until she made her fateful mistake.

HMH, there are no promises in life. As to whether I'll find another woman, my bet is that I will, and characterizing my stbxw's adultery over a six month period as a "mistake" is as asinine as the indignant reference to "Red Pillism" by SMS. The woman made hundreds of willful decisions to live the life of a cheating adulterous whore. That series of actions effectively negates the years she lived as my faithful wife. If in fact she ever was, and if this was her first rodeo. The expeditionary life I live afforded her countless opportunities to cheat, only the quick thinking of another officer's wife in getting a photo of her on a date with her fuckbuddy got her caught this time.

[This message edited by LtCdrLost at 12:33 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)]

I'll take Misogyny for $200 Alex

Take it as the Daily Double if you want. I've had just about enough comments from those who apparently think I should wallow in misery because my wife is a cheating, unfaithful female. There are right now at least a dozen betrayed husbands on the first two pages of JFO who are doing that very thing. Go comment there if you like. That I am not one is just me being who I am. Authenticity, Ma'am... look up the definition. You can also scroll past this thread if my posture makes you uncomfortable.

[This message edited by LtCdrLost at 9:03 PM, May 27th (Sunday)]

I am also free to post where I choose to, LtCdrLost. I am free to share my opinion on any threads in any forum I am allowed to post in.

Well, good for you. That's so very special. I and others like me are equally free to ignore your agenda and your nonsense.

[This message edited by LtCdrLost at 9:02 PM, May 27th (Sunday)]

Pointing out a male BS posters insensitive insult to a female BS has nothing to do with you, LCL, and I don't know why you are losing your shit over some being offended by the insult to a fellow member who's only crime was to try to help you. Sheesh! I expected better of you.

We ask our service men and women to put themselves in harms way every day. The least they can expect of us is devotion and fidelity.

I thank you for your service and I am sorry your posts have been hijacked. I assume you came here out of desperation and with time, support and intestinal fortitude you have found some peace of mind.

Stay safe.

you are losing your shit over some being offended by the insult to a fellow member who's only crime was to try to help you.

We're 10,000 miles from me "losing my shit", SMS.

There are no crimes here... I understand many take a long time making progress after discovering a spouse committing infidelity. I'm well along my path to putting her behind me. NC is holding fast, the house is being sold, in a few months I'm transferring across the country, and I'm feeling like putting myself back out there, seeking female companionship. Life is just to short to wallow in misery. I can't change what she did, I can't turn back the clock, and I cannot accept what she did by staying with her.

[This message edited by LtCdrLost at 9:17 PM, May 27th (Sunday)]

Totally support you and your path LCL.

Don't support members who insult, unprovoked, a fellow member in a particularly misogynistic way.

I wouldn't have made that comment myself, even if it seemed true. Reading many BH threads in JFO, I'd say too many males can't find what it takes to move on either because they seem to believe they can never "do as good" not to mention better. We can always "do better" than a cheating spouse, whether you're a BW or a BH. Personally, one huge positive effect of this for me is I intend to find a woman and have the family one day which I always wanted. That's a big "doing better" in my book.

[This message edited by LtCdrLost at 9:24 AM, May 28th (Monday)]

T/j

misogynist

Not seeing anything posted resembling that, JMHO. Me thinks someone is too sensitive.

End t/j

Damn, I don’t think I want to be on the same continent if LCL loses his shit.

LCL ThankYou for your service and sacrifice, America needs Warriors such as yourself.

Glad you were able to get back to your old digs and a great ceremony, especially like the part where the blonde-one spoke of the football game. It must be a special time to serve, being a badass working fo a badass, I got the apologies tour to round out my career.

Methinks someone has reading comprehension issues. IMO

My nephew was one of those 1,100 graduates.

I agree with DeWittle.

Why are we turning this thread into a sexism battle ?

And BTW I found French's post to be supportive of the OP. What is wrong with that ?

Lt.C said:

"We can always "do better" than a cheating spouse."

Truth always carry the day.

MidnightRun so true

"We can always do better than a cheating spouse"

...in a few months I'm transferring across the country...

I'll bake cookies!

turning this ship back onto course....

Many have commented how LCL was strong in his actions and able to implement them. And there definitely is a theme of "I wish I had done that the first time instead of trying to reconcile". (from others, not LCL)

LCL, I admire the strength of your convictions. I think what may have made it easier is the distance. You weren't faced with her bold faced lies in front of you. You were able to be separated - physically - while you had a PI investigate and prepare a dossier for you. By the time you returned, your mind had the time to process the end of your marriage and go through the mourning process.

Sometimes, when you are in the thick of it, you just can't see the forest for the trees. (can you tell I like cliches?). When you are sharing the same bed, planning for the kids' sports events, taking care of grandparents, the betrayal almost seems harder to believe.

I'm not trying to minimize the pain that you've been through, but your distance allowed you the clarity to determine your action without the distraction of the spouse in your daily life. Sometimes we all wish for a break to allow us to think and get clarify.

I wish you the best of luck. It won't always be smooth sailing from here - you will still have pain and triggers moving forward. However, I think your planned path is good one. There will be storms and detours along the way, but be the one to sail into the sunset.

(I kinda had fun with the metaphors!)

For the menz that don't see the misogyny, it is because that is how you feel also.

If a womenz had posted something sexist about menz, (like that post was) you all would be whining about that.

french123 is the one that added the sexism. I, for one, do not allow sexism in my presence without it being pointed out and calling it what it is, I don't care where the fuck it is!

LCL:

Thank you for your service. I admire how you handled your situation. You acted with decisiveness, excellent planning and discipline and you were kind to your in laws. We would expect nothing less from an Officer and a Gentleman.

You did what was exactly right for you. I have no problem with your condescending comments about those of us who have followed a different path and reconciled. You are entitled to your opinion just as everyone else here, and your opinion is certainly shared by some others. I never take these comments personally. Each of us has to do what is right for ourselves. We are here to help each other through the shitstorm of infidelity. I have been joyously reconciled with my W for decades and it was exactly the right decision for me. I wish you all the best moving forward.

In a slight t/j:

HMH, a betrayed spouse, posted her thoughts and support for your situation. Anyone who has followed her journey knows that she has travelled thru hell and back with her WH and has come out stronger. She is in R with her WH. For anyone to attack her as a BS and say that she only reason she R’d is because she could never find any one better is terrible.

Good luck, and strength moving forward.