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Loukas ( member #47354) posted at 2:33 PM on Monday, November 2nd, 2015
Thrownover ( member #50148) posted at 8:59 PM on Monday, November 2nd, 2015
Does the 180 mean I ignore the possibility of no contact being broken and stop checking
theDrifter ( member #48361) posted at 9:53 PM on Monday, November 2nd, 2015
Yes. It means you are now focusing on your own recovery from WS infidelity. You stop checking on and worrying about the cheater. Your own well-being is now more important than your marriage. Focusing on your healing is how you become strong enough to take care of your kids and/or the rest of your family. You begin the process of detachment from your WS.
ME 70 BH
Her 69 WW
We remain unhappily married.
Thrownover ( member #50148) posted at 3:02 AM on Tuesday, November 3rd, 2015
I have found that I sometimes can't be in the same room as him so I go to bed early , I really hate when he is on his computer, I dont think he notices when I'm not there I feel like I being punished trying to 180.
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 10:08 AM on Saturday, November 7th, 2015
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
Cougins ( member #50196) posted at 5:02 PM on Saturday, November 7th, 2015
Is separating considered part of the 180?
We're 30 days out from DDay, I'm just not seeing any indication of genuine remorse and receive push back at every turn on questions (she HAS shown two email accounts but won't give password information and has started to provide some info on places they've gone (during MC) - but the "progress" is really coming at a price. She claims NC and I haven't found anything to indicate otherwise. We're in MC but her contempt and anger toward me (for asking questions) is building.
I don't see any way around separation at this point for my own well being.
Me: BH - 53
Her: WW - 44
Attended Retrouvaille and attempting R - trying to figure out if R is real. Update-it's not. Separated!
DDay #1: February 2013 – EA
DDay #2: 10/9/15 – PA
DDay #3 and #4: 11/12/15 - 2 PA’s in 2014.
Cougins ( member #50196) posted at 12:12 AM on Sunday, November 8th, 2015
Moving this to a separate topic. Hope that is ok.
Me: BH - 53
Her: WW - 44
Attended Retrouvaille and attempting R - trying to figure out if R is real. Update-it's not. Separated!
DDay #1: February 2013 – EA
DDay #2: 10/9/15 – PA
DDay #3 and #4: 11/12/15 - 2 PA’s in 2014.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 11:55 PM on Monday, November 23rd, 2015
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:48 PM on Saturday, December 5th, 2015
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 10:37 PM on Thursday, December 10th, 2015
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:36 AM on Saturday, December 12th, 2015
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
Loukas ( member #47354) posted at 7:02 AM on Wednesday, December 23rd, 2015
devotedman ( member #45441) posted at 4:41 PM on Friday, December 25th, 2015
Me: 2xBS b 1962 xWW after 2 decades, xWGF after almost 1.
Amelia Pond: Who are you?
The Doctor: I don't know yet. I'm still cooking.
ENFP-A. Huh.
PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 3:26 AM on Tuesday, January 5th, 2016
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:11 AM on Tuesday, January 19th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 11:26 PM on Tuesday, January 26th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 1:59 AM on Wednesday, February 3rd, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 3:26 AM on Friday, February 5th, 2016
i edit frequently because i have to
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 8:48 PM on Wednesday, February 17th, 2016
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
MadOldBat ( member #44146) posted at 5:46 PM on Saturday, March 19th, 2016
Keeping my chin(s) up whilst getting divorced.
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