I have been giving this subject some thought, and as far as I'm concerened, OW married xWs much too quickly and she was his last and only option.
OW was married twice before. Each marriage lasted 7 years and each marriage including her SO before xWS, all ended with a domestic on the guy and him getting arrested and going to jail/probation.
Her mother was also against her quickie marriage, and this will be another "I told you so" in the end.
xWS cannot face his failures and will turn away from her when the going gets bad. So much for the firefighter hero, eh?
He is totally unable to deal with the problems he has made. The only thing he knows HOW to do is to fuck women over whom he perceives has hurt him and trash her when he is displeased with her.
He is only conerned with HIS FEELINGS and OW is his narcisstic supply right now... but one day OW will figure that all out for her own dumb self.
OW has admitted he is SELFISH and SELFISH ASSHOLES like xWS are only looking out for #1.
Her narcisstic supply can and most likely will run out and he will go looking for another pool to reflect the hero he sees himself as.
Let him use her. She needs to learn this lesson the hard way. She can smell his stinky farts all night long, scrape his boogers off the wall, and pick up his jagged toenails he is too lazy to trim. Let her wash his shit stained underwear and sit back and watch as he buys himself things he wont buy for her, because once she has the ring, that will be pretty much all she will get from him. He is not a jewelry or flower buying type of guy.
She will have to buy her own shit for herself if she wants it. If any of her big hopes and plans intereferes with work or the fire department, or his hobbieds, she's going to be shit out of luck.
She's already had to cut back on her frequent visits to the bar, but that monster inside her will rear it's ugly hear too, and he wont like that. Shes got a beer to suck on everyday and that is going to get old. OW the Saggistarius isnt going to be content sitting at home drinking alone.
Yep! Now that the ring is on her finger, the party is pretty much over. He wont want to go out and hang out with "friends" unless its his friends, or alone with 'the boys' because he doesnt like bringing the wife out when its boy time.
The wife is a posession and the wife sits at home while he goes out to do his thing.
He doesnt like to ride other people on the back of his Harley. He likes to go solo.
He also flirts with women to get them to do things for him and charms (or demands) that everyone gives him what he wants. He has his mother and his step mother to do for the kids on his visitation night. He was flirting with the female desk clerk at the hotel he brought the kids to, and the female cashier at the gas station. He's got yet another female giving him vouchers for Marriott Hotels.
OW was just a tool to punish me with for dumping him ( he would have gone on 'til the end of time sponging off me and dallying with OW if I let him, but and when that tool OW gets old and rusty, he is going to go look for a new tool to replace her with. Just like Snap On, if it breaks, get a new one.
