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Not infidelity related but was just sitting here and could see my husband scrolling through instagram. Nothing alarming but noticed a lot of posts of women (he also follows a lot of health/wellness, diet stuff that we share) and it made me think/question…
I’ve been on a bit of a weight loss journey. He feels I don’t need to lose anything, loves how I look however I feel the need to be in better shape.
When I see these posts, it makes me wonder how seeing your husband look at these "perfect" bodies impacts our view of ourselves. I’m by no means big, but makes me wonder how he can "love" my love handles and see me one way but look at those seemingly perfect bodies and not wish that’s what he had…
Think infidelity makes me really question it maybe more! Or it’s simply a natural feeling but almost makes me feel more insecure about how I look :(

If someone looks at someone else that is a red flag.

Is he watching guys fit and scrolling through those or is women?

I think you got the answer already.

Besides that, you want to improve yourself and your body, that is healthy, for yourself.

Do not do it for external validation, you need to do it for your own mental and physical health. It is for you, if others likes it better is a side effect, the important is that you feel good with your body.

Nothing else matters

By the way be very wary of social media. They exist for one reason only (and is not marketing). If the topic is a showreel of people and not random subjects... is sex, validation and "checking out". Finalizing it or not, that's the drill.

[This message edited by BackfromtheStorm at 11:57 PM, Friday, February 27th]

His behavior is disrespectful to you, to say the least.

I would not accept it but I understand there is very little you can do about it. You can ask him not to but if you aren’t around, most likely he will still do it.

Because honestly he just doesn’t get it.