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Understanding the 180

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:50 PM on Wednesday, October 5th, 2016

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fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:11 AM on Friday, October 14th, 2016

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:23 AM on Tuesday, October 25th, 2016

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 2:55 AM on Thursday, December 1st, 2016

bumping. The 180 saved my life. MY life.

FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

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Loukas ( member #47354) posted at 1:15 AM on Thursday, December 29th, 2016

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Loukas ( member #47354) posted at 6:47 AM on Friday, December 30th, 2016

Bump again.

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Trippd ( member #56128) posted at 3:12 AM on Saturday, December 31st, 2016

Bumping

Me: BS; Him:XWF (jerkwad); DS: 4yo
Together 7 years; current in home separation.
Dday: 11/21/16; 3 yrs of cyber & phys hookups

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Loukas ( member #47354) posted at 8:29 PM on Tuesday, January 3rd, 2017

Back up top

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heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 7:31 AM on Friday, February 10th, 2017

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FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:43 PM on Saturday, February 18th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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UKgirl ( member #17062) posted at 1:13 PM on Friday, February 24th, 2017

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Affair1: Dday 30/07/06 LTA: 5yrs ex-fiancee Affair2: Dday 04/09/20 9mths another XHSgf.Me/BS, still young. Him/WS, old. 4 grown boysHaving an affair because you are unhappy is like eating Ex-lax because you are hungry - unfound's mom

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MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 10:07 AM on Monday, February 27th, 2017

The 180 is so hard, but is a lifesaver.

Bumping for those of us who need to remember that the 180 is to help us grow stronger.

Hugs to all.

MOB

Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.

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Pink86 ( new member #57649) posted at 7:41 AM on Wednesday, March 1st, 2017

I understand this concept makes sense. But if you live with your spouse does this mean you can still have physical contact. Example (hugs, kisses, sex) or when doing this I should avoid my spouse ?

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MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 9:21 AM on Wednesday, March 1st, 2017

Hello, Welcome to SI Pink.

Here is a link to SerJr's simplified version of the 180.

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/text.forums.asp?tid598080

Perhaps you would like to start a thread and tell your own story?

It would help you to receive the support and advice that you need.

Have you read around the Healing Library? (Top left hand corner,

Yellow Box)

Strength to you.

MOB

Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:16 PM on Friday, March 24th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:27 PM on Monday, April 3rd, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:53 PM on Tuesday, May 2nd, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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janewilliams ( new member #58546) posted at 1:44 PM on Tuesday, May 2nd, 2017

No soliciting.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 8:00 AM, May 2nd (Tuesday)]

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minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:04 PM on Thursday, May 25th, 2017

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"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou

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Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 6:41 PM on Saturday, May 27th, 2017

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fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!

You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~

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